#resources adhd

Like a year ago I did a jury duty what to expect /script of what to do.

It was something I would have found helpful for my anxiety.

I have 1w bug bites and all i can focus on ia how i want to itch them. I have not slept in two days. I put cream on it and then medical tape . last night i taped ice packs on to get relief.

Hi,

Forst thank you for your patience, i know this has beennhere for a bit. It has been super busy at work and i just didn't have the spoons.

So: first, thanknyou for being an awesome sibling. That alone will be such a huge help to your brother knowing that he has an ally on his side. It really depends on how opd your brother is and what exactly is being said.

The first thing I would do is educate yourself (and him) on skills to use, does he need somethimg to fisget with, does he need help keeping track of things etc. Where does he need help and work with him to figure a system that is helpful to him. ( also i do not know how old you are so this might be too much of a burden on you)

Talk woth your brother about how he is feeling. Hse I messages and come from a place where you aren't judging. So often adhd/differently abled kids just need a space to say " this happened and I'm really upset. Or i totaly messed this up". Hold him accountable but also help him find solutions to fix it for next time ( there will be a next time)

In terma of your parents. I am not sure what you are looking for in terms of advice. You can educate yourself on adhd/asd stats. " did you lnow actually, that adhd is extremely genetic" quick one liners to show that you don't find it funny.

You can aslo ask them more questions, what do you mean by that ? I don't understand the joke, something that will get them to talk more about it. Usually, people get uncomfortable in those situation.

You can always flat out say " i don't appreciate the way you joke about my brother" " it is really cruel the way you mock x on something he has no control over, thr least you can dobis be a parent and help him cope".

" it feels really shitty when you joke aboit x, you taught us to not speak about others in that way,

" it is really hurtful to hear those jokes and i don't find them funnny, i am going to my room".

Now OBVIOUSLY please do not do this if you think you would be unsafe. Some parents and cultures are more lenient in terms of what children can say to parents, others, not so much.

But use the the general idea of thr statement and change it in a way that feels effective to you.

In terms of talkimg to your parents i would google bystander intervention. There are some tips there as well.

Another thing fornyour brother is finding positive role models either through media or books. Percy jackson has adhd there is the show the good doctor with asd. Etc. Even if he doesn't know what he has, he can see people who might act similar to him.

And finally, if you feel unsafe for you orbypur brother or tpu feel like he is truly being treated unfairly talk to your teachers or people at your school. I thank you for wanting to help your brother but it should not be your job to do so.

Hi there.

I am not a talking adhd person so I don't have tips for that.

Here are some stim things you can do which i have done.

1). Very small jar of playdough it is like a couble a tablespoon size (or silly putty but i feel like that looks like gum). Make sure to keep it in your hand and don't play with it on your desk.

2) try and doodle in class. Nothing elaborate. I usually draw triangles in a pattern.

3) write notes. If i am having a hard time paying attention i will start writing things down or things the teacher is writing.

4) repeat what they are saying in your head. Yhis i have a hard time with ( i get bored). But when i just can't focus it is a stim.

There is also plenty of fidget jewelry and such that you can purchase or make so your hands have something to do while you are trying to focus. I believe there is a stim tag on thr page. Of not, search it on tumblr.

In termsbod managing, do a self check . are ypu eating enough?

Are you sleeping at least 8 hours ( or whatever your body needs)

Do you have more stress than normal ?

How are your hormones ? If you are a person with a period, a period tracker can be helpful as adhd and hormones don't mix well. If you are a person who does not menstrate look into the hormone cycle for your body there might be a connection.

Also check your anxietyl, if you are having a higher level of anxiety about talkimg in class you might be subconsciously zoning out to prevent that from happening again. ( you can't get in trouble for talking if you are ignoring the people around you).

Finally, if you are on meds, when was the last time they were adjusted ? Do you need to go back to your doctor ? .l

There is a great app called adda ( i think) and it helps you map your moods and your symptoms so you can see trends and stuff. It also has medication reminder.

If you are comfortable in doing so, perhaps talk to your teachers/s. If you have a 504/ IEP, they already know you have adhd. Maybe you can open that line of communication with them. See if there is something they can do to help. ( move your seat allow you take breaks etc). Obviously this would be a good time to also talk to your case manager. I know that having a trusted teacjer or people at school is not always realistic.

^ if you use a tool from above and find that it isbreally helpful but a teacher gives you a hard time about it, gp to your case manager/ parent and say that you want to add an accomodation to your plan. You have the right to ask for that. ( it might have to be your parent as well depending on your age).

Also check out some of my other asks. They might be of help as well. It is still early in the year so you might still be adjusting back into school mode.