#get plural

Still recovering from surgery, but imagine being so pathetic that the only way you can feel better about yourself when you see something you don't like is to send mean accusatory asks to people.

We're secure in our traumagenic plurality, and we will always always always love our nontraumagenic siblings. Asks like this don't bother us. You are wasting your time being mean and vitriolic because you can't handle seeing people you disagree with be secure and happy in their lives and experiences, and that's far more "disgusting" than being proud of having a different experience from the norm will ever be.

[not judgemental, merely curious]

we actually talk about this enough that we might as well link this in our pinned when we post it.

we originally made this blog to be a gimmick blog responding 2 "funnier as a system"-esque posts with "i have a suggestion" and whatnot, but people actually started coming to us needing advice, so we started giving it, and now it's more an advice blog than anything.

being a system has saved our life(ves) more than enough times to be considered small, and we want to encourage plurality as a safe solution to the problems we used to suffer from to people who now suffer from them.

we suffered extremely from loneliness, fear, abandonment issues, neglect, and rough relationships with our family and friends. when our original(s) started expanding the system and creating more of us it improved our mental health and led us to better bond with people because different alters could put on different "masks".

our social life isn't perfect, and we still have a lot rough in our life, but we suffer a lot less nowadays as a system who're able to support, protect, and uplift each other, and pick up hard work when the others can't handle it.

if you can't go life alone, we suggest getting plural.

It can be either. I'm encouraging people to get closer to the former than the latter. Plurality can be absolutely debilitating, but it doesn't have to be, and every system has different goals for what might get them to healthy multiplicity. We've already gotten to mostly healthy multiplicity with few memory barriers and a good bit of control over our system functions. We hope more can do the same.

And while I'm sorry that we're not suffering enough to be real and valid to you, while you're focused on how your life is miserable and hard to live and taking that out on others, we'll be focusing on making it easier for us and for others and to actually let people experience joy in their plurality.

5/10 on the hate, you have a point that plurality can be detrimental, but ignore the fact that it can be fun, too. I sincerely hope you reach a point in your multiplicity where you can have fun and joy with you and your headmates as well.

On another note, sorry for our silence, everyone! We got heavily hyperfixated on one of our projects and forgot that everything we've ever made that wasn't that project existed again. We'll be back before you all know it! The future is plural, never deny yourself the right to something that makes you happy!

So, it's really a lot of manifesting/fake-it-til-you-make-it, here's a step-by-step on how I did it, albiet unintentionally...

Notes: Fictives are easier to latch to, in our experience. My childhood imaginary friends that weren't fictfolk never really took, but the *moment* I started acting like the cast of Undertale was in my house.... Bam! Explosive internal experience, lmfao. Regardless, focus on what you think will work best, whether it's fictfolk or people you made up yourself!

Attribute identities to your headmates. Either fictional, factional, or brain-made! Things like names, pronouns, orientation, gender, and other base external experiences you can easily quickly write down!

Archive what you know, use an app like PluralKit, Simply Plural(though it will be going down soon), pronouns.cc, or other apps! As a starter system, though, you might be able to get away with things such as notepads, notebooks, spreadsheets, etc, without as many numbers to start out filling such things with!

Talk to your headmates, even if they aren't there yet! Talk back to yourself "as" them, either vocally, internally, or online! Eventually, you might start to feel a separation from those voices and your own!

Pretending to switch is a good way to get towards actual switching! As a kid, I would act like my fictives would "possess" me, and it reached a point where I actually felt as though my body actually was out of my control, and that the fictive had "stepped in" and took control.

As for staying consistent with this... Keep things regarding your headmates, your willomancy, etc, in a place that is safe, but also easy for you to keep track of and see in your day-to-day life! Attribute things that will remind you of your headmates, and what it's taking to create them! Try to turn usual internal monologues into internal conversation! Keep whatever app or website you're tracking with open or visible at most times, especially! It'll help keep you reminded!

That's about all I've got for now, but I'll add to this or make more posts about other tips as I think of them or other people ask for them!

Hii we're a little behind on our inbox but to be clear no, we do not reccomend people try to disorder themselves! Plurality can exist in a non-disordered way, and our blog is centered around achieving that for the most part.

We are anti-psych in a lot of aspects (in that we feel that the DSM-5 and the medically-recognized depictions of systemhood can be deeply flawed and demonized and that oftentimes symptoms are left out of diagnostic criteria or ADDED in order to make diagnosis harder to achieve), and simply by our definition, being disordered means that your life and well-being is being interrupted or made worse by your symptom. We are a major advocate for Healthy/Functional Multiplicity, which is what we currently have and is defined by a system remaining plural and being able to live a stable and fulfilling life instead of fusing.

Being a system has saved our life time and time again, both because of the company it provides and the fact that there have been many incidents in which we have almost done awful things to ourself and were stopped because we were able to take a break from the stresses of life and pass it off to someone else for a bit.

Systemhood has been nothing but a good thing for us, and we want to encourage other people who want that experience to have it. There is absolutely no hard feelings for the miscommunication! We're always happy to explain our point of view to others who are curious about it!

The biggest one that many starting-out systems fail to acknowledge and it bites them later on, is that you need to remember that your headmates (are/have the capacity to be) real, sentient people just like you are. Avoiding "Host Syndrome" as many in the plural community call it can be a godsend to keep your collective happy and able to help each other without starting to resent one another.

Many hosts will behave negatively, suppress, or outright force alters they don't like into solitary/dormancy/etc, which can be INCREDIBLY harmful. Yes, this includes when it's done to persecutors. Having basic compassion for your headmates is crucial, even when they are awful to you.

This isn't to say not to defend yourself, you have every right to the body and brainspace that you're in, but you must remember that they do too. Forcing headmates away, denying them access to the outerworld for arbitrary reasons, and dehumanizing them builds internal resentment and can lead to worsening symptoms of dissociation in dissociative systems, and can lead to much less internal harmony in any system.

Even as a host or system administrator, it is key to treat your system mates with compassion, understanding, and patience and to try and lead your system functions based on them. The more you stifle, push away, or attempt to harm or get rid of your headmates, the harder life will become for all of you.