#mental development

“We are all so different, and yet too much the same

Everyone, in some way or another, will experience a kind of pain.”  -Anonymous

Two Mysterious Sides of Human Mind:

Specifically, all of us have two sides of our mind- Rational Mind & Emotional Mind. One that thinks and the other that feels.

The rational mind is a medium of conception we are usually conscious of- consciousness, thoughtfulness, ability to consider and reflect. Apace with this, there is another approach of knowing: impulsive and powerful, and sometimes illogical.

This rational and emotional mind is a contrast between “heart” and “head”, signifying something is right “in your heart” is a different arrangement of belief- someway an intense kind of assurance. Therefore, we can say the more intense the feeling, the more dominant the emotional mind becomes; the more inefficient the rational mind is.

What are Emotions?

Emotions are the psychological states of the human body that are appeared by neuropsychological changes and are associated with feelings, thoughts, behavioral reactions, and a level of pleasure. They are somewhat complex and difficult to understand.

Do emotions cause changes in our behavior?

There are various theories answering this question. One says the physiology of emotion is firmly related to behavioral tendency. These are the operating power behind motivation. The other imagines that emotions aren’t natural energy but simply an ailment of components such as motivation, feeling, behavior, and physiological changes but none of these is emotion.

One of the common question that swirls in our mind-

Can Emotions also be Intelligent?

The friendly answer is yes. There are various theories by which we can bring intelligence to our emotions or what we call “Emotional Intelligence”.

But what is Emotional Intelligence?

Emotional Intelligence is often determined as the potential to recognize, use, understand, manage, and handle emotions. People having high emotional intelligence can perceive their own emotions as well as of others. These people generally use emotional details to escort thoughts and behavior and adjust their emotions to adapt to the environment.

History of Emotional Intelligence

The term emotional intelligence was first shown up in 1964 and gained popularity in the year 1995 with the tag of the best-selling book- Emotional Intelligence, written by science journalist Daniel Goleman. He termed EI as the array of skills and characteristics that drive leadership performances.

Peter Salovey and John Mayer defined it as, “the ability to motion one’s own and other people’s emotions, to discriminate between different emotions and label them appropriately, and to use emotional information to guide thinking and behavior.

Nature of Emotional Intelligence:

1- When Sharp is Blunt

There are universal exceptions to the rule that IQ divines success. There are many exceptions than cases that fit this rule. Furthermore, we can say that IQ only contributes about 20% to the aspects that govern life success, and other factors contribute the rest 80%.

One of the observation records, "The vast majority of one's ultimate niche in society has determined by non-IQ factors, ranging from social class to luck."

2- Know Yourself

Metamood is an awareness of one’s own emotions and psychologists use the term metacognition to state an awareness of thought process. Therefore, we common people can call it “Self-Awareness”- ongoing attention to one’s internal states.

Self-awareness is not an observation that gets affected by emotions.

3- Know Your Abilities

To the point that our emotions get in the way of or magnify our capacity to think and plan, to go after training for a remote goal, to solve the problems, and so on. This defines the limits of our abilities to utilize our mental abilities, and this determines that how we do it in our life.

4- Role of Empathy

Empathy gives rise to self-awareness; the more open we are to our emotions, the more we will be skillful in reading feelings. Our emotions can hardly be put into words but can be expressed through various channels like the tone of voice, gesture, facial expression, and the like.

Just as the mode of our rational mind is words, the mode of our emotion is our expressions.

Scientific Evidence of Emotional Intelligence

Professor Carrie Lloyd, an expert from Northcentral University explains the concept of emotional intelligence with an example. He said, “Increased EI has a beneficial effect in terms of current depression status. My study indicated that for every one-point increase in the EQ scaled score, the risk of depression decreased by 5%.”

Some of the experts have also conquered that there is scientific evidence of emotional intelligence. They have given the reason that EI scores can foretell other quantifiable results, in the same manner as IQ. Relationship and career success can be match up by a high level of EQ.

This is a piece of clear evidence that among the older adult community emotional intelligence and depression are super correlated with each other.

Conclusion:

i'm autistic, and it's weird, because my maturity is always usually around 3-5 years behind everyone else at any given point, even though i still have the mentality of someone my age.

here's the scary thing: when i was 18/19, i had the maturity of a ~15 year old. i'm almost 22, and i have the maturity of....i dunno, a 16 year old? maybe 17.