#extroverted introverts

Friend Billy: Hey, wanna come to a friend’s party? It’s gonna be really cooool!

Introvert (in head) : I’d rather be at home just eating a bag of chips and watching netflix but since you’re my friend and I don't want you to think I am an anti-social weirdo I'll act like I want to go....

Introvert: yeah sure :)

*goes to party*

Introvert, in head: nonononono.. why did i come to this? I don't know anyone here. *anxiety* ok, ok. just calm down. Let's just find a space were no one will talk to me and just chill there. Ok? OK.... THERE'S SOMEONE COMING. OH NOOO. WHAT DO I DO? HE LOOKES INTIMIDATING, I DON'T KNOW HIMMMMMMMM HE--

Extrovert: Hey, so are you new here? I haven't seen you before...

Introvert: Yeah. Billy's my friend, he invited me here.

Extrovert: Oh cool, Billy is so nice. Well, nice talking to you, cya :)

Introvert: bye...

Introvert in head: Ok that wasn't that bad. I'm overreacting, parties are cool, I really just need to calm dow- THERE'S SOMEONE COMING HELP!!!!!1!

huh. 50% introverted and 50% extroverted.. how... interesting.

apply for that job, move abroad if only for a while, stagedive, kiss him (but ask first), write lyrics and put them out there, be there for your friends when they need you, cut your hair however you want it, try it out, hate it, try it out, love it, fall in love even if you don’t asdfghjkl (it happens don’t fight it), take criticism, tell someone you love them for the first time, invite yourself. own it

Also known as an ambivert, an extroverted introvert is someone who exhibits qualities of both introversion and extroversion.

1. Their spot on the spectrum changes with their environment.

Your ambivert friend may be loud and gregarious around their family, but quiet and thoughtful at the office. Seeing them in both situations may feel like meeting two entirely different people.

2. Talking to strangers is fine – but don’t expect them to keep it to small talk.

Although an ambivert can hold up their end of a conversation, talking about the weather will not be enough to engage them. Their social energy is limited enough that they won’t want to waste it on meaningless chatter. They will likely push the conversation into deeper territory or bow out entirely.

3. They like to be alone – they don’t like to be lonely.

There is a big difference between the two. Choosing to sit at home with a tub of ice cream and a book feels fantastic. Sitting at home because nobody called them back feels sad and lame.