So it started when a girl I know went to kfc to order takeout with a voucher. I had already gotten my food and we were waiting for hers. In come my cousin who works there already. We made small talk and me looking at the time I realize I only got 3 minutes left until my next class starts. Obviously I know I’m going to be late because I’m waiting for this girls food to come out, but then she says I can leave so that I’m not late.

When I arrive at the class there are two sections . A 1 hour course that starts around 5:30 and a three hour course that starts around 6:30. I don’t really know what the course is about but they both end up being started with group projects. The advisor/teacher il speaking to happens to be p diddy and he advises me to go to the 6:30 course because I’m also late. I concede.

In the course, we start lectures and there’s discussion time where i happen to be speaking to this guy who is also obsessed with books like I am and we bond over the fact that he got some expensive books because of their edition. 60$ each.... we find out that we went to the same book fair that happened that day. I just bought some books and book sleeves of the same edition, but mines at home. We both see because of this bond and the en-suite converts autumn we like each other. The chemistry is there. 😍

Then the next scene is me being going to p diddy for “office hours” but it right before his 5:30 class because that’s the time frame he teaches. It’s not even a music or industry based class mind you. That’s not the feel I get. H says if I want to continue seeing him for office hours I should register l/go into his 5:30 class and he assured me it’s gonna be on the same days I have my 6:30 class which is happens to be Monday & Wednesday. I enter his 5:30 class and it’s full and the only spot available is in the middle of the path almost at back. It’s not an ideal spot because I always have to stand up and move to the side because someone wants to go out of the class. It’s a “high traffics” spot. This course also has a group project and everyone is already paired off and there’s this one guy who happens to be alone. I walk to his desk and ask if we could do a project together. There’s has to be 3 people, were only two so far. He happens to say something in front of the class to the teacher and I’m mesmerized and when he is done I blurt out. “You’re sexy when speak like that” idk y’all 😂. I think I might also have said “I’d like to date you” ?....

The next scene cuts where I’m with my friend and she wants to order food and so we go this new (for me) take out spot where they make specialized/customized poutine variations. I don’t know the spot in the beginning, but we spend some time in there and I remember that I’ve seen it somewhere. I know their concept. She wants me to order as well since she’s paying and I feel bad because I already had ordered food (Chinese this time since it’s another time frame). I don’t want to say no because I really want to try it. They make her food and my food, but there’s a moment where she realizes that they made her order wrong and she’s so mad she ends up slapping the tray counter loud. I’m just there’s talkin saying maybe it is right and it only looks familiar to another order. She further states it and she realizes I’m right and that they got her order right. We end up at the cash register and they ask her if her order is right because they heard and saw her physical frustration. She leafs them know that everything is good. (Let me say that their customer service is a1. They never raised their voices and they’re all soft spoken). She paid and know we’re walking back to that 5:30 class and I’m still debating if I should leave the 6:30 class coz the guy I like is in there or stay in the 5:30 class since there’s another guy I like whose there in addition to my friend who is in there too. I then realize that I don’t have a cover on my food and so ask her to wait for me as I go back into the restaurant to ask for a cover. When I’m in there I either bump into one of the workers or meet them, but it’s another extremely handsome guy who ends up giving me the cover, and when I look into my plastic bash I realize that there is a cover underneath and I hadn’t noticed. This guy smiled and chucked and lawd did I have butterflies. His smile was *chefs kids* I couldn’t take it. He then asked me out and I said yes, of course! And I leave the restaurant.

So I’m back with my friend and I’m worried because I’ve got these guys I’m dating ( at this pour I think some time has passed) and I’m not going to be in the country for a couple of months, but I still want to date them when I come back. I don’t know what to do, and therefore my solution is to bring them all together in a meeting and let them know I’m multi dating them and that I’m out the country for a while until I come back. I let them know that each has something I love and it’s hard to chose which one I like the most. I also let them know that they shouldn’t wait for me and if they hapoen to find someone they like while I’m out and they cannot date me when I’m back that’s ok too. The restaurant guy says that he’s gonna wait for me and stuff ( so sweet) and I don’t remember what the rest said, but there was a feeling of sadness and disappointment.

What is the statute of limitations on writing about real life?

When I first started, I tried to write cautiously to conceal identities. Share only the super funny/awkward/terrible moments.

Then I realized if you know me, and you stumble upon this blog, you can easily figure out who is who… and who else I was dating at the same time as you.

Apparently that's even more likely to happen than I thought, because someone I'm dating pointed out to me that you can search tumblrs by email (I'm an idiot for leaving that box checked, but I haven't written about him).

At this point I'm writing about events that occurred over a year ago, and it makes it much easier to remember only the highs, lows, and most laugh inducing moments and forget about the redeeming factors that made these dudes actually dateable.

So, if any of you are reading this, I'm sorry if any of what I remember hurts your feelings.

Quote;

'You have to choose between the two dates or you will risk ending up with neither of them.  Men don't go on a dating site to make friends : they go for love and sex.'

So ....... I don't think I have 'got' the two men I have had coffee with so I don't know how I can lose them!  

Secondly this sounds like it would be bad for me to 'lose' these people.  I'm comfortable in my own skin thanks and if someone comes along and we hit it off the this will be the icing on the cake.  Until then I don't worry about losing anything.

The following night, I finally had my second date with Nerdface.

He left for a weeklong vacation the day after our first date, and has been texting me periodically since. He even sent me a few photos of his travels. It's cute and evident he really likes me, which makes me happy because I'm intrigued by him as well.

I met him at a classic dive bar with pool tables in an area east of downtown that's even seedier than the bar from last time. It has its own parking lot and a bouncer, so I felt safe enough and loved it immediately.

The knot around my stomach loosened as I vented to him about work. We moved outside so he could smoke a cigarette, a habit I hate but like him enough to put up with.

While he smoked we had an honest conversation about relationships. He's been single longer than I have, ideally looking for a girlfriend but limited by his schedule. I told him I like him but I'm not ready for anything serious yet. He said he can deal with this (for now).

We bumped into a friend of his who was also on a date, and they challenged us to a game of pool. It was a fun, PBR filled night that ended with a passionate kiss goodnight after he walked me to my car.

Just like my first date with Nerdface, I arrived feeling like nothing could top the night before with the Enginerd and left completely smitten.

They are completely opposite:

Enginerd lives in a spacious modern loft, has every gadget and a ridiculous shoe collection. Nerdface is a struggling student getting his PhD in cancer biology and researching cancer drugs. Enginerd has only let me pay for one round of drinks on all of our three dates. Nerdface made a joke on our first date about his brokeness that rubbed me the wrong way: "I was going to make you pay for drinks tonight and offer to pay next time so you have a reason to see me again." Enginerd is social and well connected, Nerdface is more reserved as an LA transplant. Neither of them are perfect, but they stimulate me in different ways.