#movingontips

We’ve all tried different ways to move on and most of the time we just can’t stop thinking about our exes and all the shoulda woulda couldas. Well, I’ve come up with 5 crazy drastic but effective tips to help you forget about your ex.

Start a business

Yep. Just do it. It doesn’t matter if you have never taken business courses or  you don’t feel like you're entrepreneurial. Obviously I’m not saying to start investing all your life savings on a new idea. Start small. For example, start selling paintings(tip: it doesn’t matter if you’re good at painting or not, some people get paid for having a simple red dot on a white canvas…). Or how about writing a novel and selling it on Amazon? The process is quite simple and the cost is minimal. Any small startup will do. The whole point is that businesses consume your time and you will be too busy to think about other things. Plus, getting some extra cash doesn’t hurt either.  

     2. Dance

There have been a lot of studies made about the benefits of dancing. They say that dancing decreases anxiety and increases mood more than any other physical outlets. It also increases condition of your heart and lungs. So my advice to you is to pick non romantic songs or songs that would remind you of your ex and create at least 2 dance routines. So what if you can’t dance? Jump. Seriously. Jump to the right, shake your body, move to the left, do weird crazy dance moves. Have fun, you’re at home and no one can judge you. You’ll thank me, and yourself later :)

      3. Watch survivor

Watching movies or TV shows that are related to romance is the wrong way to go. Instead watch the survivor tv show. What kind of decision would you have done if you were at the contestants’ place? Can you see yourself in the beautiful places they go to? Watch a complete season or more. When you go to bed and when you seem like you’re about think about your ex, think about the tv show. Think about the beautiful location and the activities you’d want to do there. Weirdly enough, seeing them compete in those difficult conditions could make you feel better about your situation and maybe even want to travel to those locations for fun?

      4. Do 3 weird activities per month

Sometimes the common “get yourself a new hairdo” type of activities won’t make a huge difference on you. So how about doing something a bit more...wild or weird? Set yourself a goal of achieving at least 3 weird or crazy activities a month. Let me give you an example of what I did within a month: rode a camel, went rock-climbing, got a caricature and went to a rave. The following month I went caving, desert-hopping(like a bar crawl but eating sweets) and kayaking. Let’s just say I had F.U.N. So go, make plans with yourself or friends and create your adventure!

5. Be selfish

All of these tips definitely helped me move on lot more easily and quicky but one of the most important things I’ve learned is to be selfish. This is your recovery, so make sure that everyone is on board. For example, if hearing about other relationships from friends makes you feel uncomfortable, let them know. Tell them you’re working on yourself and wouldn’t mind talking about it some other time. Make sure you surround yourself with people who are going to help you, not hurt you. So be selfish my friends. At least until you move on.

These tips have worked for me. And to be honest I really believe it would help anyone move on. But everyone is different so at the end of the day, do whatever works for you. And make sure you take care of yourself.

1.) Ask first yourself. Gusto mo na nga ba talaga mag move on? dapat 100% willing ka

2.) Sa ginawa nya sayo, do you think he/she deserves you? Kasi once na naisip mo na he doesn't deserve you madali na lang yan. Kasi naka set na yung mind mo na there's someone better na darating.

3.) Pano mawawala yung memories? Hindi mawawala yan agad agad. Time will heal all the wounds. At least dba naexperience mo yung masasayang memories na ganon. Be thankful na lang!

4.) Wag ka na muna makipag usap. Kasi pag makikipag usap ka may maggrow lang dyan na hope na magiging kayo ulit which is a bad thing kasi papaasahin mo lang uli  yung sarili mo.

5.) Wag na wag kang gaganti. Kung pinagpalit ka, wag kang maghanap ng bagong lalandiin mapakita lang na meron ka DIN bago. Pagdasal mo na lang sila yan yung pinaka the best na pwede mong gawin. God knows that to do. Kausapin mo lang si God, madalas yan lang din yung inaantay nya sayo.

6.) Feed yourself positive thoughts na mag uuplift ng fighting spirit mo. Look onto the positive thing in life. There's always a rainbow after the rain.

7.) Wag mo itago yung nararamdaman mo, ishare mo sa mga trusted friends mo promise nakakagaan yan ng pakiramdam. ask a hug from them note: wag matakot umiyak! 

8.) Di masama maging bitter. Wag lang masyado na ikakapangit na ng image mo. Ksi once na gumawa ka ng ikakapangit ng image mo iisipin lang nun tama yung decision nya na i-let go ka.

9.) Ipakita mo na okay ka! Tignan mo di mo mapapansin nasasanay ka na. Yung dating nagpapanggap ka lang na maging okay, yun pala you're even better than you think. 

10.) Give time to yourself. Focus ka sa studies mo. Magpaganda/gwapo ka lalo, try mo mag work out. I-release mo yung stress mo sa mga beneficial na bagay. One day a little part of him or maybe a big part will regret why did he/she let you go.