Why I Prefer To Call Myself Amatopunk than Aromantic.
I often identify as alloaro when I'm talking about myself but I'm honestly not sure if that's the case or if I experience alloromantic levels of romantic attraction and those feelings just pale in comparison to the level of sexual attraction I feel to the point that romance just isn't a priority for me the way sex is.
Because I've experienced romantic attraction in my life before at times strongly, though I feel disconnected from the idea of romance and for now at least I'm only interested in FWB dynamics.
I just don't think I've been able to gauge what's standard alloromantic romantic attraction because most of my friends are either completely aromantic or hyper-romantic.
I get a lot of imposter syndrome about being on the aromantic spectrum because I was a very romantic as a kid and in my early teenage years but due to romantic trauma in high school I've found friendships and FWB's more fulfilling than conventional romance
It was really nice discovering the label Amatopunk because regardless of my romantic orientation and the whole dubious category of romantic attraction I definitely oppose amatonormativity, I'm a Relationship Anarchist and I hate the idea of belonging to anyone, I hate jealousy and possessiveness, my friendships are a top priority and I'd never want any relationship to get in the way of feeling close with my friends, I don't like the idea of getting married, etc.
The label also reminds me that regardless of where I end up in terms of my relationship with romantic attraction I'm always gonna be subversive I'm always gonna be an Anarchist at heart not just in my politics but in how I approach all my connections.
