Post ElectionsĀ Thoughts for now
Itās been a tumultuous week with the election of Donald Trump as the President of the United States. While I am not political in nature and part of me doesnāt want to return to this blog because of all the craziness thatās happening, I do want to document (in the here and now) on thoughts about the election so that I am also held accountable. Iām not promising that the world will be a better place nor am Iām not absolving anyone of their sins or wrongdoings but here are some percolating thoughts:
1. I live in a (big insulated) bubble - the evening of the election (for which I can only stay up till 11 pm EST due to an elderly sleeping pattern ^^;), as a rare Facebook user I cannot help but scroll incessantly like an addict needing the next hit to see what is the world thinking. Lo and behold the (social media) world is thinking the same one I am so it should all be good. Also the people I was election watching with was affirming my views, so doubly good. I went to sleep and the next day woke up to a brave new world. Yet my Facebook feed is still pretty reflective of what I am thinking of āWhat he won?!?!ā āHow can that be?!?!ā āI know what to go: go back to sleep!ā yet if about 50% of the popular vote went to Trump how come my real and social media universe is doesnāt have any of that diversity? Itās because I live in a bubble. Me: masters educated Asian American women in her 30s still single who grew up in an impoverished immigrant family but now makes more money than my two blue collar parents combined. I grew up in Brooklyn and have lived in Boston, San Francisco, and Philadelphia. The closest I ever got to rural or suburbia was college in Virginia. I donāt know any white uneducated people living in the mid west or south. My views and perspectives are shaped to a degree by urban poverty at a young age but I am living a very independent and financially fine life that is pretty removed of the struggles that are being articulated by the disenfranchised. Is that ok?
2. Labels hurt - calling someone by a name or giving them a label makes things simple: it creates and āusā vs. āthemā and contributes to the dissonance and distance to further a cause or belief. There has been many labels/name calling/insults hurled from both sides. While although people may argue that one side has hurled more crap than the other, when broad labels are applied indiscriminately it backs people up into corners. Especially those who may have voted for one candidate but not necessarily embody all the easy to apply sticky note labels to human beings. Also the human psyche is a wily thing. āOh you think Iām XYZ? Well since you are judging me for it anyway I am going to show you XYZ!ā (a very excellent Invisibilia podcast!)
3. If you want to lead, you donāt get to choose who you lead - especially in a vast and diverse country like the United States of America. If you are calling the other side ādeplorableā or being intolerant of people due to their race, gender, sexual orientation, and so on then hereās a wake up call: when you win an election you donāt only get to lead your supporters, you also get to lead your not -so supporters. By calling them horrible names is not going to endear you to them and widens the rift between āusā and āthem.ā Unless you can only lead your supporters, why are you vilifying people who are passionate about this yearās election, looking for their leader, and following your every move, especially in this day and age where the media can sensationalize the slightest movements? If you want to be a one of the most powerful leaders of the world, you do not get to pick and choose who you lead: you lead the whole!Ā
Overall I think I need to learn more: who is the other 50% that voted, how can we support and understand one another instead of hurting and hating, what can I do during the next few years to help out where I can. Itās a lot.