Is life the chase we race
until death catches us running by?
Or are we racing death from birth
only caught the day we die?
Either way, letās hold the lead for as long as we can.
āCovet nothing but your superior self.
Seek transformation over transaction.
Individuality over conformity.
Recognize your inadequacies.
Then make one step at a time in the right direction and endure.
It will be harder than you think.
Because your long road has no arrival.
Until you die.
This was inspired by Judges 17:6 in the Bible, with some Texas Ranger giddy-up justice mixed in.ā
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please remind me to give thanks in all circumstances
not for all circumstances
Time to look up to whatās not yet been seen
where the dream is God and Godās the dream
A place called home in the den of the belief
where the last conviction wins the crown of relief.
This oneās based on the theological concept that if you believe in God, then you are supposed to be a lost and wandering immigrant on Earth. Here, you have no home, and even though you know youāll never find home here, you stay steadfast in the search. And thatās the point, because even though your only home is in Heaven, if you keep trying to find and make Heaven on Earth, youāll get back home when you leave.
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greatness is not all to each, it is each to all.
the genius can do anything but does one thing at a time.
Unlike her cousin conscience dares
she patiently waits and always cares,
judging us not for our neural void
though we may be, sheās not annoyed.
A graceful poet she finds us lost
and greets us with reflection,
she rhymes us with reminding times
so we can make the connection.
Just and true, sheās dĆ©jĆ vu
and surprises us with chances,
she flies and floats from clouds to boats
and with our dreams she dances.
Always near and never far
sheās a teacher always right behind us,
on our shoulder as we greet each day
when we take the time sheās right beside us.
Memory never forgets.
Even though we do.
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So much of life seems to come back to courage, doesnāt it? Being willing to go one more step before you quit. One step deeper into your relationships, one step further in being faithful to yourself, to your God. What if everybody took one more step to salvage their marriage, to secure their own character, to not sell themselves short? One more step by enough of us can change the world.
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Thereās a difference between a good man and a nice guy.
A good man stands for certain ideals.
And when those beliefs are contested,
a good man is not a nice guy.
I wrote this one in the late ā90s, just before I decided to stop doing the romantic comedies. People were always telling me, āAh, man, you seem like such a nice guy.ā And hey, I got it; the rom-coms were entertaining and popular, and the men always ultimately acquiesced. But it reminded me of when I was a kid and the girls would say, āOh, youāre so cute,ā and I was just dying for one of them to say, āYouāre handsome.ā Aspiring to be just a nice guy is like short-sheeting yourself; youāre a nice guy, but what do you stand for? The nice guyās easy to be around, but he goes along with everything. A good manās different. He has things he stands for. Itās harder to be a good man.
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I have faith in what I believe I could.
I speak of what I believe I should.
I do what I believe I would.
Give me the faith to believe
the confidence to speak
and the courage to do.
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The comfort and convenience you get from relying on the encore,
will pale in comparison to a great concert.
The lenient quick fix you keep lending yourself,
is pennies compared to the endless luxury you can afford.
The posture you pose in fifteen minutes of fame,
is nothing compared to the legend of your character.
The lies you tell may buy you some time,
but the truth will make you immortal.
The gifts you hoard and hide will make you jealous,
but the ones you share will show them how.
The sperm on your belly is childās play,
compared to the baby you can make with their mother.
The knowledge you keep will entertain your mind,
but the wisdom you give will light the way.
The thanks you expect will hold you entitled,
but the gratitude you give will breed freedom.
The time you save will get you there early,
but when youāre on it, youāll never be late.
The steps you learn will win you a ribbon,
but the dance you do will keep you in rhythm.
The nightmare you have is for a whore,
and the wet dreams you make love to are yours.
The negative is singular, the positives are plural.
Please sell them as so.
Respect family.
See everyone as someoneās child, sibling, and parent.
Respect them as such.
Love thy neighbor as thyself.
āWith an ebb and flow of consequences for every decision made, calibrations are necessary for every choice we make. Meaning, if you make a profit in one place, youāre gonna get a debt in another. Seldom are all systems running at peak performance. So how do you keep whatās important to you in the black? The measurements of importance in my life are my health, my family, my marriage, my career, and my relationship with God. Iām always having to recalibrate and adjust the gauges to maintain balance. My careerās taking off and taking all my time? Whoops, relationship with my family and God starts slipping into the red. My kids and I are each otherās favorite people and my six packās ripped? Probably need to spend more time with my wife. And because I donāt want to let any of those go too far south, I have to take inventory, and recalibrate. Remember those Alpine car stereo equalizers in the 1980s? Lifeās a balancing act and youāve gotta keep re-tuning your equalizer to stay out of the red.ā
Listen to yourself,
hear yourself,
learn yourself and mind.
Measure yourself,
train yourself,
referee yourself in kind.
Negotiate yourself,
invest yourself,
multiply yourself and scale.
Administer yourself,
accomplish yourself,
dare yourself from hell.
Own yourself,
exchange yourself,
pay yourself back.
We see as far as we remember
forecast as far as we recall,
projection equals inventory
no matter how big or small.
Our expectations and estimations
plans and potentials,
are most clearly seen and supported
when measured by these credentials.
By the cache of our archives
accounts and evidence,
all in equal measure
of whatās to come and what is hence.
The concept that we can only project into our future as far as we can remember into our past came to me after writing Greenlights. Never one who liked to look over my shoulder, I was forced to deal with my past for the first time. Only then was I able to project further into my future, because for the first time I was able to see further into my past.
When they are no longer in our way but on it.
With their invitation to climb,
theyāre resistance our daily grind,
giving reason to our rhyme,
they slow us down to be on time.
And no one can take us home if we donāt know where weāre going.
I wrote this on a bike ride in Vietnam after Iād taken the long way home and was halfway up an excruciating hill to get there. Already exhausted with the sun quickly setting, I was between too far up to go back and not far enough up to continue, so I carried on. As I struggled to pedal through the pain, I realized, hills are just necessary parts of lifeās terrain, there for the climbing.
The last lineās from the same trip when my buddy Woody Harrelson went to a bar in Haiphong at four p.m. and walked out twelve hours later. After getting in the back seat of a cab to head home, Woody realized he had no idea where or what the name of our hotel was. Thatās when the cab driver, who spoke very little English, turned around and said to him, āI cannot take you home if you do not know where you are going.ā
āNever give up your right to do the next right thing.
This is how we find our way home.ā
Once a week I cry for thanks
so my soul can catch its breath.
Because when youāre gone Iāll miss you
I love you until your death.
Tears of joy for both hope and pain
to have and lose what I have left.
At the edge of our property line,
on the border between where weāre from,
Iāll see your past, youāll see mine.
With a limit to lean on and hindsight,
itās here weāll get along fine.ā
When the truth comes to visit
and her presence feels your peeve,
make sure to let her in
then never let her leave.
If itās a one-night stand youāre out for
gone sheāll be before first light,
but if foreverās on her pillow
in your bed sheāll stay all night.
Never easy to live with
because sheās always in the know,
defending your court of conscience
when in the wind you blow.
Grow old with you she will
by your side and for all time,
good counsel she will give you
across the immortal finish line.
From tenant to friend to family
sheāll get rooted in your veins,
a parasite of propaganda
that will infinitely remain,
true. to you.ā
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people will die in your life who you will know would have lived longer had you been a better friend
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SELFISH
God, help me to
trust myself enough to rely on others
respect myself enough to honor others
be generous enough with myself to serve others
believe in myself enough to have faith in others
love myself enough to care for others
forgive myself enough to have compassion for others
convict myself enough to judge others
appreciate myself enough to thank others
listen to myself enough to hear others
know myself enough to learn from others
miss myself enough to stay home
be secure enough to leave
and pray enough to know You
Amen.
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Gentle rain on Sunday
giving rhyme to my reason.
Laying ambition down to rest,
a lover for my season.
She whispers caution to my mind,
āBe gentle with tomorrow,ā
when you put reason to your rhyme.
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Fuckups, Daymares, Woobly, Lost & Lookin'
āI continually miss the mark, come up short, sin, and am not the man I aim to beāthe father, the friend, the husband, the artist I aim to be. I donāt like it, but I wonder: If weāre not missing, coming up short, or sinning enough, maybe we arenāt trying hard enough. Are we not venturing close enough to the front lines of lifeās battles? Iām not sure, but I donāt believe that God wants us to stay warm and cozy in the even money exchange rate of doing just enough not to dare sin, failure, or coming up short. To leave this life and arrive home with fewer sins but less victories might even be a sin in itself.
Iāve also had plenty of times when the worldās just not making any sense. Times when Iāve been lost in the haze, looking for the dream and not finding it because I couldnāt see through my own fog. Sometimes we figure out what we should do by doing what we shouldnāt enough times to get sick of it. You know how it is. We kiss that fire and walk away whistling enough times weāre gonna eventually chap our lips and lose our tune. I suppose thatās part of the existential struggleāthat we gotta go deep enough into the pain to recognize we canāt bear the existence. Far enough into the dark to come out the other side and see the light.ā
Trying to get Truth to meet Honesty,
Honesty to hang out with Frank,
Frank to hook up with Jiminy Cricket,
and Jiminy Cricket to marry Desire.
And itād be nice if they all got along for more than a couple of hours.
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God,
I feel caught between trying to make heaven on earth
and trying to get to heaven after I leave here.
Do we get more heaven on earth by trying to get there?
Or do we get more hell on earth so we can?ā
Not the ones that haunt us
in the depths of each dark night
but the ones we have all day
that live out in the light.
The monsters weāre afraid of
and donāt dare look in the eye
the boogeymen we should believe in
but constantly deny.
The bad wolves we feed
the wounds we cut ourselves to bleed
the pets that we peeve
the lies we heed.
The addictions and pains
the murders and the shames
the blames and bad aims
the drains and false claims.
The abuse, misuse,
and counterfeit incarcerations
the proof we never had
before the condemnations.
The crimes we commit
and then falsely acquit
the evil we possess
but will never admit.
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Dear God,
Seems my sightās getting in the way of Your sound,
so many signs You left me I never found.
When everythingās significant thereās no significance at all,
Iām down on all fours with nowhere to fall.
My eyes are crossed from lookinā past the clues,
reading back to front and missing the news.
With everything so certain itās all in doubt,
Iām upside down and inside out.
Looking for meaning in every detailed frame,
giving every particular its own Proper name.
Chasing every drop blind to the rain,
Iām paralyzed, confused, and manic in pain.
Not seeing the forest for this damn tree,
itās well past time to bend my knee.
So I can hear and witness Your tells and suggestions,
in the spiritual gym where You exorcise my corrections.
Back in the days when I used to smoke weed, it was Mexican dirt weed. The kind where you passed the joint around, laughed, got the munchies, and hopefully snuck off for some good sex.
Somewhere along the way, weed seemed to get on steroids, and instead of being a tiny toke of easy inspiration, it turned into a paralysis puff of fucking analysis. Suddenly, Iād find myself stuck for hours staring at that one grain in that one piece of wood in my ceiling rafters, thinking it was trying to tell me something important. It wasnāt. Hell, one time I missed my own birthday party because I couldnāt quit playing this one song over and over in my car. Yeah, for some reason, it seemed more important for me to listen to Janet Jacksonās āThatās the Way Love Goesā thirty-two times in a fucking row than to show up for the celebration of the day I was born.
If every dance step matters too much, we never find our rhythm. If we give every note too much credit, weāll never hear the song.
Thatās why I quit smoking.
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Iāve been trying to criticize my way to superiority.
Exaggerating the faults of my neighbor.
Instead of biting my tongue Iāve been taking pride in the applause of its uncharitable tune.
Forgive me, and at least give me the courage to shut the fuck up instead.
Weāve all been caught putting other people down to make ourselves feel better. Applauding louder for their miss than our make. Itās a false sense of security we have, feeling better when other people lose than we do when we win.
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ānot quite sure how to do it wrong, but pretty damn sure i didnāt do it right.ā
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Faith & Doubt
Part of the reason my faith isnāt as strong as I wish it was is because of my pride. It gets in the way. Whether thatās the pride I have for knowledge, pride for approval, or the pride I have for self-reliance, my need for certainty, vanity, and independence feeds my doubt and is keeping me from fully surrendering the way true faith requires.
I also think pride is the reason a lot of people say theyāre āspiritual,ā instead of āreligious.ā To have full faith, you have to throw pride aside.ā
In this life, in our mind, through our eyes, and on each day,
doubt is logical and reasonable.
Faith is not.
Faith does not rid doubt, rather it carries us through it.
May our faith outshine our doubt.ā
Sometimes I pray for guidance
sometimes I bow in confession
sometimes I ask for courage
or to remember a learned lesson.
Sometimes I pray to unload
some bullshit thatās weighing me down
sometimes I pray for forgiveness
to find grace behind my frown.
Sometimes I pray for change
and the courage to move on
to a place thatās hopefully up
where I remember what is gone.ā
Sometimes prayerās just a conversation
with my conscience testing my creed
so the whispers of the Truth
can grow from thought to deed.
I pray to lean into my blind spots
to highlight the laws of beauty
To seek and correct my aims
with freedom and on duty.
To realize that the unseen
which I many times deem as opposition
is more often just the unknown
of a daring proposition.
We need skeptics, not cynics.
Oneās discerning, the other doesnāt believe.
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mortal regard is a cheap ticket.
raise your head and your eyes will follow.
dare to play the infinite game.
some people hear things,
some people donāt.
some people see things,
some people wonāt.ā
Heaven or Not
Tomorrow is not todayās measurement when the misery is bad enough.
To the suffering, consideration is a privilege.
And that is part of what faith and religion are for.
To help those in misery hang on to a hope that will most likely not be served them in this life, to sell them belief and faith that they will be served in the next.
And what if there is nothing there? Nothing to hope for? No next?
I do not know.
Either way, in misery here or without a heaven there, not having any hope or faith in anything is a certain way to remain where you are forever.
But if you can find something that can keep you going, something, no matter how small, to look forward to and continually have faith in and chase?
Well, then your life here will be better than it is now, heaven or not.
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Hey God,
I know I make excuses for spending time with You,
and the other day before we talked,
I was so nervous I got a chew.
Can we hang out while Iām Peter Pan?
Is that too much freedom for Your guiding hand?
Is it all or none, a monk or a bum?
I feel like Mr.Ā In Between.
And maybe thatās what I am.
By the way, does it count when I talk to you while drinkinā at the bar?
Help me be humble enough to seek You
and brave enough not to cower.
Amen
I wrote this in 1999, when I was having trouble believing in myself and forgiving myself at the same time. I was trying to work out how I could admit I was a sinner and forgive my sins, and how and when those concessions were a cop out. Still working on it.
Thereās no such thing as an atheist.
We all believe in something, even if that something is nothing.
And just because itās signed anonymous doesnāt mean it has no author.
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Compassion, Forgiving & Raining Grace
Now, Iām the first one to say that if Iāve done you wrong, sincerely apologized, and youāve forgiven me, then my first order of business is to start doing whatever I can do not to have to say Iām sorry again. At the same time, if we have any ideals about how the world should be, about how we should act, we need to understand the value of compassion and forgiveness to get there. To some extent, we have to believe in rehabilitation. Some of us screw up because weāre ignorant and just donāt know better. Some of us know exactly how and why we screwed up and still want to make genuine amends for our behavior. I believe that if someone truly wants to seek reconciliation for their poor behavior, we should give them a chance. Who are we to say no to a second chance if our offender recognizes their wrong and comes to us with a heartfelt and accountable plea?
Forgiveness is on the way to grace. Grace is amnesty. You get grace when you understand that you donāt deserve it. When none of it matters, and it all does at the same time. Grace is the place between self-reliance and surrender.
As well, forgiveness is good for us. Because when we donāt forgive, the anger and spite we hold against our perpetrators can make us physically, mentally, and spiritually ill. Literally. Even when that perpetrator is ourself.
So hereās to the sick getting healthy, and the healthy not getting sick.
āI love everybody in the universe except the bad guys.
And thank you, God, for bad guys,
because we can still make them into good guys.ā
āVidaās prayer, age fiveā
Forgive me, Iām sorry,
for the guilt of give a damn,
insane, a sinner, just who I am.
A repeat offender,
stuck right where Iāve been,
a certified transgressor,
over and over again.
Stress and guilt are necessary. It means we give a damn. I could be jealous of people who sleep well through the night after whatever offense theyāve committed, but Iām not, because that would mean I donāt give a damn.
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Stress and guilt are necessary. It means we give a damn. I could be jealous of people who sleep well through the night after whatever offense theyāve committed, but Iām not, because that would mean I donāt give a damn.
ālet go to climb hang on to forgivenessā
ācan you forgive me, god?
can you forgive? god?
can you forgive god?ā
FORGIVE ME FATHER FOR I KNOW WHAT I DO
I design for ease and comfort,
but the comfort does not agree.
With no resistance to overcome,
I need self-service to be free.
A defining line from then,
a connecting thread to now.
Seeking stones in the field,
to make my road more rocky to plow.
Give me chaos to make order of,
a need to break a sweat.
To suffer for significance,
a beating to pay my debt.
A wobbly glutton I am,
Iāve lost my compass in this haze.
I sing songs and speak in tongues,
but only advertise Your ways.
Until I am tired,
sick with guilt from my presumption.
An uninvited guest I am,
overserved with my consumption.
Now I search for gravity,
please ground me Father fast.
Where proof can show its face again,
and I can look in the mirror and ask,
for forgiveness.ā
God, give me another sip of forgiveness
before I am drunk with resentment.
The sip allows salvation, but the drink is gonna kill me.
THE OTHER DAY I WROTE GOD A LETTER.
God,
forgive me, Iām trying.
And God replied,
āThank you. I would rather you arrive
late to my house sweating, in a pair of
runners and a hoodie, than arrive
early elsewhere in a tuxedo.ā
The patience of grace is not passive,
no, grace does not forget.
Knowing the past was all part of the plan,
sheās never lost a bet.
Pressing on with urgency,
she always keeps her vow.
Knowing every day is the longest time,
and forever was until now.
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When responsibility becomes devotion
mandates become a choice
privilege turns to pride
and freedom hears your voice
honor becomes invitation
solitude gives you rest
hope dances with grace
and divinity serves you blessed
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Help me to have faith that the purpose of grace
is to show others the grace Iāve been shown.
That because weāve already won the race
we accept again to win what is known.
Competing now to set the pace,
to be generous with what we own.
Not because we are good enough, but in spite
of the fact that weāre not.
Amen.