#sensualarian

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a term for when one identifies as being "a little in love with all of their friends". whatever that means for the user.

it can be intertwined with identities such as sensualarian, relationship anarchy, amatopunk, amarity, lovequeer, agaplatonic and agaqueerplatonic.

this term is inspired by a tumblr post i once saw. i cannot find it though :(

for day 1 of @rwuffles mod jester's birthday event: aromanticism / (nonromantic) love / fragarian attraction !!

disclaimer: it's currently september 16th, 00:11 in my timezone ^_^

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sensualarian culture is accidentally thinking about spending your entire life and living with a friend with whom you have no relationship

sensualarian!

Sensualarian: Someone who “blurs” the lines between romantic, platonic, sensual, and sexual relationships. There is no “clear, cut” distinguishing mark between the variety of types of attraction. For example: You might have a “girlfriend” by traditional standards, but you feel that they provide more than just a romantic partnership.

Ideal for individuals who feel that they have the emotional capacity to love numerous individuals at once, but don’t feel “polyamorous” is a good fit for them, or individuals who feel like “traditional” relationship terms (girlfriend, best friend, friends with benefits, etc.) are not too “rigid” to describe their own feelings and relationships.

Pronounced: “sen-shul-air-e-an” "What's the difference between Relationship Anarchy and Sensualarian?"

There’s a school of belief behind relationship anarchists that monogamy marriages are not okay, that they do not allow a person to live life ‘to the fullest’. While not all relationship anarchists might believe this, it is a prominent school of thought within the community. Sensualarians don’t follow this belief system.

The person who coined sensualarian crafted the term because in their personal experience, they’ve had relationships that were never “officially” established, but to the common eye, they appeared to be official romantic couples.

Relationship anarchy started officially in the polyamorous community but has since expanded since then. When Sensualarian was crafted, the individual felt like polyamorous wasn’t quite the ‘best fitting’ term.

Relationship anarchists don’t follow traditional/stereotypical relationships. Sensualarians have relationships that are often “between” typical relationships (for example: a sensualarian might be engaged, but feel like they might as well be married because of how their relationship is). A sensualarian might have a close friend (or someone they like) where no one “officially” says “hey, we are girlfriend/boyfriend” (whatever term fits for the bf/gf deal), but they treat each other like a boyfriend or girlfriend does (hold hands, go out together and lean on each other, etc.).

Term coined by: lgbtrainbowdolls

[Image: Flag with 7 stripes: Brick red, super light green, pastel orange, pastel blue, pastel yellow, salmon/pink, gray]

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[Image: Flag with 6 stripes: Brick red, super light green, pastel orange, pastel yellow, salmon/pink, gray]

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Designed by: lgbtrainbowdolls

Color meanings:

Dark red: sexual

Light green: romantic

Light orange: sensual

Light blue: alterous

Light yellow: platonic

The pinkish/salmon color: love

Gray: the blurring between the “official” types of relationships

[Image: Flag with 7 stripes: Darkish lavender, pink, gray, white, gray, light blue, darkish lavender].

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Designed by: Mod Hermy (chosen from flag scraps folder by lgbtrainbowdolls)

Color meanings: 

Gray: blur the lines between romance, sexual, platonic, etc.

Pink and blue: capable of attraction for femininity and masculinity

Purple: capable of attraction for nonbinary individuals

Polymonoflux (poly mono flux)- When you fluctuate between being polyamorous and monoamorous.

Monogamish: when a couple is in a committed partnership that is socially pair-bonded but has an agreement that partners can engage in some level of outside sexual/romantic/alterous activity.

Either of these work?

I’m not too knowledgeable on polyam terms other than the ones I have flags for. Does anyone else know anything else?

Fidelityflux: when your relationship structure can fluctuate between plural (polyfidelity), singular (monofidelity), partial (semifidelity), conditional (demifidelity) and null (afidelity).

Polyfidelity is an intimate nonmonoamory where members are considered faithful partners and restrict their sexual or romantic activities to only other members of the group, different from open relationships the fidelity rules can be partial, circumstantial or null (not infidelity because it’s consented).