Judging functions differentiated
In case y'all haven't noticed, high Fe and high Te can look awfully similar, and so can high Ti and high Fi. So my intp friend made me write this up, haha, and it seems to have helped for now, so I thought I'd share it.
There are two steps to differentiating judging functions. First, you need to understand how the function sees people. Second, you need to understand how it sees its own feelings.
Tl;dr version
High Ti = People are puzzles
High Fi = People are like me
High Te = People are full of potential
High Fe = People are stories/my children
Low Fe = People are toys
Low Te = People are projects
Low Fi = People are human
Low Ti = People are emotional projects
TPs
High Ti = people are a puzzle that can be fun, but if I get in too deep it gets messy cos EMOTIONS. SO I have a ton of acquaintances and don't get in too deep. Lols.
Low Fe = I can actually understand people pretty well when I want, and can usually work out how to get them to do my bidding. I can also upset them for fun haha, so much fun, people are my play things. But also, as much as I hate it, I get kind of depressed without actual meaningful relationships. I'm also secretly super sensitive and romantic, so I better go find someone who helps me feel something. Also, I'm scared of real confrontation, and will do things cos idw to upset people.
Low Fe is charactersised by snappy aggression/insensitivity and a person who's easily hurt if you do the same back. Also, while it's good at being manipulated, it's good at being pushed around.
FPs
High Fi = people are complex, tortured beings who all have secrets and layers and are all basically me. People who don't appear like me are either boring or playing me. I'm sensitive, don't have a go at me, but I'll have a go at you when you're being IMMORAL and you're not allowed to cry cos you deserved it.
High Fi is entirely self focused, or to word it a little more positively, is authentic and genuine within itself. It views people as either extensions of itself or at opposition with it. You're either with Fi or against it, there is no in between (Ti is a little better at this!).
Low te = I know how to achieve my moral things I believe in, so I can take care of you and be generous. I can also give you tough love, which everyone needs. So for example, one time I was being dramatic and you yelled at me, it really helped. So now I don't understand your problem, I think you're dramatic and I'll yell at you. Also, my Te isn't that good at planning, so I kind of create drama and then cry about it lolzzz.
Low te views people as fixable human beings that can all be fixed and handled using the same system/methods that work for the Fp.
TJs
High Te = people are useful, and could accomplish so much if they reached their potential. Every human is varied and has different skills and needs different MANAGEMENT to reach their potential. This is why it can look like Fe. Te can be very kind to people, because it acknowledges the proven benefits of kindness, and it will vary its support methods depending on the individual, because all humans are different. Their support is driven by Te, which wants to fix you and draw out your potential, which may seem disingenous to Fi doms, and mbs even Ti doms on a bad day. Te aims to communicate effectively and get things done so that the world can function better.
Low Fi is secretly insecure and romantic, like low Fe, but it's less of a social fear and more of a personal 'what if I'm an immoral failure?' kind of fear. It wants to be kind to people because that's what IT likes, and also, it's the best way of living, cos we're all only human.
Tldr = high Te is entirely focused on POTENTIAL and how to get there
Low Fi is focused on not being an immoral loser while getting there.
FJs
High Fe = people are stories basically - also, my babies. Every person is different, has a different experience and understanding of the world, and a unique perspective which has value. It doesn't matter if you disagree with Fe if you can justify it, they want to understand why certain people feel that way. Fe wants to connect with everyone, and as deeply as possible. It wants to understand people at their core. It doesn't want to do anything with that information other than ensure everyone can be their happiest, most content selves. It wants to improve the individual not for society, but for themselves - YOU'LL be happier if you lose weight, for example. For itself, Fe has no clue what it's feeling or necessarily what it wants, which is why Fe doms can be sheeple if they're not careful.
Low Ti = the fire that fjs secretly have. The reasons they give you to GROW UP AND DO THE RIGHT THING FOR EVERYONE. Basically, Fe doms go gently and subtly, so if an fj is talking straight to you, they really want you to listen. Low Ti is focused on provoking change in the people around them so that people can he happy. Low Ti is tough love done right, and low te tries to imitate this in a bulldozing way. Low Ti tough love can be as simple as letting someone fail and NOT saying I told you so - low Ti doesn't need that affirmation. The main problem with low Ti can be strange thoughts and fears, and easy gullibility. Low Ti views people as emotional projects who must change themselves from within, with a little emotional therapy.
