When All Else Fails

I love this girl. She’s amazing at everything but can’t say no to anybody. She went to Florida to learn english and accidentally wandered into assassin training. This is missing the punchline though.

Untouchable

Hey, waittt a minute

Biblical levels of greed

Being attracted to any kind of body is normal. Fat bodies. Trans bodies. Disabled bodies. All normal. Being extra attracted to a specific kind of body is normal too. Totally normal to have a type.

Not unlearning the societal stigma attached to those kinds of bodies, the people who inhabit those bodies, and the people who fuck them, to the point where you do any of the following:

Only want to date/fuck the person in secret.

Reduce the person to the feature that you desire and ignore the rest of who they are as a person.

Expect the person to be a walking porn fantasy instead of a real person with their own sexual preferences and boundaries.

Would no longer love the person if the stigmatized aspect of their body changed.

Consider yourself superior to the person, think the person should be 'grateful' that you love their body, etc.

See the person as a temporary adventure while planning to eventually settle down with someone whose body isn't stigmatized.

Is bad and harmful and you shouldn't be dating anyone until you've worked on your shit, because this makes you a very terrible partner. This doesn't mean you are a bad person with bad-fetishist-desires who can only desire people badly, it means you need to unlearn societal stigma so you can be a better partner to the people you desire.

The owner of the stigmatized body you're attracted to is going to have their own feelings about their body. They will probably not be at the same comfort level that you are. Neither of you are wrong for this. Neither of you is more or less confident/body positive for this.

Confidence is not a set value. It can change weekly, daily, and even multiple times per day. Do not expect improvement or assume improvement will happen. If you are chasing a 'happier and more confident' version of your partner you are harming the partner you have.

On the brighter side: confidence comes when you aren't chasing it. When you're looking back and seeing how far they've come, because you supported them as they were in all of those cumulative moments. That's when you've made a difference. They're choosing more self expression, you're supporting that choice.

If you've been living in a more conventional body your whole life, you're going to start getting stares. From strangers, from family members, and even some friends. Your partner is getting 200% more.

Superman: *sigh* She has such pretty eyes.

but I kept getting comments on how I looked exactly like Nicki Minaj in this picture all night

I WAS SUPPOSED TO BE HE-MAN!!

Everyone disregarded that and called me Nicki for the entire night.