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It’s so important for detransitioner stories to be heard! However, the detrans stories that receive the most media attention and coverage are often from biased right-wing sources that twist and repackage detrans narratives for an anti-LGBT and anti-woman agenda. This makes it even more crucial to spread awareness and information about detransitioners from unbiased sources that do not support the right-wing/conservative agenda, and so that misinformation is not further spread.

Detransitioners need the support, empathy, and kindness of the left-wing as much as all trans people and other LGBT+ people do, since many continue to suffer from dysphoria even after detransitioning, sometimes feeling worse than they did before. So I’ve linked some informational resources and websites below.

Post Trans is a website founded by two detransitioners from Belgium and Germany, which shares a collection of detrans stories from detransitioners and desisters.

Are You Asking Why? is a website for a grassroots organization created and run by a group of detransitioned and re-identified women since 2013.

Link to a transcript of a 2023 Q&A Panel with seven detransitioners.

@detransition is a Tumblr blog that shares resources and stories and answers questions about detransitioners as well. See their About page for more info.

@detransstories is another Tumblr blog where stories from detransitioners and desisters were shared. This blog is associated with the Pique Resilience Project website, created by a group of four detransitioned and desisted women, to provide resources for support for those who may be questioning their gender or identity. This 2 minute long YouTube video by them addresses some misconceptions about detransitioners.

Detrans Joy is a youtube channel independently made by a detransitioner who has been making videos to document and talk about her experiences and struggles with gender-affirming care.

Here is a link to an informational booklet created by the Post Trans organization (mentioned earlier), in which they gathered the written experiences of 75 female and male detransitioners and created the content based on their wishes, advice and thoughts. The 50-page long booklet has the objective to reach detransitioners and desisters, their relatives and close ones, people who consider a transition and wish for more information, health professionals such as endocrinologists or therapists, or anyone who wants to learn more about the topic.

Detrans Awareness Day website link, which also has a helpful Resources section.

There are many more other websites, blogs, articles, videos, organizations, and social media accounts that I could’ve linked to share some really valuable and enlightening stories about the experiences of detransitioners with the healthcare system, but I didn’t want to risk accidentally including any links that could espouse any potentially bigoted, conservative, right-wing, misogynistic, and/or anti-LGBTQ+ agendas. Regardless of what the detransition rate currently is or whether the statistics are up-to-date, detransitioner stories deserve to be heard, so that more research can be done to make sure that all gender-dysphoric people can receive the appropriate healthcare and treatment options to help, since social or medical transition may not work for everyone, but their pain and dysphoria still deserves to be addressed.

Have you experienced shifts in your identity after transitioning?  You may be eligible to take our survey. The purpose of this study is to develop understanding and support

Participants must meet the following eligibility criteria: 

-aged 16 and older

-living in the United States or Canada

-have ever discontinued a gender transition* or detransitioned

-desiring to detransition but feel unable to take steps

*We define gender transition as social, legal, and/or medical interventions used to affirm a trans/nonbinary identity. People who have desisted are eligible to take the survey.

And tonight there was this girl I've known for a while. We were all having fun together and after a while, without me realizing it, she started using masculine pronouns when talking about me. And she did it several times without stopping until the end of the game, probably because my deep fakegirl voice let her go.

And when I think about it, this girl makes the mistake about this very regularly at work. She must have understood my game well, she doesn't let herself be fooled by this whole feminine facade that I put on. And the best thing is that no one noticed this detail of the evening, it seemed completely normal.

What ultimately frustrates me the most about this story is that she never really confronted me on the subject. It would be so good if she put me in my place one day in front of everyone. The humiliation would be such that I would end up having to admit that I am just a man who cross-dresses. A pervert who takes great pleasure in passing himself off as an ingenuous young girl to draw attention to herself, out of regret at being a mistake as a man.

A few people over the years have come to my DMs asking kinky questions about my detransition and then get upset when they realize it’s real. Too real for them to handle.

I’m here to answer questions (even sexy questions!), but please be mindful of your own mental health. You can be whoever you want to be. Whether that’s a gorgeous woman (god, so many of you post pics worried about your looks when you have nothing to worry about) or a guy like me.

My husband says that I’m a transmasc now, rather than a detransitioned cis guy, and I like that idea. I love and support all my trans brothers and sisters. You’ll always be my community, and we’ll always have a kinship I never can have with a cis person.

from laundryandtaxes

I can kind of understand people’s inherent shock at the (growing, and increasingly difficult to ignore) existence of detransitioned people given the prevalence of the notion that transition is The Treatment for gender dysphoria and the prevalence of the notion that gender dysphoria is not at all like other forms of psychological distress- depression, anxiety, etc- but functionally a soul level characteristic that does not abate until treated with The Treatment.

But I have to say that their shock at the fact that lots of detransitioned people come out of detransition with very different ideas about gender than they had when they went in really highlights how little thought most people have given to any of the relevant questions around what transition is, around what gender dysphoria is, around what transition can do for someone vs what it cannot do, etc.

If someone went into a process being told (including by medical professionals) that something called a gender identity made them more or less inherently a person destined for cross sex hormones in order to actualize that identity, that their distress (dysphoria) was being caused by living out of alignment with that soul level characteristic, that this treatment would not only alleviate their gender dysphoria but would even alleviate the other mental health problems that many many people bring with them into transition, that this treatment would make their life better in immeasurable ways that would make it worth all of the downsides, only to find out that literally none of that ended up being true for them, it is absolutely not even slightly surprising that they might come away from the process not just feeling that they “made a mistake” facilitated repeatedly by mental health and medical professionals that they trusted to do right by them and to not cause them harm.

It is not at all surprising that they might come away from the process with an entirely different understanding of what the process itself is. It is not at all surprising that someone who’s taken cross sex hormones for a length of time might eventually come to realize that cross sex hormones are not in fact magic, they’re just hormones, and that leaning on magical thinking (having been born in the wrong body, etc) to source their psychological distress and then on cross sex hormones to fix something that was not a medical problem to begin with, is an approach to this problem that they’ve personally tried and found to be fundamentally lacking.

If you dislike the criticisms that many detrans people make of transition as a process, that’s one thing, but it’s another to act shocked about how and why that happened simply reveals that you haven’t even allowed yourself to ask some very fundamental questions about what kinds of decisions people are making and what factors are driving those decisions.