#microlabel positivity

Agender? Love it.

Inkgender? Hey I use that one!

Boygirl? Use that one too.

Cakegender? Sounds adorable and I love it.

Plushgender? Hey I know a guy that uses that.

Candygender? So sweet!

Catgender? Meow meow, whatever makes you happy!!

Doggender? Fuck yeah you go!!!

Gendervoid? Your gender is in the void!! That's awesome!!!

Hollowgender? That's awesome I love it!!!

Buggender? I love bugs and I'm so glad your gender is connected to them

Corpsegender? I do not understand how it work but it sounds COOL AS HELL

Dollgender? You're awesome

Glittergender? That gender sparkles I love it

Trans people who identify as something similar to their assigned gender at birth. You're not less trans for it, no matter what exclusionists say, you belong here <3

Intersex trans people (who for some reason people pretend like can't be trans???) you belong here too, don't let anyone invalidate how you feel, you're amazing <3

Transmascs in general. I know you get ignored a lot, but you don't deserve it. You deserve just as much attention as everyone else! Your struggles are real and valid! <3

Cis gays. You're not less queer for not being queer in multiple ways. You have as much right to this community as anyone else <3

Straight trans people. You're not less queer for not being queer in multiple ways. You have as much right to this community as anyone else <3

People whose sexual and romantic orientations don't "match." It's okay. It's not too complicated, you have a right to feel however you feel. Try to ignore anyone who tells you you're wrong or confused. <3

People who don't use labels/who use umbrella labels. You're not hurting the community for referring to yourself in the way that is most comfortable. You're you! And that's what's important <3

People who find or coin niche labels for every aspect of their identity. You're exploring yourself in-depth and with nuance and that's amazing! Anyone who tells you otherwise is being silly <3

I mean of course everyone knows the issue is not queer being a reclaimed slur, gay and lesbian are reclaimed slurs too and no one has any problem with that. Exclusionists single out the word queer because of what it stands for. Because it is ambiguous and inclusive, yes, but also because it says "not normal", it embraces deviating, openly defying normativity, being different.

I've seen "q is a slur" people say that they are specifically against that word because they don't want to be seen as strange, because their fight is about being accepted as "normal". I've had an aphobe tell me people saying "demisexual means normal" is a privilege because actually oppressed people want to be seen as "normal" and me wanting my identity to be acknowledged is oppression fantasy. Apparently to them normalcy is so important that having your identity erased is a good thing.

Queer people are oppressed because the world doesn't see us as normal, and to exclusionists the solution is expanding the box of normalcy to fit themselves into it. To them that's what Really Oppressed people should do, and those of us who embrace queerness are privileged because we want to call ourselves "freaks". To them any identity that is ambiguous or out of the ordinary, be it microlabels, neopronouns, xenogenders, aspec labels, m-spec labels or anything else is too weird and "makes the community look bad", because their activism hinges on allocishet acceptance and anything that doesn't fit in a box and cannot be defined easily is not oppressed enough for their taste.

Tl;dr: the "q is a slur" discourse and obsession with normal is just licking the boots of conformity and exclusionist activism is about fitting into the "normal" of the cisheteronormative world, while inclusionist activism entails defying the oppressive construct of "normal". Thank you for coming to my Ted talk.

like what r microlabels doing that hurts you in particular. u dont like funky pronouns? use they/them or no pronouns at all. u think mogai hurts the lgbtq community? cope ig bcs the mogai community is so sexy.

if exploring ur identity means hoarding pronouns & genders then FUCK YEAH ??!!? like who’s to stop u ?? the tumblr gods?? we all fuckin know that this hellsite has no god and we are alone in this vast plane of fuckall.