#muzmatch

Apparently Match Group, the company that owns Tinder, regularly tries to acquire their competition and if the competition says no, they'll come up with some sort of lawsuit against them.

According to the New York Times, Match allegedly offered to acquire Bumble (their biggest competitor) for reportedly $450 million in 2017, which Bumble declined. The following year Match Group then sued Bumble, calling it a "Tinder-clone".

Right now they're going after muzmatch and muzmatch just lost the case, but they're going to appeal. They were told they can't have "match" in their name because it's copycating "match.com" (which Match Group also owns). Yup, the word "match" is now off limits for any dating apps or platforms.

Muzmatch is a Muslim-run dating app for Muslims and those running the app didn't sell it bc they don't believe Match Group has the best interests of the Muslim users in mind. Not only is this some messed up capitalism, Match Group is literally stifling minority groups from having their own spaces for dating.

During the last 6 months, I’ve [the founder of Muzmatch] been approached by well over 10 different startups who spoke in confidence of threats and legal pressure from Match Group over their brand or mechanics of their product.

Dating Apps and the lack of CHAT

 I’m sure we have all been there in this search for a spouse, the moment you are close to giving up on apps. One main reason is: DEAD CONVERSATION.

No, it’s not the fact that everyone’s profile seems to read gym, tick, coffee, tick, looking for a travel buddy, tick. Or, the glossy baby oiled pictures from the gym. Us women aren’t left out oh no, brothers are crying out about profiles that reek of Hijabi glam! Sisters contoured to the hilt, profiles full of demands pretty much like little modern day ‘Muslim Princesses’.

It’s the lack of conversation, once you find a profile you like. As if swiping right and left wasn’t tiring enough, you begin to feel you’ve reached a brick wall you are this close to deleting the app, until you get a MATCH!

 Again, you exchange small talk, initial chit-chat and pleasantries. Tick Tock Tick Tock

You try to keep up jokes, and banter Tick Tock Tick Tock

You keep asking questions and giving details… AND GONE.

 The conversation dwindles into thin air, the back and forth of how was your day, what are you doing, has ceased.

All of a sudden you realise, you were doing all the talk ‘they’ only went to work and back, gym in between, meal prep perhaps. No reading, no hobbies, no interests, discussions to be had memories to be shared. Just banal, monotonous chatter. That leads NOWHERE.

I’ve never understood why someone would message you daily, but share nothing substantial about themselves? Just an empty sleeve, I know your basic needs what you eat, do and like, but nothing more. And, now we must meet? Hell no. Mr/Mrs Sleeve.  

If you are looking for marriage – do that. Each conversation should serve a purpose, a sign or signal as to whether you are compatible. This isn’t a journal, a daily entry of your life, this is an effort to find a life partner! Honestly, has social media left us so inept we cannot even court anymore? Has the chase died? We no longer know how to interact, talk, converse, get to know one another. Instead, we look at empty images, hear empty information, and have an empty relationship. No thanks.

Nailah Patten – Author of 101 Questions to ask your potential Muslim spouse

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Met a Muslim guy on Minder. He's from Pakistan, was previously married, has a Master's in Engineering. That's all the information on his Minder profile. We chatted for a bit and decided to exchange numbers.

Our first conversation he reveals he has 3 children. I don't mind kids, but it would have been nice of he had included this on his profile. I fully disclose my information to weed out men.

He goes on to talk about how he's in the 3rd phase of his life where he needs companionship and friendship. The first phase was procreation and he's done with that. I'll be honest, as soon as he said procreation...I was done with him. That conversation lasted 15 minutes. He texted me a few days later and wanted to talk again. That conversation lasted 10 minutes. He's boring and weird. He wanted to talk again, so I put the ball in his court. I told him to call me when he was free. The first 2 times I gave him specific times we could speak. This time he had to make the call without any directions from me.

The conversations have now de-evolved into "hi. How are you" texts. I stopped responding.

Whether it's Muzmatch or Minder, these Muslim men are man babies. Most can't even get through a conversation so then just send me random texts.

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