#executive functioning disorder

I can’t help but hear negative connotations in your statement. 

Yes, it’s true that People who have troubles with Hygiene need to find a workaround. and I would say most of us do. If I really need to, I’ll wet my underarms and wash them/ shave them. I’ve noticed that if I have underarm hair, I tend to smell more, so keeping them shaved tends to save me some energy in the long run. I can also wash my face at the sink. I’ll usually take a damp cloth and just wipe off the sope so I don’t have to worry about water running down my forearms. I can also use dry shampoo if I notice my hair getting a little oily. I honestly try not to over wash my hair anyway. It’s a little damaged from bleaching it so it’s better to let the natural oils heal it. 

As I said in my post, this is a subject that needs to be handled with care. Not just going around saying “WELL ppl who can do shit needs to fix it.” we know that. We know we need to do things,  as long as we remember them. there are lots of little things we CAN do if we need to. I also don’t do a lot of physical exercises, so as long as I keep my main parts clean, I can go a few days without actually physically getting in the shower. 

If you are don’t know what we’re talking about, you should check out my don’t Blame the Aspie  #9 post about Hygiene. 

And please, if you are going to leave a statement or question in my inbox, Please try to make it positive. ask a question rather than making a blunt negative statement. I would rather people ask good questions and learn than be ignorant and continue to have the wrong Idea about things.

Found this, and it is too real. I would also like to add:

My life - the musical: There is a song in my head. All the time. I don't even have to know the words, my mind just substitutes gibberish that mostly sounds correct. It never stops. Sometimes it's the same song for days.

Think about All The Things: You want to sleep? Ha! Good luck! You aren't gonna be doing that, instead you will be thinking about life's greatest questions, that thing that asshole said to you and how annoying it was, what kind of dog you would like to get, what to eat tomorrow, that neat book you read in middle school, etc. Your body is tired, but your brain will Not be quiet.

The tutorial only comes in text format: How am I supposed to pay attention to this long enough to read it. What if I don't know what something looks like. Why are there no pictures??

This is mostly for me to use as a reference sheet for later, but I’m posting it because this might help someone else too.

If you keep getting distracted from what you’re supposed to be doing:

write a list and cross off the steps as you go

rely on something time sensitive AND PRESENT. For example, unload the dishes while your food (a thing) is in the microwave (another thing), NOT before you leave (an action, not a thing) for work (also not a thing)

Make your objectives easier to deal with mentally. If sticking to a strict schedule makes you anxious or stressed or just isn’t helpful, then don’t do it. Do at some point today: Unload the dishwasher, throw the trash, take a shower vs Unload dishwasher before breakfast, throw trash after work, shower before bed

If you need a little boost of motivation:

put on some upbeat music to get you moving

make it into a game

have someone else to work with or sit next to

IF YOU ARE STUCK IN YOUR UNDERWEAR ON YOUR BED AND HAVE BEEN THERE FOR AN HOUR

Phone a friend. Call them and have them talk to you as you get ready

It hurts most for me because of my chronic conditions - especially those that aggressively my Executive Functioning Disorder.

But it’s such a fucking horrible message for just - everyone.

No-one can ever be too busy - if they care, they would make time.

Just. No.

Fucking no.

Imagine a typical United States nuclear family, two working parents, two kids.

It’s flu season, the eldest child is in basketball, the younger child has to go to an after school learning center because of general help.

How many things can go wrong with this family in December?

What if one of the parents is fired because of job complications related to the breakdown of Twitter, Meta et al., because those disasters are going to affect public relations in every industry in a ripple effect that is already being felt throughout Silicon Valley.

Who does what if one of the kids is sick, the other still had commitments, but both parents are still working but with mandatory overtime.

And the grandparents have work of their own, because they’re still not approaching the distancing retirement age.

Where does this family find the hours to reconnect with family across the continent, their church, their hunting buddies, their book club?

How many commitments is the average modern adult expected to maintain???

This lie of “if you cared, you’d make time” fucking hurts regular physically and neurologically typical individuals overwhelmed in a society that has systematically removed supports and blamed them for it.

How does it harm those who needed additional supports anyway?

We care.

We fucking care.

But we are overwhelmed.

Physically abused on a cellular level by exhaustion, unending cycles of illness we cannot take time off to recover from, and the very support institutions we previously relied upon to maintain connections burning before our eyes.

We fucking care.