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I'm going to tell you a little story. It is possibly self identifying but fuck it, it's a good story. Keep in mind this was several years ago before I read any pick up material whatsoever.

One night some friends enticed me out of playing video games in my freshman dorm room to go to a house party. I get there and it looks like a yuppie frat/sorority get together. Oops, I came ill prepared in my thrown on t-shirt, jeans and no make-up. Not my usual crowd either. I felt a little out of place, bored, and my buzz was starting to wear off. To amuse myself I decided I was going to try out a pick up line I'd come across and found hilarious. I scan the room and spot a HotStud10 sitting on the couch across the room, by himself, texting. After I walk up and get his attention I say, "You know what winks and fucks like a tiger?" He looks at me quizzically and I wink at him. He is visibly surprised and says "You? Really?...that's hot"

AND THEN HE SHOOK MY HAND AND INTRODUCED HIMSELF.

I manage to give him my name and my mind goes blank. I was prepared for him to laugh in my face or be horribly offended, but not that. I was stunned frozen, the ramifications of his response were too much for me to process quickly. A minute or two later, he got up and walked away.

I took his vacated seat and dealt with the cognitive dissonance. It all came crashing down on me at once: I'm more attractive than I thought I was, the tackiest fucking line in the world worked, and holy shit I just missed a swing at that ultra hot stud.

This girl has some great insights.

"I’m a strategist. I study what works and try to find ways to make it work better.

For example, I don’t advise women to ask men out — not because I have a vendetta against aggressive women, but simply because it doesn’t work. I’ve done it, and so have girlfriends, and I have observed that the probability of success is low.

Plus: 3 Basic Dating Rules Men Are Still Getting Wrong...

Me: You know, guys never ask one another that question.

1. Men are visual creatures and excited by resistance. Play to this. Send mixed messsages and don't be afraid to put on a show.

2. Commit to your character. I once dated an actor who had me stuck like a deer caught in headlights every time he threw me a certain look and said in an exaggerated southern accent. "My oh my, aren't you a pretty thing". I always admired his ability to pull this off so shamelessly, recognising how universally sexy such unabashed playfulness can be.

3. Care for nothing of the thoughts of others yet approach all with respect and unconditional love. While I never seek to fuck with the minds of guys I am not genuinely interested in, I do like to keep my targets a little insecure. 

4. BE MYSTERIOUS. Mystery is the backbone of seduction. You wan't your targets curious, wanting to dive deeper into the inner workings of your soul. How do you do this? I've said it before, I'll say it again; less history/more mystery. Make them work for your secrets.

5. Eye contact. Quality over quantity, and more often then not, less is more.

6. Maintain your identity. This is perhaps the most important of all. When a person stirs our emotions, love (or lust) will often call us to surrender and lose ourselves in the other. This is when you find yourself approaching them like a moth to a flame, with no plan and nothing to say. Energetically, you should only approach the other from a place of "I am my own person". Don't allow yourself to fall into the trap of being lame prey - remember #1 (men are excited by resistance). They will test you as often as you test them (which is often).

7. Act with confidence; as if you've already won his affection and you're actually not that interested in him (yes this is an extension of the "fake it till you make it" philosophy). Detachment and emotional withdrawal are extremely powerful tools of seduction.

Hi girls. Sorry for the many months of MIA-ness; I've been hit with: dun dun dun, ONE-ITIS.

One-itis /wuhn-ahy-tuhs/ : There is only one simple explanation for the term: An unhealthy romantic obsession or fixation for/on one person. This mental disease will often interfere with your ability to attract said person, due to your clingyness.

after a month of licking my wounds, cursing all men and my own stupidity, I'm back in the field. Cocky funny has been rather successful; the more alpha the man, the more it works. I wish I had more people to go out and sarge with, too bad all the girls I know at the moment are currently in a relationship or they "hate the scene." 

I've been winging for a fellow friend who's also an AFC, but he's useless as my wing; if anything, he only serves to scare men away with his social ineptitude.

A neg: A light insult wrapped in the package of a compliment. Used to slightly lower the self-esteem of your target so it makes them susceptible to pick-up.