#questioning advice

hey anon,

you can be both!! there are nonbinary guys and nonbinary trans guys, those aren't mutually exclusive. You could also be a demiboy, paraboy, offboy, boyflux or bigender. You can also just say you are transmasc.

hope that helps!!

@transmasc-culture-is @demigender-culture-is @boyflux-culture-is @bigender-culture-is

I sure am!

hmm, tbh it depends on the person. people who aren’t aromantic have the potential to develop a crush on a stranger on sight. and I mean, they haven’t even talked to this person, and know basically next to nothing about them aside from the fact that they’re cute. 

a demiromantic person probably a) thinks crushing on people you just met is ridiculous because that doesn’t happen for them, or b) finds themself having weirdly disconnected thoughts, e.g. “I really, really wanna get to know this person, holy fuck.” 

you probably won’t know if you’re aro or grey/demi until you actually get to know people and either do or don’t begin to experience romantic feelings for them. if you’re aro, you won’t feel drawn to your friends in a new and intense way once you have a deep emotional connection with them. if you’re demi, you most likely will realize you’re starting to crush on someone you started out as friends with a couple months into the friendship. 

sometimes, though, aro people can convince themselves that they feel romantic attraction even when they don’t, because that’s what society expects of them. if you only start to catch feelings for somebody because your mental checklist of what it means to be dating someone matches up to your unique friendship, you’re probably not feeling any actual attraction to them.