#self management

MY MANIFESTING LIST ;

every year i always make a list of the things that i wanna manifest in 2025, i dont always complete it in the first sitting bcuz i add onto it as the year progresses but i like to have a basic framework of everything that im manifesting in that year.

also along with my manifest list for 2025, i also create a 2025 vision board because it motivates me and reminds me of all the amazing things that im going to experience in 2025.

REFLECTING ON THIS YEAR ;

so in my notion i have a section called the 'monthly digest' where every single month i break down the 4 weeks of the month and everything that i did in them in relation to my goals. after every month i write a little summary.

DISCLAIMER: I am not a professional, these tips are based purely on what helps me as an individual who suffers from paranoia frequently these might not work for you it's best to experiment before coming to conclusions on what things help you best with managing your paranoia

1. Writing therapy

The name speaks for itself, writing your thoughts and woes down is usually very helpful it gets your feelings out but not to an audience it's for you and you only and when you read it yourself you might get more self aware and be able to think a little more rationally.

Personally I do this in the form of fan-fiction I like to write my favourite characters either being paranoid or experiencing the things I'm paranoid of happening to me, seeing characters that I resonate with experience these things makes me feel better and I've been able to get myself to think more rationally after reading the stuff I've wrote.

Remember what you write doesn't have to be good, it doesn't have to be okay or alright it can be terrible and cringy it doesn't matter, you can delete it or burn the paper you wrote it on after you're done the goal is to make you feel better not to write a masterpiece.

Also what you write doesn't necessarily have to be about your paranoia sometimes writing about someone eating ice cream and having fun is a better way to comfort yourself.

2. Art therapy

Similar to the first one but with drawing instead, drawing can be a great way to stifle your thoughts. Focusing on what's on the canvas instead of what's going on your head can be a nice way to calm yourself a little.

Sometimes drawing doesn't help stifle your thoughts but it may still get your energy out, scribbling whatever, drawing random lines and circles and whatever else can be a healthy way to deal with your emotions. And again what you draw doesn't have to be good it can be absolutely terrible and that would be okay.

For me personally I like to doodle weird monsters and squiggly lines it gets me to focus on something other than the feeling of being watched or targeted and even when it doesn't help with that it helps me not to resort to other unhealthy ways I deal with my emotions such as self harmful behaviour

3. Limit your exposure to certain content

I feel like this one's a must for every paranoid person. Avoid things like true crime podcasts, content about online controversy stuff like lolcows, those "if you skip this and that will happen" kinds of things at all cost. Only look at the news if it's absolutely necessary.

Don't get me wrong it's good to keep yourself educated, however we as paranoid folk will easily drown ourselves in triggering content which will worsen our distrust and make way into new things we're paranoid about. I used to never be paranoid about getting kidnapped or cannibalized until I fell down a true crime rabbit hole.

What you're gonna do is avoid true crime, avoid fear mongering, and check up on what's happening around the world and what you might be able to do about it every once in a while when you feel you're in a state where bad news wouldn't instantly trigger a bad episode. Also make sure to try and find good news alongside the bad news, social media makes it seem like there's only bad things happening in the world but that's not true there are always things being done for a better future and you can find news about them if you look for it don't only focus on the bad.

4. Don't spend too much time on paranoia spaces

This one might seem a little on the nose but I've noticed that in paranoia spaces we tend to trigger each other and adapt eachother's paranoia and delusions. As much as a community might be really helpful at times we also have to acknowledge that it can be the opposite at other times and be more careful when interacting with one another

5. Talk to yourself

Speak to yourself out loud if possible. This can help you find the irrationality in your beliefs and fears since sometimes when you say things out loud they sound way more weird than the way they sounded in your head, this doesn't always work though.

You can also try to reaffirm yourself by repeating things like "I'm not being watched" over and over again out loud which might be able to convince your brain that it's true. I myself haven't tried this a lot yet but I've heard from other paranoid people that it was an effective way to cope for them

6. Consume upbeat and positive content

For example listen to songs that are literally about sunshine and rainbows like the song sunshine lollipops or watch very lighthearted shows that always have a happy tone and good endings like my little pony.

The things we read and watch and listen to often affect our moods, so this can be an effective way to deal with our fears and help us feel more comforted.

7. The double edged sword

This one's a very risky way I like to deal with my paranoia when there seems to be no other solution for me. Which is battling the paranoia as if it's real with different irrational beliefs potentially delusions

For example, sometimes when I believe something that I HAVE to eat is poisoned I tell myself that if I do a weird hand gesture the poison will go away which makes me feel a little more safe to eat the thing.

You can easily see how this can go wrong, it can ignite the fear that I'm being targeted because I have the power to take poison out of food and make it extremely hard for me to eat or go outside (yup this actually happened to me) and make things way worse. I only do this when I absolutely have to, like when I haven't been able to take care of myself properly because of something I was paranoid about, or when something I'm paranoid about prohibits me from leaving my room and I have to go to school or work.

It's basically battling the paranoia as if it's actually real which can be helpful especially if it's someone else doing it for you but it can quickly go wrong.

8. (If possible) Set boundaries and talk to a person of your choice about your paranoia

If you have anyone you think you could trust, would respect you, and feel comfortable telling them things about yourself then I highly recommend that you tell them about your problems and set specific boundaries and ways to accommodate your paranoia. For example tell them about your triggers so that they can avoid them(e.g you can tell them to not send you potentially fear mongering content, things about news or internet drama) maybe tell them what to do or not do if they notice you're in a bad state having someone who respects you and loves know about your paranoia can potentially be very helpful at times

If you tell someone about your triggers and notice them purposefully try and trigger you it's best to cut contact with them immediately, even if you knew them for a long time that kind of behaviour directly shows that they don't care if their actions will hurt you if they think it's funny which is not the type of person you want to surround yourself with. Sadly this seems to be something that happens a lot so I felt like I had to include it however please don't let the possibility of this happening stop you from reaching out to anybody.

“We have worked as a team to remove them and tidy up the space to get ready for next week.”

“Dave’s going to be away at a retreat with Miss. Miller, so we’re all going to have to manage ourselves and also add in some extra chores.”

So, productivity. Yeah. Let’s talk about it.

If you’re anything like me, you’ve probably had that moment—you know, when your to-do list is longer than your lifespan, your tabs are multiplying like rabbits, and your brain is just ✨ refusing ✨ to cooperate. Being a full-time student and a creator means my life is basically a constant balancing act, and let me tell you… I was dropping so many balls.

I tried every planner, every system, every method that productivity YouTube threw at me, and nothing really stuck. Bullet journaling? Loved the idea, hated the effort. Google Calendar? Cute, but I forgot to check it. Sticky notes? Everywhere. Chaos. Absolute chaos.

Then I found Notion, and listen—I was skeptical. It looked overwhelming, like an empty void of endless possibilities (and not in the fun way). But once I actually took the time to figure it out? Oh, it was over for me.

Now, my entire life lives in Notion. It’s where I plan my assignments, track my creative projects, and pretend I have my life together. And because I love making things both cute and efficient, I’ve spent way too much time tweaking my setup to be as ✨ functional but aesthetic ✨ as possible.

This post is just a little peek into the things that helped me get my Notion workspace together. Nothing too deep, just some surface-level tips. I’ll get more in-depth later, but for now—here’s what made the biggest difference for me:

🌿 How I Revamped My Notion Setup: 📌 Made It Pretty – Because if I’m going to stare at it every day, it has to be cute. Matching colors, simple layouts, and an aesthetic cover image make it 10x more enjoyable to use.

📌 Created a “Homebase” – Everything I need in one place. No more digging through five different pages for my assignments, projects, and notes. My dashboard is literally my lifesaver.

📌 Kept It Simple – Look, I love a good Notion setup, but if it’s too complicated, I just won’t use it. I stick to a system that works for me: clean, minimal, and easy to navigate.

📌 Automated Whatever I Could – Linked databases? Buttons? Widgets? Yes, please. Anything that saves me even a little time is a win.

✨ Want to try it for yourself? I actually put together a Notion template based on my setup, so if you’re looking for something that’s aesthetic and functional, I got you. It’s perfect for students, creators, or anyone who wants to get their life together in a ✨ cute ✨ way.

🔗 Check it out here! → BRIE BLOSSOMS

I’m still tweaking and improving my setup all the time, so I’ll definitely share more in the future! But for now—what’s your biggest struggle with productivity? Let’s talk in the tags ⬇️ or drop your Notion questions in the replies! 💭💖

Hi, thank you for such a lovely message💓🌰 (I feel like sending some chestnuts). Somehow the word "conduct" reminds me so much of Saturn, and then Saturn reminds me of chestnuts.

Your question took longer to reply to than I expected. As I wrote, I realised that this is quite a broad topic. If I were to write to my heart's content then it would turn into an essay, so I will try to keep it concise as much as possible 👀

A bit of context: I quit my corporate job that used to take up more than half the time of day. After being a corporate clown for 9 years, now I just live as a hermit and do freelance jobs. Maybe I will stay as a hermit for the next 9 years then begin another journey, who knows. I'm not that good at self management, but my life right now is pretty simple, so it's easier to manage. I will share some of my personal experiences and observations about time management, creativity and spirituality here:

Time

Routine: Doing readings at a certain time of the day. I just found out recently that I do divination reading best at night time, rather than during daytime. I keep a general timetable in my head so I can have a general idea of when to do something (and not following it).

Checklist: I also keep a checklist of tasks I need to complete on time (PACs, personal readings), the feeling of ticking off boxes can be pretty satisfying 😆.

Space out readings: For PACc, I only read one group/day to keep the energy and length balanced between each group (if I do all the groups in one go, later group's reading length will suffer). For personal readings, I do the opposite, I tend to read all the questions in one go, but won't read for more than one person in one day.

Productivity

Enjoyment: Are you doing readings for your own enjoyment or as a duty? Do you genuinely like the questions, the topics? Do you feel comfortable doing readings for certain topics, for certain people? I don't think divination can be something that you can force yourself to do, especially when reading for other people.

Motivation: What are you trying to achieve when doing readings? for fun, for practice, for gaining knowledge, for digging out people's deep dark secrets, for money or for other reasons? Being clear on what motivates you will give you a better direction.

Perseverance: I like how every time I ask Tarot about my path, I always got the 8 of pentacles. Routine practice is good, don't compare yourself with other people, keep your gaze on what you're doing.

Guilt & Fear: I have productivity guilt sitting in the dark corner, ready to nag and whip any time I dare to be idle. Thanks to this, I was actually able to do lots of things. Doing something creative is also a good way to relieve stress for me, so the more stressed I am, the more productive I become *quietly, begrudgingly mumbling a "thank you" to Saturn aspects*. Guilt and fear, sometimes, can be such great motivators, with the right dose of course. (on the topic of fear, I once asked my friend if they didn't have any fears at all, what are the things that they would do? My friend answered "nothing, If I didn't fear anything, I wouldn't do anything at all")

Creativity/ Energy

Creative energy pool: Not to be confused with general energy pool. I don't know if other people feel the same, but for me, creative energy has a definite allotment for each day. If I use up that energy for one creative activity then I can't do another creative activity in that same day. So cramming many creative activities in one day can be counter intuitive. Doing divination, in my opinion, can also be a form of creative act, as it's about translating the messages inside you into a visible form of communication. So be mindful of that aspect.

The cyclical nature of creative energy: Some people are able to maintain a constant flow of energy, but in my case, it can be sporadic, it waxes and wanes like the moon so if I ever find myself feeling uninspired, I will just leave it and do other things, because I know it will come back later. If you find a topic or a question unappealing, maybe leave it for a while, read other topics then come back to it later.

Energy level: This is about the general energy level. Each person will have a different peak time for doing something during the day. Find out about yours and ultilise it. The tone and quality of a reading will reflect your energy, doing a reading when you're tired or physically unwell will have a negative impact on both the reading and you, not to mention the receiver of that reading if you read for others.

Interaction with energies: Be aware of your interaction with other people's energy, reading for others is a two way connection. Having your moods and thoughts be influenced by other's energy is real. Some will energise you, others can leave a bad taste but don't let that discourage you.

In the end, the most helpful advice I can think of is take it easy, keep doing what you enjoy and keep it fun & meaningful (even the soul searching, deep introspection readings needn't to be all dark and heavy, facing your demons can be like those dark fantasy novels, but it can also be slice of life comedy, none is less meaningful than the other)

You’re not lazy—you’re under-fueled, over-notified, and misaligned. In fact, the “lazy girl era” is really a season of low-friction distractions dressed up as personality. So today, we retire the costume and step into elegant discipline—a rhythm that feels good, looks luxe, and, over time, compounds results. This isn’t about hustling harder. Rather, it’s about designing a life where the easiest…

So, productivity. Yeah. Let’s talk about it.

If you’re anything like me, you’ve probably had that moment—you know, when your to-do list is longer than your lifespan, your tabs are multiplying like rabbits, and your brain is just ✨ refusing ✨ to cooperate. Being a full-time student and a creator means my life is basically a constant balancing act, and let me tell you… I was dropping so many balls.

I tried every planner, every system, every method that productivity YouTube threw at me, and nothing really stuck. Bullet journaling? Loved the idea, hated the effort. Google Calendar? Cute, but I forgot to check it. Sticky notes? Everywhere. Chaos. Absolute chaos.

Then I found Notion, and listen—I was skeptical. It looked overwhelming, like an empty void of endless possibilities (and not in the fun way). But once I actually took the time to figure it out? Oh, it was over for me.

Now, my entire life lives in Notion. It’s where I plan my assignments, track my creative projects, and pretend I have my life together. And because I love making things both cute and efficient, I’ve spent way too much time tweaking my setup to be as ✨ functional but aesthetic ✨ as possible.

This post is just a little peek into the things that helped me get my Notion workspace together. Nothing too deep, just some surface-level tips. I’ll get more in-depth later, but for now—here’s what made the biggest difference for me:

🌿 How I Revamped My Notion Setup: 📌 Made It Pretty – Because if I’m going to stare at it every day, it has to be cute. Matching colors, simple layouts, and an aesthetic cover image make it 10x more enjoyable to use.

📌 Created a “Homebase” – Everything I need in one place. No more digging through five different pages for my assignments, projects, and notes. My dashboard is literally my lifesaver.

📌 Kept It Simple – Look, I love a good Notion setup, but if it’s too complicated, I just won’t use it. I stick to a system that works for me: clean, minimal, and easy to navigate.

📌 Automated Whatever I Could – Linked databases? Buttons? Widgets? Yes, please. Anything that saves me even a little time is a win.

✨ Want to try it for yourself? I actually put together a Notion template based on my setup, so if you’re looking for something that’s aesthetic and functional, I got you. It’s perfect for students, creators, or anyone who wants to get their life together in a ✨ cute ✨ way.

🔗 Check it out here! → 15 LANE STUDIO

I’m still tweaking and improving my setup all the time, so I’ll definitely share more in the future! But for now—what’s your biggest struggle with productivity? Let’s talk in the tags ⬇️ or drop your Notion questions in the replies! 💭💖