thinking about detransition?

Gender Detransition: a path towards self-acceptance (free pdf) available in english, german, french, dutch, spanish & swedish

Gender Detransition: a path towards self-acceptance (free pdf) available in english, german, french, dutch, spanish & swedish

Gender Detransition: a path towards self-acceptance (free pdf) available in english, german, french, dutch, spanish & swedish

Gender Detransition: a path towards self-acceptance (free pdf) available in english, german, french, dutch, spanish & swedish

Gender Detransition: a path towards self-acceptance (free pdf) available in english, german, french, dutch, spanish & swedish

Gender Detransition: a path towards self-acceptance (free pdf) available in english, german, french, dutch, spanish & swedish

Gender Detransition: a path towards self-acceptance (free pdf) available in english, german, french, dutch, spanish & swedish

Gender Detransition: a path towards self-acceptance (free pdf) available in english, german, french, dutch, spanish & swedish

Gender Detransition: a path towards self-acceptance (free pdf) available in english, german, french, dutch, spanish & swedish

Gender Detransition: a path towards self-acceptance (free pdf) available in english, german, french, dutch, spanish & swedish

Gender Detransition: a path towards self-acceptance (free pdf) available in english, german, french, dutch, spanish & swedish

from hotflanks

Thoughts on living with authenticity and striving to truly know oneself. I am speaking only of my own experiences in the hopes that it will resonate with someon who needs to hear this; I am not speaking out against anyone else's personal decisions. We all do what we have to do to get by, and it's all love. If you want to talk, let's have a convo in the comments to be open and truly authentic to the world.

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also, your posts will be reported less/your blogs deleted less if you do this, as people who don’t want to see them won’t be exposed to them.

if you do not to do this after seeing this post, you are now choosing to actively involve people in your fetish who do not want to be involved, and in fact some of the people who are at the most risk of being disturbed and harmed by being exposed to it.

an excerpt | read the full thread by eliza mondegreen

Let’s be clear about this: *No* healthy, open, supportive community seeks to terrify and control its members like this on such flimsy pretexts. These are the marks of a manipulative group exercising destructive influence over its most vulnerable members.

A healthy, open, supportive trans community would not look or sound like the trans community we’ve got. It would be honest about the risks trans people face, rather than wildly inflating those risks to instill fear.

It would foster resilience and self-sufficiency in gender-questioning youth, rather than telling kids that anyone who disagrees with their worldview hates them or that exposure to misgendering or dead-naming can lead to suicide.

A healthy, open trans community would accept that transition doesn’t work for everybody and that there are legitimate reasons to detransition and exit the community.

A healthy, open, supportive trans community would invite ethical research into transition outcomes and alternatives—rather than trying to shut down inquiry—because trans-identifying people deserve the best care available, not just the most ideologically-compliant ‘care.’

And a healthy, open, supportive trans community would encourage young people to explore their questions and doubts openly—recognizing transition as a serious undertaking—without fear of censure or expulsion from the group.

These toxic dynamics aren’t contained within the community either, spilling out into the public sphere whenever any issue that touches gender identity is discussed.

You deserve better than this. You are not wrong for having questions, doubts, or concerns.

an excerpt | read the full thread by eliza mondegreen

Phobia indoctrination instills irrational fears in members of a high-control group and uses those fears to manipulate members so they won’t question the group’s beliefs or try to leave. Here’s what phobia indoctrination looks like in the trans community:

Telling community members that anyone who questions gender identity or transition (even if from a place of genuine care and concern) hates them, ‘denies their existence,’ or even wants them dead. 

Pushing community members, especially naive children/young people, to cut themselves off from friends & loved ones who may question or contradict the trans community, or may simply fail to follow elaborate and bizarre protocols trans communities lead young members to expect. 

Creating the false impression of a trans murder epidemic, which binds members to the trans community & increases their fear of the outside world out of all proportion to actual risk.

Inflating suicide risk & presenting transition as the only alternative to suicide when it comes to dealing with gender dysphoria. This increases desperation to transition, suppresses questions or doubts a person may have, & pushes patients to conceal other issues from doctors.

Vilifying and attacking detransitioners as traitors and existential threats to the community, thus demonstrating to current members of the trans community *exactly what will happen to them* if they step out of line or—god forbid—leave.

Teaching community members to bury their own questions and doubts by labeling any uncertainty about gender identity, transition, or community dynamics as manifestations of “internalized transphobia” that cause harm not just to the individual but to ALL TRANS PEOPLE.

i'm glad you saw this blog, that's what it's here for :) i encourage everyone who wants to post/discuss detransition seriously to use the #detransition tag and schedule/queue a few posts if you have the heart, even if it's just reposting the same post repeatedly. additionally, please submit posts you've seen to me so i can queue them.