One example: Spencer Reid.

I mean yea, the first two seasons or at least until the whole addiction arc he is clearly young and needs guidance, especially looking at the circumstance of his upcoming.

Therefore I understand Gideon's and Hotch's approach, giving guidance and so on.

But in the later season when Reid gets called "kid" by morgan when Reid is in his late 20s to early 30s it just gets kinda weird. I mean, yea, Reid is in their eyes the kid and youngest. But like, come on.

It's just weird, it's a whole ass grown man

(I'm only on season 10, therefore I am not sure how the team handles him after that point)

BUT the fandom is even worse. Here on Tumblr isn't it that bad I think, at least I didn't see it here much. I see it mostly on Pinterest where people are just like "My babyyy" "My lil autistic boy" and so on. I don't think I have ti give much examples since I believe we all know these kind of posts.

It's just creepy. This is an adult and he gets treated like a kid, and why? Because he is socially awkward and has a tragic childhood?

There are filters. There are block buttons. There are tools to avoid certain things. But people aren’t going to debate what you want them to debate, or do it the way you want them to. That’s just not how it works. You’re not special, or better, or worse, or morally superior, or any of that bullshit just because you want to enjoy fandom differently than others. You’re just someone with a specific way of interacting that might not match how others do it. That’s it.

If you don’t like how others engage with the fandom, then block everyone except for the handful of folks who vibe with you. But stop whining, this is a public fucking space, and it literally belongs to anyone who signs up with the same rights as you to interact however the hell they want. “Oh, I don’t even want to log on anymore because it’s always the same horrible hate-filled discourse” so what? Nobody’s going to stop interacting however the hell they want online just because Your Highness finds it annoying.

And you’re not more adult or mature, you’re just someone who, for whatever reason, doesn’t like conflict. Some people do. You vent your way, others vent theirs. You love writing seven-page meta posts comparing Schopenhauer to your favorite character, and that’s great. Others love drawing political parallels. The difference is that I think it’s totally cool that you write biblical-length essays, but you get annoyed when I bring politics into fandom and start crying about how that’s “politicizing fiction” or “using characters for political discourse.” As if you’re not doing the exact same thing with your own worldview.

Maybe the problem is you’re just a lame centrist who votes “progressive, but not too much,” and it bugs you when certain political theories or comparisons show up in your fandom because they force you to take a stance, and you don’t want to, because then your true colors will show. Maybe what really annoys you about some fandom interactions is that they put you in front of a mirror and make you actively choose something instead of coasting passively through it all, and that’s not how you want to escape reality. Totally fair, you’ve got every right to feel that way, but the rest of us also have every right not to give a single fuck about your comfort or your privilege, and to keep engaging with fandom however we want.

Throwing such a fit because you didn’t like the ending of a movie/the fate of one character that you petition the studio to change canon to fit your personal preference? What is that?

Movies end badly. TV ends badly. Characters get screwed over. Just because you or I or any other consumer of fiction doesn’t like something, didn’t get exactly the thing that we wanted, doesn’t mean we get have it erased from history.

Movies aren’t a democracy. Books, TV, not a democracy. Because if they were, nothing would ever get made. Anything that did would be under constant threat of getting undone because of fan rage, and what writer or director  or any other creative person wants to pour months and months of their life into something that’s going to be meaningless anyway, because the fans threw a fit?

Stories are going to get made about your faves that you don’t like. It happens. It will always happen to all of us at some point. You’re consuming media made by someone else to entertain the masses, not you specifically,  that’s what happens.That same creative choice you hate with a passion, someone else loves. Why is your opinion about what’s good or bad when it comes to FICTIONAL worlds more valid than anyone else’s?

There are literally thousands and thousands and thousands of better things to organize/start a petition over than whether your fave lived or died, or whether your ship is canon.