RP does not give you ownership over another person
You do not get to tell someone how they play their character. You do not get to tell someone which character they can/should play. You do not get to dictate how the player spends their free time, in and out of game. You do not get to make the player feel like crap when RL gets in the way of game, because RL should always come first. You do not get to say "too little too late" months after out-of-game RP options were offered due to misaligned schedules, because it was inconvenient for you. This is gaslighting, abusive behavior and if that's what you're doing, you should be ashamed. Also when your characters are in a relationship but the players are not, boundaries need to be in place and maintained so as not to allow bleed through; your RP relationship is only as real as the game, even when you have poured emotions into it. If you cannot keep perspective, you are the one who needs to step back and reassess, not point fingers and blame the other player.
