hey, you don't know me, but i'm worried about someone i know. he plans on moving in with tucker/ghost-oakes and i'm pretty sure he's only known tucker for a few months uhhH,,
I bet I know who you mean, haha. Apparently they were given resources already and they shot the messenger, so in my book that means to leave it alone.Ā
Aggression is normal. At this point Tucker is so wonderful and nice (and probs making huge sexual promises, oh baby) and no oneās ever treated them this way before,Ā so they have no reason to allow you to threaten that pleasure high. We can call this THE H U G. Tucker requires a relationship because his self-worth is in sex and heās trying to replicate unconditional maternal love. Unfortunately, this person likely does not realize that 1) normal healthy relationships do not look like this, and 2) they are not specialā Tucker would move on to pedestal-ing anyone else if this person refused him. They are a rebound for the previous rebound, and so on unto eternity.Ā
They are simultaneously the most important and the most disposable relationship he has, and falling from that balance beam is gonna smart.
Now, moving extremely fast is something Tucker does very often, and this would the third person I know of who heās actually convinced to move in with him. Iono about your dudeās tolerance level, but it did not sound like a good time. Personally, Iām an accelerationist on this. The sooner it gets bad, the better/less emotional scarring. I just hope that in the mean time, Tucker will be pulling his own weight financially.Ā
(Never give money to someone youāve known less than a year, just. As a rule. If they suddenly have an Emergency, they should have older friends to help.)
The important thing is that if youāre close to this person, keep communication open. If drama or rumors pop up in your circle, Tucker is likely whispering them in someoneās ear. If youāre all honest with each other and bring up concerns quickly and respectfully AND keep track of where they originated, you can stem off hisĀ weird shit. The guy cannot thrive if everyone is nice and honest. Also, keep track of weird mood changes. IfĀ Tucker splits on this person or does that thing where his malingering narrative takes precedence over any respect for reality, you just gotta stay supportive of the person, and donāt let them feel isolated.
