#gynarchophobia

This video is a perfect model of how conservative society views GNC men, one of the less extreme cases where a man simply speaks talks about makeup of all issues.

This is GNCphobia. More specifcally, Cuphobia, the bigotry against GNC men and extreme femininity.

It's so tiring for people to just call someone a "femboy" "tomboy" or some other shitty fucking term or just genuinely subscribe to misogynistic incel fetishization.

Some of you guys are the most porn addicted, slimy, disgusting creatures I've layed eyes upon and you deserve eternal damnation for destroying the world for young genderqueer people inhabit.

Masculine Women and Feminine Men are QUEER. Their suffering matters. Their internal experiences matter. Their queerness needs to not depend on their sexuality.

This is an account platforming experiences with Gynarchophobia.

I will post, reblog, answer, and comment examples of Gynarchophobia when seen.

These experiences can be had anywhere. If not immediately clear, we will explain how

something Is Gynarchophobic.

This also serves as a safe space for GNC women to vent about Gynarchophobia

You may send images, screenshots, videos or instances of Gynarchophobia. This Includes: expressed bigotry, microagressions, misrepresentation, or exclusion of masculine women.

So what is Gynarchophobia?

Gynarchophobia (also kwown as Gynandrophobia) is bigotry against masculine women and GNC women as a whole and their lived experiences. This includes but is not limited to:

The belief a woman cannot be masculine. Stereotyping mascline woman as androgynous, the belief of divine femininity and inate femininity within all women. The lesbophobic belief you have to be lesbian to be masculine as a woman. The belief masculine women face less oppression. Bilittlement of HetGNC women's oppression and experience.

The fear and disgust of female led relationships and role reversal dynamics. A woman's dominance not being respected. A belief masculine women operate on the same gendered experience the same as feminine women.

Erasure of female bisexual masculinity. Fetishization and obiectificationof masculine women by any group.

Making a seperate post so nobody in specific feels called out. mainly responding to comments made by @secretscents @bellboutique @viscasi and @picturedprincess . So I really apologize to ya'll because I did have a conversation about this that got too overwehlming at first to keep my askbox going.

Our community is expanding. I'm aware a few of you have taken onto twitter and found some Virago and Mollis over there and I find your pages really heartwarming! I'm really glad you all still take the time of day to advocate, make art, and even teach me stuff along the way.

All that said...I owe you all a greater explanation about GNC4GNC relations in the community.

There's been some talk about (same gender) GNC4GNC relations over the months. Which is no suprise since this is the part I've been reluctant to answer directly before the large post. As such, there's been some confusion. I apologize for this.

The Virago and Mollis labels have always been for GNC people as its center. It operates off of principles of GNC4GNC, and people of the same allinity. Although it's inclusion may have expanded or up to others' interperetation, the focus has always been of GNC liberation and attraction. Yet, the inclusion of GNC4GNC gay relationships have been...iffy.

Some of you may be asking me why this wasn't clarified directly earlier. Sorry, that indirectness I apologize for. Here are some motivating factors:

My attraction alongside my identity wasn't entirely understood within the queer mythos growing up. Like many,I grew up understanding that bisexual masculines don't exist and end up feminine because of their attraction to GC men. Even though it didn't exactly apply to my hetgnc attraction, the societal pressure to conform to femininity also impacted my confidence to accept my attraction to GNC men and other GNC women. The internalized fear of people like myself told me to stick with feminine women, or at the very least, masculine men. This may be common to experience with other GNC bisexual women and men who's experiences tend to be challenged. GNCphobia doesn't only impact dating GNC people of a differing gender, it's also dating others just like you.

As I was asked about this experience relating to Virago, I hesitated giving a confident answer because of this baggage. I blamed myself for neglecting the other part of my bisexuality. I understood how much it would soothe people just like me to find a community who loves them just like I had with you all. As much as I felt I could increase that love, the fear that I wouldn't be fully accepted by a community i've seen grow made me fearful. So my answers...reflected that internal battle.

I told myself I had to be brave and think of the positive sides...so I acted a little rashly before at least propping up the idea formally to you guys like usual. Well, I did do that, but in hindsight, I feel like it should have been a bigger deal than a dozen direct messages. I also asked bisexuals mainly. So my pop-up announcement ended up being when I said the presence of GNC4GNC was something we were going to impliment for the sake of unity for GNC experiences. Which is still true. But Since I've recieved not-so-positive feedback, I quickly removed it because my fear had manifested right before my eyes.

Since then, my inbox was full of questions regarding it, that triggered my insecurities. Through facing it directly, I've moved past it as I saw I wasn't alone.

Wanna know what's the most ironic thing of all? I remember what I said about coming together for what we have in common

I know, I know. A real tearjerk, aren't I? But I think that it matters.

So, I want to be clear this time.

My Stance:

I support GNC4GNC inclusion within the label because it's purpose was to support and give language and community to GNC people and our sexuality. I believe it aligns with the full sexuality of the bisexuals who use this label as well. HetGNC people are of the same feather and is no less queer than GNC4GNC gay relationships.

BUT.

It's necessary to specify the struggle mono hetgnc bisexual gnc people feel when our community is in infancy. They have nothing to fall back on.

If we're going to agree include it in the label, it is on the condition we create terminology that makes us all stronger together.

Out of respect to all our struggles, I also ask if we focus on gay GNC4GNC relationships to be included on the basis if they're only attracted to those of the same shared gender AND allinity. This is how we focus on unity.

But again, I am focusing on the bisexuals here. It's extremely important as a community that if we include bisexuals, we encompass all of our sexuality, not just hetgnc. We're bi. That means we like mulitple genders and have multiple experiences. This is our existence.

That is the only limiting factor that stopped us from it's inclusion. It could either stunt its growth, or immensely create significant solidarity and prosperity for the hetgnc community. Let's all shoot for the latter.

"But Anibelle, I'm still worried..."

I'd figured as much for some of us. Unlike the parts of it now, when drafting the label it wasn't fully included in there. If you're worried about me using including it here despite disagreement, don't fret. I'll still be removing it from the carrd for now. Although I want to see if it's possible, I want to ensure the stablilty of the community we already have. This post was just me talking about my viewpoint as a bisexual Virago who relates to the people going: "This is me, but I'm not straight or bi!"

Which, we relate to as bisexuals cause we're gay too (non-bi people forget this for some reason)

A concept like:

"Female Masculinity and Male Femininity are constantly objectified, discriminated against, and pushed down upon in even in the most accepting queer spaces."

Isn't bad until someone realizes that their perception of malehood, or femalehood is limited. Even in regards to straight cis people, who under "normal circumstances" are our oppressors, right?

Which is correct. In most cases they are, even if the system may hurt us all. But these people aren't them. The same system that's used against it's most vunerable: Genderqueer and Trans People.

When it comes to truly understanding the breadth of gender, you must be able to be honest about how uncomfortable it will make you feel. How gender has sutbly been taught to all of us as being based in biology and the fear that comes with gender transgression.

Concepts of Gynarchophobia and Cuphobia weren't made in spite of another queer group you personally think is more valued. It's rooted in the real experiences of straight genderqueer people, butches, twinks, femboys, tomboys. All names for an experience that's been copted, slandered, degraded and left out (often by their own merit). There is a specific dislike of men being feminine and still being men and women being masculine but still women, even for trans individuals. Tradtionally we are told Femininity is enforced and created by women, and Masculinity by men.