Carrd: Much more info of these ((HERE ))
The idea that all good-faith queer identities can coexist, even if they're different, complex, or hard to understand. Some identities have clear categories (Ulexens), while others bend or challenge traditional expectations (Daylilians)
This was made as a way for me to understand my own identity (Ulexen) and work through dysphoria, while also learning to respect Daylilian identities. It's not about dividing the community, it's about understanding and coexistence.
This was made to just help explain the nuances of queer experiences. Also before making any assumptions from this very simplified post please read more in the carrd :)
+FYI: both of these are inclusive of a-specs, neopronouns, xenogenders, pronoun nonconformity (examples: she/her men, he/him woman, etc..), nonbinary+ transmascs lesbians (not all transmascs are binary men), nonbinary+ transfem gays (not all transfems are binary women)
Queer identities that fit into some kind of clear category or boundary and feel affirmed by that structure :
- Labels are categorized in a more "typical" or structured way (being mono but not mspec and vice versa, binary and/or nonbinary trans men/women who want to be seen similarly to cis men/women, etc.) There may still nuances to some experiences/identities however these people usually like having boundaries/ clarity in their label and feel dysphoric or uncomfortable when grouped into more contradictory or blended identity spaces -
Queer identities that seem "contradictory", but are authentic and honest for the person using them :
- Identities that seem contradictory or outside the "usual" expectations of identities/labels (like mspec lesbians, mspec gays, gaybians, straightbians, etc.), or trans/GNC people who feel compatible with labels usually tied to another group (like trans or any genderqueer men who feel aligned with lesbians, trans or any genderqueer women who feel aligned with gay men) along with many other nuanced experiences. It's about living your real experience even when it doesn't fit neat boxes. -
Being both Ulexen and Daylilian, fluid between them, or existing somewhere in between.
Mostly Daylilian, with some Ulexen traits or alignment.
Mostly Ulexen, with some Daylilian traits or alignment.
