#developmentally disabled

shout out disabled people that have bodies people think "weird".

shout out disabled people with medical equipment / needs people think "gross".

shout out disabled people that "too high supports" for even other disabled people to handle and get pushed out of the community a lot.

especially. intellectually and/or developmentally disabled (I/DD) children, & children w behavioral or “behavioral” struggles (aka many I/DD children) not allowed be children.

which may be weird thing say at first because I/DD famous for be infantilized, be treat as forever children. so would think children be only thing they “allow” be, n say they not allow be children contradicting—

but not actually.

as general whole, nondisabled children “allowed” tantrums. allow emotional immature. allowed childish quirks.

what be normal child tantrum fuss in (white) nondisabled children, even with child health/care professionals who whole entire job be understand that nondisabled typically developing child have underdeveloped brain n not yet have self regulate skill n that developmentally appropriate that normal, it may be talk as annoying & inconvenient, but for I/DD children every. single. time. where they “tantrum” “fuss” even in developmentally appropriate ways, chance be write as sign of their disability, sign of behavior problem, sign of emotional problem. be evidence of disorder. of abnormal. of something wrong. which be “okay” reason dehumanize, abuse, be talk about like animal, like not in room, like difficult problem to be solved.

nondisabled adults fondly look back at childhood comfort objects that maybe still have now, stuffed toys blankets or maybe less usual things that mean something to them. but when disabled children have them it be more likely *automatic* see as problem, as something need be weaned off, need be taken away, as unhealthy overattachment, be write into behavioral plan, only allow x minute per day, see as “impractical” & “useless”.

as general whole, nondisabled children allow say no, allow act out “no,” allow prefer, allow not want do something so protest by not doing, by not listening, by pretend not hear you. it may be see as funny or annoying but meanwhile for disabled children it largely see as oppositional as noncompliance as inattentive as something need be trained out of by all means possible.

nondisabled children do things because they kids. disabled children do things because there something wrong with them.

nondisabled children rights n autonomy not fully respected by any means but disabled children get even less of it.

disabled children often not allowed many leeway’s as nondisabled children, what be developmentally appropriate for same age nondisabled children often be over label as disorder as problem as something abnormal need be get rid off in disabled children.

The tests the doctors were putting you through were boring, and they lasted almost all day. They made you do math and read books out loud to them. They showed you all types of things and asked if you knew what they were. You didn't like all these questions, or all these people pushing you to do more stuff.

"Y/N, we need you to try and read this." The doctor, what's his name insists, sliding the small book in your direction. You grab it, throwing it across the room with a grunt.

"I don't want to! I want my Papa and I want to go home!" You shriek as you slink underneath the table, fighting back tears. You knew you shouldn't cry when people were around. Papa didn't like it when you cried. You hear the doctor trying to coax you out from under the table, but you cover your ears.

You don't have to listen to him. He isn't your Papa! Your Papa was gone, leaving you alone again until he remembered to check on you.

"Little one..." You jolt a little when you hear Simon's voice, looking up at him and tugging at the ends of your hair. Did they send him because you were in trouble? "What are you doing under there?"

"I don't want the stupid book! I don't want the tests!" You kick the chair in front of you, satisfied when it tips over with a loud bang. "This is stupid!"

"It is really stupid." Simon chuckles as he sits down on the floor with you. He sits the chair back upright, holding the back of it when you kick it again. "Just because it's stupid doesn't mean you can throw things or kick. You can use your words to tell us what's wrong, Y/N." You stare at him in surprise, tears filling your eyes at his stern tone.

He wasn't even yelling at you. You were used to being yelled at, so why was this making you cry? You hiccup and nod along to his words, squeezing your knees against your chest.

"What's wrong, kiddo? Hmm? Why are you crying now?" He prompts, making you huff and whine in annoyance. Simon just sits with you while you throw your fit. It only takes a few minutes for you to scoot out from under the table and curl up to Simon's side.

"I don't know what's wrong." You mumble as you wipe your tears away. "Is this my papa's fault?" You ask as you look up at Simon, chewing on your bottom lip. You always knew Papa didn't really love you. He took care of you or made sure someone else did, but he never truly cared about you. Simon rubs your back softly, nodding he head slowly.

"Yeah... Yeah, it is his fault. He's not a very good person. But we're going to take care of you, okay?" Simon assures softly, relieved when you don't start crying again.

If you think physically disabled people having their own spaces and movements is a problem, fuck you and fuck off. Do not interact with me. Cripplepunk is FOR PHYSICAL DISABILITIES. It is not meant for you. Stop derailing it. Stop making it about you. Different types of disability have different types of problems, and there are problems that physically disabled people have that non-physically disabled people don't, and vice versa.

IT IS NOT ABOUT YOU.

CRIPPLEPUNK IS NOT ABOUT YOU.

STOP MAKING IT ABOUT YOU.

I am someone who is both developmentally disabled and physically disabled, as well as mentally disabled.* There are spaces for different types of disabilities. I am not speaking from an outside perspective. There are movements aimed for people of different types of disabilities. There are movements that include disabled people as a whole. Get your shit together before I punt you into the sun.

* I do not have an intellectual disability, I have various mental ailments such as PTSD, incase that was unclear.

they really didn't succeed at making me look "normal" or "natural" just really artificially stiff. it makes me sad because I've seen other autistic people get this way too, just completely still all the time and it's apparent that they have also been shamed out of moving (by ABA therapy or otherwise) we didn't learn to move "correctly" we just learned that our movement was "wrong" so we stopped it.

You deserve to have your support needs met.

A lot of LSN disabled people get upset with higher supports needs disabled people for not being able to accommodate them

And for having a greater accommodations that conflict with their lower needs.

I am NOT saying:

That LSN don't also deserve acommodation

That HSN is inherently more worthy of being accommodated than LSN

That this is what all LSN people are like

That HSN people who can accommodate LSN don't exist

However, some LSN people seem be under the impression that it should be just as easy for HSN (and even MSN like myself) to accommodations as it is for LSN people.

It is not.

It can be much harder.

Fact is, higher up you go in support needs, typically lower you go with ability to accommodate. Not always case, but often.

Often yes, LSN will need to accommodate HSN more than other way around. Even in cases of conflicting needs where the LSN person is also struggling.

It takes figuring out.