#fearlessmonday

There is power in the words that we speak to and over ourselves. When I first started out I caught myself spending a lot of time worry about not being considered an expert because I didn’t have all the fancy bells and whistles. The main part I kept on forgetting is that I am doing the work . I am investing in the knowledge. Most importantly I have the experience so why am I am tripping.

Imposter Syndrome: Is a psychological pattern in which an individual doubts their accomplishments and has a persistent internalized fear of being as a Fraud

   Can I be honest ?All the information you have is enough to get started. Even if you don’t know everything. It is enough. 

The reason you are passionate about your purpose is because it’s something that is already inside of you . The reality is we shy away from what we accomplish because we do not want to come off as an imposter or be judge by our peers (Which is all in our head  ). I still have moments where I have remind myself I got this , here are a few things that help me.

Seperate Feelings from Facts  

   Stop giving so much power to temporary feelings. What I do now when I find myself drifting to that place 1. Will this matter 30 days from now ? 2. Will this matter a year from now ? 3.Lastly can this help me further my purpose? Decide if this worth giving so much energy. Although you may not think you are an expert , the facts is you have the experience, you have the results so own it.

There is something powerful when you are determined to stand and express yourself . Can I be honest with you? It took me a year in half to start my fashion chronicles where I would be held accountable for updating and posting regularly. I had so many notes in my notebooks I started to feel ashamed. 

I remember feeling incomplete because the things that my heart desired,I would continue to place on hold. If I asked myself a question I would have a response to my questions. Some of my excuses looked like . Well I  am a single parent I do not have time . Another excuse would be my full time job demanded 11 hours from me and I was tired . Even worse I compared myself to people who been in the grove vs focusing on how I can share my message . 

I remember talking to my daughters father asking him if he can help me watch Amiya during my visiting time so I can build my Dream his response “I can try”. When I hung up reality showed up and was no longer going to move over while I make bullsh** excuse . In that moment I realized I was willing to yet again place my success on someone elses time table . Within that moment I decided I am going to go for it and not look back . I am happy to report I am so happy that I did.

You should also have this same attitude when it comes to your style . As we walk into a new season think about how you want to express yourself . What is it that you actually want to say ? Whatever that is do that and don’t look back . 

This fall I am loving Burnt orange and Mesh together. Both gems I picked up from my local Forever21. The top is an actual body suit that has mesh sleeves I got this for 3.00 dollars yes girl . I have an eye for gems  can we say#Sheefinds .  

The skirt could be worn two ways which are regular or high waisted. This look is great for your favorite holiday party , brunch or just because. One tip to keep in mind is make sure you have the proper gear on that way your clothes can look smoother and stays in place .  

What are you looking forwarded to this fall ?