Emma Watson is such a powerhouse. I love this woman. This gave me inspiration for a self-partnered list of amazing. I've been in really good relationships, I've been in really bad ones, and I've now been single, living alone, and LOVING IT for 7 years. I used to be really concerned about what a lot of ppl are concerned with; will i be lonely? What if i dont find soneone? BUT Being single is actually amazing. I actually don't think I want a traditional relationship anymore tbh! On this day in particular I Want to share 50-odd reasons it's great to be single. (Full disclosure: I didn't actually count lol)
50-odd Reasons it's great to be single
Your music. All the time.
Masturbation. Any time. Any way you want to.
No "did you come?" Or "already?"
Your shows allllll the time.
Time to figure out what you really want and who you really are and what you really stand for in your own space.
Never having to pretend you care 🙊
Never laughing at shitty jokes
No "yeah it was great" to shit movies and shit music and shit food
Garlic breath pickle breath fishy breath all the pungy foods you can eat
Never putting up w weird nasty foods stinking up in your fridge. Anchovies? Wtf get it outttt
Silence. Loving silence.
No arguments
No wondering if you're wrong of they're wrong or wtf actually just happened?
Never waiting for their fooping texts
Want to do a thing? Go do it. No asking what they're doing or if they want to come.
Your wall colors. Want a pink wall? Want a black wall? Want a tye dye wall? Boom baby.
Want to make out with that hottie eyeballing you? DO IT.
Mayonnaise on your tiddy? Lick it. Crumbs in your beard? Eat them.
Burppppp anyyyytime
Fartttt anyyyyytime
Shitttt anyyyytime
Sticking your hand down your pants whenever you want (okay, whenever you're ALONE 😅)
Never ever hearing "You should grow your hair out" or "you should cut your beard"
Never. Getting. Corrected.
Snuggling with stuffed animals.
Hogging A L L the covers
Hogging A L L the bed
Hogging A L L the couch
Your wine, your beer, your scotch, your juice ALL YOURS
Raggy ass pajamas
Performing feminity or masculinity on YOUR schedule
Love that band? Love that model? Put their poster over your bed and listen to absolutely no one object.
Your candy bars. Allllll of them
Never ever picking up somebody else's shit
Never ever PUTTING UP WITH somebody else's shit
Never saying you're wrong when you're not
Want that decoration? Get it.
Want that dress? Buy it
Want that suit? Buy it
Want that makeup? Wear it
Want that tv? Get it.
Never hearing "You look too..." I look too FAB that's what
Jealousy? Not up in here. The friend really is just a friend and it's great.
Jealousy the other way? Nope. Not your problem who anybody eyeballing!
Got a fetish? Explore it
No body judgements or sex judgements
No one to say "you're too much this" or "not enough that." You are always just the right amount!
All your decor. Weird abstracts or taxidermy animals or unicorns or Bernie Sanders or idk wtf shit y'all got on your walls, you do you
Showering friends and fam w love they deserve
Showering yourself with the love you deserve
Fixing your problems because you want to, not because someone tells you to
Spending time doing things you really believe in
No guilt trips
Not worrying about somebody else's unsaid feelings
Never ever watering down your beliefs for them or their friends or their mom or anyone
Never worrying about being a "good" partner
Want to move to a new city? For any reason? You can!
Want to take a risk and change careers or move to a new country or do something totally new? Listen to absolutely no one say "What about me?"
Listening to, loving and valuing your friends and growing with them
No "quid pro quo." Ever.
Never washing somebody else's dirty dishes or dirty clothes
Want to go on a random vacation? Camping trip? Visit a friend? Pack a bag and go!
Being alone is actually the best and safest place you can be. When you are comfortable by yourself, you can grow in any direction. Grow towards your sun or your shade, not in the direction someone else clips your leaves. It is important to have love in your life and learn from others, but this does not have to be romantic or sexual or exclusive. You can be generous and giving and considerate and empathetic with or without a Sig other. Sometimes, a Sig other helps you become better! Sometimes they put transactional b.s. and power plays on you and make you worse. Often, it's both.
You do not need to date soneone just to have them. If you find a teammate that makes you want to be better and excites you and fascinates you- that is awesome! But you can do this single-player style too!
Romatic relationships are A SIDE QUEST, not the game!
