#identies

Genderqueer is a good term for when your gender is complicated and ineffable. Pangender, omnigender, neutrois, autigender (only if you’re Autistic), or bigender (which can be two main Gender Feels, not just single genders) might be things to look into.

mermaid- tag someone who is a positive influence on you @birdtrauma & @identies. i don’t think leah gets enough credit. not only did she bring us a perfect portrayal of mike hanlon & her wonderfully fascinating oc gloria, but she all does so much for this fandom as a whole. she brings so much positivity to this fandom! we owe her a lot for bringing smiles to all of us losers & clowns. 

unicorn-tag someone who is so good, so pure @abrastcne. i’ve only talked to eve a few times but each time she has been an absolute sweetheart. but the pure sweetness is not just directed to me but to other’s well. i see eve on my dash i see someone who is kind to who all they encounter. such a bright presence! 

I think first it’s good to know that gender and sexuality aren’t the same. 

You could also have a very fluid sexuality. Personally, your experience could be filed under “bisexual” but there are also some fluctuating sexualities too. (The one that comes to mind for me is aceflux, where asexuality fluctuates.) 

Genderfluidity is your own gender fluctuating. Some days you might be a girl, some days you might be agender, some days you might be demigender. 

I just realized I might have misread the question. I’ll leave what I wrote, but you’re not the first question I’ve read where some people feel their attraction to other genders changes.  You are fine. You might be comfortable staying under the Gay label, with the understanding that Gay changes with your gender. 

You have nothing to worry about. There is someone out there who has experienced what you’re feeling and it’s okay. You’re not alone.

Hope this helps