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Just as I was in the middle of the book, at the point which Jane and Elizabeth are discussing the elder’s lost affection, I found that I understood the younger’s feelings so much more than I originally did in one of my many readings. When Elizabeth talks of “loving only a few, and thinking well of even fewer,” I can’t help but see how much of an old soul she is. She is, at heart, an intelligent and courageous woman for her time, stubborn as all hell, and unwaveringly confident in her own decisions until the circumstances change, at which point her opinions change with them. And I couldn’t help but see the similarities in Jo March, and Anne Shirley, and Elphaba, and Sara Crewe, and many others it would take hours to list.

What really blew me away on thinking of this is that they all come to understand at an early age that they are different, and to be different for them means lacking in love and affection by almost all standards. Once they understand themselves to be so set apart from their equals, they immediately close themselves off to believing that they could ever possibly be happy in love, or well-liked by anyone. They resolve themselves not to search for it publicly like everyone else, and privately, they wish for it, but they don’t expect it.

When we think about their personalities and their standards, though, it makes so much sense. They want someone in their lives who can stand up to their tempers and argue with them on anything rather than cast them aside and agree to make them stop fighting. They want people who admire their spirit, not someone who would try and suppress it. They desire friendship with good individuals who are decent at heart but strong in mind, ignoring financial situations or class difference as much as possible. They want parents who they can call heroes, or at least role models, and who accept them despite flaws, whether those are inheirited or situationally brought about. They want lovers who have the same fire as they do, one which burns brighter ever day and flares when they are passionate about something, and who they can have bright conversations with, never in fear of being repressed for being too emotional about a topic.

Let me remind you that they found that all, in one way or another.

So if you feel different, set apart from your peers, and you have closed yourself off to the possibility of ever being loved, please consider these characters as example to you. It is okay to be different. It is okay to dream wildly and sing loudly and dance around. It is okay to be smart. It is okay to be an introvert who would rather write than party.

It is okay.

Because whether you crave a friend, a family, or a significant other, someone who can handle your passion will find you. And that person will understand what to do when you would rather write than go out and be social. They will know what to push you on and what not to try. They will be able to have those meaningful conversations without hesitation. Deep topics might be a daily breakfast occurrence.

So don’t say you’re out of luck, or that you’ll never find that person you need most. Those characters didn’t think they would either.