Dating Apps and the lack of CHAT
Β Iβm sure we have all been there in this search for a spouse, the moment you are close to giving up on apps. One main reason is: DEAD CONVERSATION.
No, itβs not the fact that everyoneβs profile seems to read gym, tick, coffee, tick, looking for a travel buddy, tick. Or, the glossy baby oiled pictures from the gym. Us women arenβt left out oh no, brothers are crying out about profiles that reek of Hijabi glam! Sisters contoured to the hilt, profiles full of demands pretty much like little modern day βMuslim Princessesβ.
Itβs the lack of conversation, once you find a profile you like. As if swiping right and left wasnβt tiring enough, you begin to feel youβve reached a brick wall you are this close to deleting the app, until you get a MATCH!
Β Again, you exchange small talk, initial chit-chat and pleasantries. Tick Tock Tick Tock
You try to keep up jokes, and banter Tick Tock Tick Tock
You keep asking questions and giving details⦠AND GONE.
Β The conversation dwindles into thin air, the back and forth of how was your day, what are you doing, has ceased.
All of a sudden you realise, you were doing all the talk βtheyβ only went to work and back, gym in between, meal prep perhaps. No reading, no hobbies, no interests, discussions to be had memories to be shared. Just banal, monotonous chatter. That leads NOWHERE.
Iβve never understood why someone would message you daily, but share nothing substantial about themselves? Just an empty sleeve, I know your basic needs what you eat, do and like, but nothing more. And, now we must meet? Hell no. Mr/Mrs Sleeve. Β
If you are looking for marriage β do that. Each conversation should serve a purpose, a sign or signal as to whether you are compatible. This isnβt a journal, a daily entry of your life, this is an effort to find a life partner! Honestly, has social media left us so inept we cannot even court anymore? Has the chase died? We no longer know how to interact, talk, converse, get to know one another. Instead, we look at empty images, hear empty information, and have an empty relationship. No thanks.
Nailah Patten β Author of 101 Questions to ask your potential Muslim spouse
Nailah.patten.tumblr.com
@101_questions_
