#shayalations

it’s so simple. we see this phrase used all the time in shifting that we almost ignore it. it’s common.

but in reality, this affirmation is the perfect one to use when you’re manifesting shifting. even more perfect than saying, “i have shifted,” or “i shift every night,” or “i shift every time i try.” to me, affirming that you’re a master shifter affirms each of these qualities in one statement. but without making it outcome based. it stays centered on your identity, which is important.

let me explain.

when you affirm you’ve already shifted or give yourself a timeline such as “every night/day/time you intend to,” you almost force yourself to look to the 3d for proof. for evidence. when it doesn’t come, you may find yourself spiraling or wondering “what do i do next?” but when you simply proclaim that you’re a master shifter, you take away the wait time. you take away the need for proof because you aren’t contrasting it against a timeline.

when you claim you’re a master shifter but don’t have a successful shift attempt, you have the option to reassure yourself internally instead of getting caught up in the spiral. it’s like a little detour for your brain. you can tell yourself, “i’m a master shifter because i say i am, not because the 3d tells me i am.”

why you switch drs right when you’re about to shift…

if you’re someone who has multiple drs and finds yourself constantly flipping and floating between them, never staying focused on one for an extended period of time, and call yourself “lazy” “bored” or “inconsistent” because of it, listen tf up!

i’ve found that many shifters have a specific kind of resistance to messing up. they’ll experience great progress, building their confidence more and more until they have a “breakthrough” of sorts—maybe a shift, maybe a close attempt but then, just as suddenly, poof! they’re onto a new reality! a new fixation. if that sounds like something you do, my theory is that close attempts scare you because you start holding onto the outcome more after you’ve noticed something you’ve done has worked.

and going beyond that, you’re afraid the progress you’ve made still won’t be enough to “shift you fully”.

sometimes, underneath that need to switch drs exists a persistent fear of never fully getting to a single one. it’s a fear that you may push away or not address because you enjoy the variety of options but it’s equally one that just gets bigger with time because instead of sitting in that discomfort when it comes up, your mind redirects you sneakily.

switching to a new dr is basically an escape from facing that uncomfortable vulnerability because if you keep switching before you ever “make it” you never have to face the possibility of “never” making it at all. you can easily say “well, i’ve only been focused on this dr for a couple days so it’s fine that i haven’t shifted,” and never address the reason behind the switch.

but the reason behind the switch is important. when you get close to shifting, ask yourself if you apply a subtle pressure to the next attempt you have planned? do you secretly believe that your progress has to be linear otherwise you’re right back at square one? is it possible that you switch drs so that you never have to face having the close call not turn into a successful shift shortly after? is it possible that new dr = new square?

these are all questions you should ask yourself to know if you truly resonate with this post because the next part of this is going to give you tips on what i believe you should do when this trigger to switch realities comes up. and no, i’m not telling you to just “persist” and ignore the urge without any further explanation.

first, don’t analyze the attempt to death. right after a close attempt, don’t allow your brain to indulge in all you did wrong or all you did right. all you’re doing in that moment is creating pressure around results.

shifting isn’t a chore so it shouldn’t be examined like one. acknowledge that you did a damn good job and feel the joy from that.

next, you’re going to normalize it immediately. you having a close attempt isn’t rare, it isn’t huge, it isn’t monumental. this ties into law of assumption work. if you’re someone who believes you are worthy of shifting, that your dr is not above you, and that you’re the master shifter you desire yourself to be, act like it’s something that can happen again, because it is. remember, that the more you pedestal that reality, the more you’ll have to “work” to reach it. if you act like getting close to fully shifting there is something that’s out of the ordinary for you, you’ll only make the reality seem large and daunting and serious in comparison. hence, the urge to switch realities for a “fresh start”.

third—and this is directly in tow to the second tip—release the pressure off that dr. your urge to switch drs is coming from the fact that it matters too much to you now whether you “succeed” or “fail”. so in order to remedy that, reassure yourself that you don’t have to get there the very next time. it’ll happen when it happens! i want you to keep that playful and curious energy within your attempts. you don’t need to “lock in” more directly after some success. reconnect with the dr in a casual way. intensity will breed more pressure when you’re the kind of person who avoids serious things. your dr isn’t serious. it’s just home.

and if you still find yourself wanting to switch drs after all that, sit with the urge you feel and question why. make sure it’s not stemming from a place of avoidance, pressure or fear of failure. if you feel scared that you won’t be able to replicate that most recent attempt, free yourself from the need to do just that. purposely disregard attempting and pour your focus into connecting to the dr in a non-method coded way. listen to music, watch media related to it, go on pinterest, write stories!

stick with the reality, but don’t go out of your way to attempt to shift unless you’re positive you’re capable of keeping it light and curious.

and instead of trying to trap yourself to this one reality because you haven’t shifted there yet, allow yourself to commit to it because you simply want to see it through and still hold excitement for the place. remember that you never have to stick to any dr. when you feel like you have to, your brain is more inclined to rebel and quit.

all of these tips should help you to make that reality and shifting feel safe, which is all i really am trying to promote here. shifting is not high stakes. it’s not life or death. don’t resist the shift by putting unnecessary pressure onto it. your dr is home. home should not feel heavy.

happy shifting,

i am currently experiencing this overhaul of a perspective shift right now courtesy of the shifter who goes by @shiftwith_alex on tiktok and my spirit guides so, as always, i’d like to offer you guys who have trouble “letting go” a new outlook…

perhaps it’s not that you need to “let go” of everything in the moment. perhaps that is too much pressure for you. so instead, pivot to believing that you can remain in control and aware without choking the outcome. you are capable of balance. of control and flow. of being aware and immersed.

if you’re a person who over monitors your experience, know that you can overcome that. know that it’s only because you think you need confirmation the experience is occurring but you don’t need to pre-validate the experience before its truly begun. you don’t need certainty to be successful. practice simply experiencing your dr without the need to commentate on if it’s working or not.

refer back to my post on “almost, but not quite” and understand that if you trusted that shifting would happen regardless, you wouldn’t need to monitor it. once you trust yourself, you will realize that you don’t need more discipline in your journey. or more effort. or to completely ditch a mindset you’ve always had. when you feel safe, there is no need to fix anything about yourself because you know that, regardless, you are good.

IF YOU’RE NOT WILLING TO LOCK IN WITH SHIFTING FOREVER YOU WILL NEVER FREE YOURSELF FROM NEEDING THE 3D TO VALIDATE YOUR TRUST

i repeat.

IF YOU’RE NOT WILLING TO LOCK IN WITH SHIFTING FOREVER—IE UNDERSTAND THAT SHIFTING MIGHT JUST TAKE YOU A LIFETIME—YOU WILL NEVER FREE YOURSELF FROM NEEDING THE 3D TO VALIDATE YOUR TRUST

i know it fucking sucks to hear that shifting has no timeline. i know it sucks to be years in and not feel any closer. i know it sucks to feel like you’ve wasted your energy on something that may never come. but i can’t give you the assurance that you only have to persist for __ much longer until it’s “your turn”. i can’t. if you wanna shift, you have to lock in WITHOUT the assurance of how much time it will take. you have to trust yourself before the shift comes. and if you cannot do that, if you cannot help but turn against yourself and be self critical and self punishing, shifting is going to be detrimental to your mental well being.

everyone can shift, and shifting is inevitable but it doesn’t mean that everyone should label themselves a shifter. being a shifter comes with a toll. you get berated, by others and sometimes yourself. you experience the full scope of emotions for things you cannot prove. you go to awesome places, but sometimes there are terrible things in those places. you develop and evolve quicker than others because you can almost speed-run through life’s many obstacles and lessons. you will lose yourself only to gain 10 more of you. time stops being real. life here gets duller, less colorful, almost like a buffer for life there. you’ll experience more in one night than some people experience in 20 years. and all of this will exist only within your head.

but i’m sharing this because i have some tips that i’ve gathered over the last 3 months that have helped me get to this point. i’m nowhere near perfect at using intention nor do i shift every time i try BUT i do ALWAYS get some form of success when doing these things…

1. setting intention when i’m emotionally aligned.

i noticed that setting my intention when i felt pent up frustration didn’t feel effective. when i simply sat with my emotions for 30 seconds or so and then breathed them out to set my intention is when i saw the most progress.

2. don’t dismiss dr related dreams.

i told y’all already that i’ve been having SO many dreams related to my dr. and they’ve continued for weeks now. but i stopped seeing dr dreams as failures just because they weren’t shifts and started seeing them as a bridge. a sign. a gateway that i was already connected to my dr. as i continued to have them, i grew more curious and interested. i adopted the mindset of “okay i’m going to connect to my dr either way so show me more of it” and soon, my subconscious began to recognize what i really wanted and bridge the full gap.

3. any time i thought of my dr, i took it as a reminder that i was already there

i think about my dr multiple times a day. i can’t help it. shifting is the most important (and interesting) thing about my life right now. so every time i thought of it, i let a wave of happiness come over me because i knew i was already living it. i knew i’d lay down each night and get to experience it. at first, this was hard to keep up with but after some time, it became habit to think this way.

this may be stuff you guys already know, or not very insightful but after a couple of months of frustration, i truly feel on track with shifting again. i feel so happy and relieved. and i just want everyone to feel that way in their journeys too.

happy shifting,

i’m of the opinion that when you’re going into a shifting attempt, it’s better to have a curiosity about going to your dr rather than a stern belief that “tonight’s the night!”

and my reasoning is entirely based on the concept of gripping vs flowing. when you grip, there’s resistance. you make it an all or nothing thing. but when you flow—it’s seamless. you aren’t clinging to a specific result and that’s where the magic happens.

so next time you plan to shift, don’t stress yourself out about not being motivated or excited enough because you’ve “failed” in the past. if you’ve had a few disappointing experiences, you’re valid in feeling a little apprehensive about this next one but know this: the past is the past and it doesn’t have to dictate your future. you don’t have to believe you’ll shift to do it and you also don’t have to hold onto past attempts like they’re your present.

just remember that sometimes, it’s the moments we least expect that bring us the best results.

to shift, you have to be willing to surrender your guard to ALL of it. you can’t expect to shift if there’s a part of you still expecting to fail. if there’s a part of you still bargaining on whether you did enough, or too much, or waited too long you’re just honing in on the part of you that’s building walls! get rid of the expectations, banish them.

tonight, when you go to shift, i want you to feel the emotional tone of your dr before setting your intention. let yourself be filled with the peace and love and wholeness of finally being in the place you belong. be present. where do you feel the energy most? let it overflow into every part of your body. even just two minutes of this is enough for your intention to be backed by emotional resonance (which strengthens a manifestation and an assumption because your subcon processes things you experience emotion with as real). after you feel you’ve connected emotionally (again, this should not take a long time. anything will work) set your intention simply and clearly.

say things like:

“i’m shifting now.” “i’m going to my dr as i sleep.” “i allow myself to be in my dr.”

(you can also say your own dr specific thing! no limitations, just examples!!)

this is not to convince yourself. there should be no “okay and now what?” response. don’t immediately go searching for your dr in your senses. do not wait for things to change. just say it like you mean it and let go.