#infptag

Ideal partners are a myth, so I’d say there is no relation between your MBTI and the type of the person you’d like. However, you can have your personal preferences and the person you like might have theirs. The thing is that you have to look at the person as they are regardless of their type, because you can have a healthy relationship with any type (as long as both of you are mature enough).

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This is more of an individual thing than a type based thing. For instance, I know one ISTP who likes to withdraw for days, and another who just needs a couple hours at the end of the day to themselves. This goes for all the types though, and to most general questions about any type. I like to say that your type isn’t a horoscope, and can’t explain everything about you, everyone is still unique and different.

That being said, types leading with Ti or Ni (ISTP+INTP and INFJ+INTJ, respectively) might tend to spend more time to themselves because of their need to internally process information, compared to types that lead with an information gathering function.

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INTPs and INFPs share some characteristics, but there are some scenarios in which they would react very differently. Some examples:

Sharing their opinion: 

INTPs care about accuracy and logic in everything they do, so when sharing their opinion they will be blunt and direct. This doesn’t mean they mean to hurt, but for them when something is true, no feelings can change or soften it, so they usually speak what’s on their minds exactly as it is. 

INFPs, on the other hand, are more tuned in with emotions and how their words impact others, so INFPs usually look for the way to say things without hurting anybody (at least when they are not angry. if they are angry, run or you’ll regret it later.).

Manipulation: Another interesting way of telling the difference between the two is the way they manipulate people (Which is not a good idea, but everybody has done it at some point). 

INTPs will try to manipulate people by convincing them that what they are suggesting is the most logical thing to do, for example by pointing out the flaws your idea has 

”This can’t work because of this, why don’t you try this, which makes much more sense.”

INFPs use emotions for the same purpouse. They will try to either make you feel bad about your idea, or about how they feel, for example by showing their emotional reaction or being quiet and moody so that they are “the victim” 

”What about the people you could hurt?” “Do what you want, but I don’t like the idea… *sigh or any other sign of them being hurt but not wanting to show it*.”

Conflict: 

INTPs are best described with the expression “No hard feelings.”. When faced with a confict, INTPs will try to solve it using logic, facts and intelligence, before going back to their world and considering the debate they’ve just had a chat, no big deal. 

However, INFPs dislike confict if not absolutely necessary. Their desire for harmony is bigger than any other problem, so if faced with a direct confrontation and aggression for some time, INFP will feel drained and the need to recharge, reverting to their inner self. INFPs tend to feel bad about arguing due to their strong inner values and emotions, which is why INFPs are generally conflict-avoidant and will always try to find the best solution as peacefully as possible. But if the INFP is truly angry, they transform into a sharp, ruthless and cold machine who will get their way no matter what, accurately targeting the other person’s feelings and destroying them, their understanding of emotions being their best ally. 

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First of all, *hug*.

INFPs have strong emotions and when they trust a person, they are loyal and devoted to them, so when that person is gone, they leave a big void in INFP’s heart. However, I am here to help :)

Accept your emotions. It’s okay to be sad, to think about her and feel bad about it. Don’t try to control your emotions, let them flow and you will feel better. But remember, it’s okay to be sad, but not sadder than you were at first. Your emotions are part of you, so don’t try to supress them.

Avoid overthinking. INFPs tend to overthink what they did wrong and what could have gone differently, which leads to them feeling even worse as they realize their own “mistakes”. Believe me, most of that mistakes are not the cause, nor even proper mistakes, but looking back can make them look worse than they actually were. Accept if you did something wrong, but don’t think about what you could’ve done instead. It’s better to think of a solution for the next time or a way to fix it now than stressing over what is part of the past. We all make mistakes, but I guess that’s also part of who we are.

Share how you feel. A close friend can make a huge different when it comes to getting over somebody. Share how you feel with them, be honest, and they will listen. After opening up, believe me, you’ll feel as a weight has been lift over your shoulders. Listen to what they have to say as observers of the relationship, because they have probably a different opinion you might appreciate. I know they weren’t always present when you were together, but most people realize something is wrong before the couple does, so trust them.

Do things you like and make you feel at peace. Whether it is spending the afternoon curled up in warm blankets with hot chocolate, a walk in the park or watching the sunrise from your window, you need to find your inner peace again. Don’t worry if you need more alone time, take the time you want to recover and be relaxed, but keep yourself active. Don’t disappear for days if all you do is rumiate on the same matter. Your friends know you and the things you like, so you can depend on them to make you feel better. Start a series you have always wanted to watch, buy a nice notebook and draw whatever you can think of, or write how you feel, learn about things you like, anything you need to make you feel complete again.

Be patient. They say time heals wounds, so don’t worry if after some time you feel no progress, because it’s a deep wound and it will take long to disappear. Don’t resent yourself or her, be mature and remember that you are doing very well and I’m very proud of you :)

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Many people seem to think that all INFPs directly run away from confrontation, which leads me to believe that these people have no idea what they're talking about. Unless of course we're dealing with Enneagram 9 INFPs, the rest of us simply have a different approach to these situations.

For starters, INFPs can actually admit defeat. We are absolutely open to being proven wrong because we're Fi doms - if someone convinces us of something new then this means we learned and grew from the experience.

At the same time, Fi is also one of the reasons we're actually a bit feisty. Honestly, who examined INFPs' cognitive process and thought "ah yes that Introverted Feeling, whew, gotta love not standing up for myself after all those years of studying who I truly am haha fun stuff" ??? When we know we're right, we go all in. We're not very subtle verbally and we suck at manipulating people, so we heavily rely on Te to present evidence clearly in front of everyone to support whatever we're trying to prove. And fueled by Ne, Te is going bonkers during a heated debate.

At some point, however, no matter how angry and argumentative and flaming we get, no matter how many facts we throw at an opponent, the conversation may stop being productive. At this point we lose interest and end it. Many types consider this "giving up". I personally consider this "looking after my mental health and not dealing with unreasonable people". It goes down like:

Ne & Te: [ANGRY FUCKING SCREECHING]

Fi: children, this has become pointless

Ne: yeah it has, well, I had my fun

I kinda have this theory that it would be quite hard forintroverts who use Fi to not get along.

INFP and INTJ, once they get to know each other, willrealize that they just click, and I believe Fi plays a great part in theirmutual understanding. Both types have a need for independence. Both types will,occasionally, want to be around the people they love and openly express theirlove (I’m sorry INTJs, I know it for a fact that you’re really fluffy when youlike someone). They don’t need to communicate that to each other - they know itinstinctively.

INFPs and INTJs have the sort of friendship where they couldgo extensive periods of time without seeing or talking to each other, and whenthey meet again it would be as if they’ve last talked yesterday. Both typesalso avoid drama like the plague so there’s gonna be absolutely none of thatthere. If an issue comes up it’s probably going to be resolved instantly,unless the INFP is feeling hurt enough to start internalizing and denying it.

Actually, I think I can pinpoint three possible problems inINFP/INTJ friendships and relationships alike:

INFPs denying the existence of their own feelings to others,a.k.a. the “NOTHING IS WRONG LEAVE ME ALONE” syndrome. This drives INTJ crazy.This drives everyone crazy, but INTJ honestly takes a great hit because theynever want to leave a problem unresolved, especially in their personalrelationships and especially if it has to do with something they did.

INTJs absolutely refusing to accept help unless they askedfor it a.k.a. the “I’LL HANDLE IT FUCK OFF” syndrome. INFPs can’t stand towatch their loved ones struggle and will try to do anything in their power tohelp. INTJs sometimes want to sort things out on their own.