#impulsive behaviour

I'm a very impulsive person, when I have an urge to do something, I do it, whether it be cooking a meal at 3 in the morning (I sleep from 6am to late in the afternoon and work until midnight so 3am is everyone else's 3pm, I suppose), cleaning the whole house after getting home from work even though I should be fixing my sleeping schedule, going to the gas station to buy some chocolate because I'm worse than a pregnant person with my cravings despite having pcos (it probably is why my pms is so bad. . .), making cookies from scratch at midnight without telling my roommate because he was in the shower when I'd promised that I'd go off to bed (I was craving chocolate chip cookies), buying 3 gallons of milk at a time because my lactose intolerant ass swims in it, finishing those 3 gallons of milk within a week, buying 7 bags of pistachios for whenever "those urges" come on, start four different books at different points in the day and alternate reading them depending on my mood, setting aside those four books to start on a 900 page book because it had my favorite character (did I mention I've read all of these books before?), adopting 2 new cats who where about to be thrown out onto the street because I felt bad for them and can't say no, even though I didn't know how my son would react since he was the boss of the house before them, etc.

I'm impulsive. But I've also got executive dysfuntion. And I LOVE to cook food. I grew up with my grandmother's cooking and my mother's cooking as well. Me, being curious and experimental, would often wind up in the kitchen throwing stuff that I thought would taste good only to make something even better than expected. I still do that now. To improve one's cooking, one must experiment and not be afraid to try new flavors, yes?

I'm Impulsive, love cooking, and love trying new things. This is not a good combination, because while it leads to new foods that are absolutely tasty, I'm the one that has to taste it. The problem with this being that once I start, much like a vampire with insatiable thirst, I cannot stop, and I end up eating more than a taste. The food may end up going to waste, and I was taught not to waste any food. I made my bed, now I must lay in it despite how much I want to say no.

Impulse control is a hard one and it’s going to be easiest if your family can work together to find ways to make it easier for your sister to leave things alone. It’s going to feel annoying and silly and “she should know better” but while she knows better she doesn’t have the control she needs because she has ADHD. So you basically make it so she doesn’t have the opportunity to do these things. You provide easy-access snacks that she can eat anytime, so when she wants to eat something she knows what she can eat (make sure it’s an assortment so that she has options from all food groups). You keep your personal things in your room where she can’t get at them. If there are things you need to keep out of your room, you have designated places for those things and her things go in other places.

She would probably benefit from an ADHD coach, to help her learn the skills she needs to be able to deal with this stuff herself. For now, she probably needs external boundaries and structure, but if she has help to develop the skills she will eventually be able to do it on her own.