이찬 changmin is someone i have apparently pegged as a giver and that is not excluding aftercare. in terms of giving aftercare, he is the sweetest and i see him having experience with it to the point where he would have the basic physical aftercare down, things like cleaning his partner up and holding them close, and would be a quick learner if they'd need something more, since he is just very much open to listen and follow their needs, whether they'd need little or a lot in terms of aftercare. with emotional aftercare, he would not be as knowledgeable but only because every person has different needs and therefore is gonna have to have a talk with his partner about it, but he is always ready to tell them that he loves them a lot afterwards. now, in the case of receiving aftercare, he's a little different. he's like a doctor (since a doctor is the worst kind of patient), he is not the best about receiving aftercare, even when he needs it, which can lead to some bad spirals and physical hurt afterwards. he's so focused on making sure his partner is being taken care of that he forgets himself. he would need a rhythm of being taken care of the next day, when his mind is off being the giver.

디원 dongil is a dom, and with that comes aftercare as an integral part of sex, never an option or an afterthought. him giving aftercare has become as natural as breathing since it's also a part of his ritual for feeling better himself. he is never done until his sub and/or partner is feeling good and is taken care of in any way they'd need and want. he has all the things he need for a good aftercare; perfume-free lotion being his favourite since he loves being the one putting it on his partner after he's spanked them, knowing that he does what he can to keep the pain fun and not something that's too much of a bother outside of a scene. since he is so involved in bd/sm (my headcanon but just go with it), he knows that receiving aftercare is important if it's needed, and will therefore not hold back on communicating that to his partner. i don't see him needing much in terms of physical aftercare, maybe his hair being played with while resting his head in his partner's lap from time to time, but maybe he'd need some emotional aftercare, asking them to tell him that he isn't being too much and that he didn't cross any lines during their scene.

지케이 aftercare comes kind of natural for gwanghyun, in the way that he and his partner wouldn't be ones to move into freakier territories, but he's also quick to give his partner the care they need, giving aftercare is therefore something that just happens after sex is over. he loves holding his partner and talking with them afterwards and making the mood lighter, something that is very important to him. he doesn't want to become the cliché man that falls asleep and forgets about the person with him after he has had his orgasm. he doesn't mind falling asleep almost right after, but he does that only if he knows his partner is satisfied and feeling good, even feeling sleepy. there'd be times when he's exhausted and is trying his hardest not to fall asleep, and his partner would have to reassure him that he can. times like these are where he'd be more likely to be the one receiving aftercare in that sense. being held is something that gwanghyun secretly loves but doesn't often indulge in. he's better at letting himself be held when he's tired. he loves being the big spoon, holding his partner like they deserve but sometimes he needs to be the little spoon, feel taken care of too. doesn't say it loudly much though.

희찬 heechan feels a bit like a blank slate to me. he had mostly not known a lot about aftercare until he has a partner that needs him to know. giving aftercare would be something that he would love to do after having a conversation with his partner about what they'd need from him. he is one that would need clear instructions about how to do it though, at least the first few times until he can read his partner a little better. would often ask what they need and what he can do, quick to jump into whatever they ask of him. his favourite thing is to rest his face against his partner's, giving them small kisses on their cheeks and having his forehead against theirs, just breathing with each other and him giving love in the kisses. receiving aftercare is something he figures out he needs way too late, in his partner's opinion. he has never thought about him being cared for after sex like that, but the first time his partner asks him to sit between their legs with his back facing them so that they can clean and rub cream on the scratch marks adorning his back, he feels loved and taken care of in a way he never has before, thanking his partner for it afterwards.

룬 lune isn't ignorant about aftercare per se, but it's not something he thinks about as a part of sex like that. it's not like he isn't giving aftercare, he just doesn't think of it like that. having his arms wrapped around his partner and making sure they're comfortable and clean is something that would come so easily to him. he enjoys taking a bath with his partner afterwards more than anything, having them sit between his legs as his hands move over their skin, cleaning them from all the sweat and other bodily fluids that may have been on them from having sex. drying them off and having them wrapped in the comfiest bathrobe ever is one of his favourite things, maybe even picking out soft matching pyjamas if that's what is needed before going to bed. with how he's giving aftercare, he's also receiving aftercare at the same time. soaking his body in warm water, cleaning himself up, physically taking care of himself as he takes care of his partner while not being apart from them is his version of aftercare. he just needs to be close to them afterwards, that's all, although washing off sweat from messing around in the sheets is also great.

준서 junseo loves taking care of his partner after sex, even before he was introduced to 'aftercare' as a concept. giving aftercare is something he lives for, loving when his partner leans on him completely for care, trusting him to give them the best care. he can't help but adore when his partner reaches out for him to hold and to lift and carry to wherever they need to go. his reliable hands would never drop them. he would give physical attention where needed as much as emotional, not new to giving a little massage if he had his partner bent in some weird way during sex, but also up for talking about whatever is needed. if his partner needs reassurance, he would be so quick to give it and would just show so much love and care. receiving aftercare is not his priority, as he's usually fulfilled emotionally by taking care of his partner afterwards, being there for them is the biggest comfort for him, but if he feels like something missing afterwards, he would take a little time to figure it out himself before bringing it up to his partner. he is softhearted, so if he tries some things a little more harsh during sex, he might need a little more emotional aftercare, but his first priority will always be his partner, and then he'll tell if he needs anything.

유쿠 yuku loves the idea of aftercare! being all lovey and caring after sex? yuku's dream. he'd be so quick to be giving aftercare the best he can. he might be a bit tired out after sex but he will snuggle into his partner at the very least, telling them that he felt really good and asking how it was for them. yuku is a snugglebug and would love to slot himself right where he fits against his partner, giggling with affection. he would ask if there's anything he can do for them, they really just need to ask and he's on it, but he would prefer if it didn't involve him leaving them in bed. i can see him running his hand over his partner's back to show care. as for receiving aftercare; yuku would love to be taken care of as well, but he doesn't voice it a lot. he often loses words when it comes to getting instead of giving, but loves when his partner pulls him close in an embrace, feeling their arms around him. he may pull back a bit if he's felt vulnerable during sex, but that's where he needs his partner the most. being held is a big comfort for him, being enveloped in another person's warmth makes him feel safe. if he's in even bigger need of care, he would love to be hugged close to his partner with his face shoved to their chest, hearing their heartbeat.

해리준 harry would need a minute after finishing just to lay there but afterwards he's pretty chill about aftercare. i can see a way for him to be giving aftercare is just bringing both him and his partner down by talking. about whatever comes to mind really. "oh did you hear dean's new song? yeah i was jamming to it earlier." all while he's pulling his partner closer and on top of him to have them lay on him. would take a break from yapping to kiss their forehead and ask how they're feeling, if they need water or help to get to the bathroom. he wouldn't mind getting stuff for them if that's what they need. he would also get some lotion on his partner if he had left marks during sex, asking if they liked it or if he was too rough. he doesn't really think he needs to be the one receiving aftercare since he's the one topping and being rough with his partner, but it's always nice to feel taken care of, and if his partner feels like spoiling him a little, he won't say no to that. he especially loves it if they sprinkle kisses all over his skin, favourite places being on his chest and on the top of his back, but other than that, he doesn't think about needing aftercare much himself other than the occasional reassurance that he didn't hurt his partner.

masterlist tip jar

changmin:

so gentle

prepares everything just in case

is patient until you ask

guides you on how to do everything

even watches porn with you so you feel comfortable

goes with you to buy lingerie and sex toys

personally selects the dildo sizes for you

dongil:

he had a warm feeling when you asked him to help you

to prepare for it, he wrote out cute guides and details

gave recommendations on what to buy and watch

calms you down

sets up a romantic setting at a nice hotel

lays you down gently and asks before each step if it was okay

tender kisses

gwanghyun:

he couldn't help but laugh at your shyness

pulls you in his lap

"you see, baby, a toy can help simulate the first time"

"why don't we go buy some?"

kisses your neck gently

starts off gently w thigh riding

sits you on his thigh and holds your waist

"slowly. just like that. good girl."

seongmin:

he ruffled your hair in response and walked away

you pouted and he glanced back at you

"baby, you're only asking because you saw that movie."

you deny it and sit on your knees in front of him

he nearly snaps, the move was innocent yet to him it wasn't

"we can start with fingering."

he laid you on the couch and moved your panties to the side,

coos and kisses your lips to distract you while he slips one in

you gasp at his finger and he keeps your focus on him

moves slowly and gradually adds fingers as you get used to it

junseo:

he raised a brow

of all things, you wanted to give him a blow job

...underneath his desk

he only picked you up and sat you on the counter

"you need to learn how to give one first."

you admit to practicing on a dildo

becomes confused as to when you even got the dildo

you show him and he sighs, helping you practice on the dildo

"you're not ready yet, babe. keep practicing on the toy."

yuku:

"hentai? me?"

"you want me to suck your tits?"

he chuckled and took your shirt off and removed your bra

he explained to you gently

all while going lower, one hand playing with one breast

lips attaching to a nipple

"hentai anime fucked you up."

"i bet it was those mommy milker chracters like tsunade."

gently sucks your breasts and when you admit you came, he laughs

ends up fingering you too

harry june:

it's awkward at first

the two of you exchange nervous glances

end up searching for a porn video for hours

once settled, you two remove your clothes

you both try to mimic the video

stumbling and fondling awkwardly

once you two got into a rhythm, the video was forgotten

you two go slowly and take your time