While self-disclosing is one way to be intimate, social psychologist Carol Tavris reminds us it’s not the only way. She writes: "Years ago, my husband had to have some worrisome medical tests, and the night before he was to go to the hospital we went to dinner with one of his best friends who was visiting from England. I watched, fascinated, as male stoicism combined with English reserve produced a decidedly unfemale-like encounter. They laughed, they told stories, they argued about movies, they reminisced. Neither mentioned the hospital, their worries or their affection for each other. They didn’t need to." Tavris reminds us that love is communicated in different ways and that connections take many different forms.