I saw you say smth about transmasculinity being sacred to Lilith - can you speak more on that? I’ve seen trans women talk about her support/connection to them but I always figured transmasculinity fell outside of her purview at best, and that she’d actively see it as “becoming the enemy” at worst.
From the words of Lilith herself,
“Rather than submit to a man you became a man that cannot be controlled.”
There are a lot of layers to this and I have SO much to say but I’m gonna try to stay concise.
The one major idea that I wanna express is that Lilith is not necessarily adversarial to men or masculinity in itself. And in fact, Lilith is not necessarily or automatically benevolent towards femininity and women either. Neither are necessarily the enemy.
- I say this to mean, you will not automatically be given favour by Lilith by simply being female or identifying as a woman, and visa versa, she’s not predisposed to hate you if you are male or identify as a man. (Or anything beyond and in between)
Lilith is overtly against patriarchy, and highly against bio essentialism. The idea that a uterus must carry a fetus, that a penis must dominate a vagina is antithetical to her entire existence. So yes, her archetype does include hostility even towards women who uphold patriarchal ideals (which is why she is seen as a danger to pregnant women in some of her myths, she is anti complacency within that system) and her archetype also encompasses comrade with men who defy the patriarchy.
In my experiences with her, there are a few aspects about transmasculinity in particular that she finds very sacred.
Through the act of medically transitioning many trans men and mascs at some point make the conscious decision to be voluntarily infertile for the sake of their own comfort, that’s already a huge claim of self that defies multiple systems of patriarchy and oppression. Lilith is highly associated with not carrying, the conscious decision to prevent procreation as a choice.
Most, arguably all, trans men and mascs have to redefine masculinity and manhood for themselves through a body that is viewed and functions as female. This is a manhood that is born not out of biology (man because dick) but out of self recognition. It is not only a rejection of the patriarchy but a completely fuckery of it. You are not bound to the same automatic biases (although you can be) as most cisgender men. Having lived in a female body, most trans men and mascs understand what it means to exist in an oppressed body. They don’t fall for the same propaganda that treats the female anatomy as strange broken and alien because they understand it.
This is super hard to explain, but whenever a woman or a trans man or a non-binary person has to go to work while on their period, that’s Lilith.
Trans men who have to go through the pressure of being sexualized by people who see them as women, and the intense backlash of phasing out of what is acceptable for women, that’s Lilith. The visceral uncomfortableness that bigots have when a trans man finally grows facial hair, that is Lilith. There is still rebellion and rage. Trans men still face insane amounts of violence from cis men. And rather then allow that to contaminate their understanding of true masculinity and manhood, they make the active decision to reclaim manhood and be different.
It is a nuanced experience with everything that is sacred to Lilith; self recognition, rebellion, submission and domination, sex, and power. Self made men.
Men who protect women not out of chivalry or even love, but understanding and respect.
