#detatchment

I’ve been thinking about detachment recently. Not the kind of detachment associated with emotional dysregulation or dissociation. No, I’m talking about a purposeful and well-intentioned detachment. Detachment from the outcome. In other words, letting go of that white-knuckled grip many of us seem to have on reality.

hii !! yeh detaching is such a struggle at times, but ironically, other times it’s scarily easy for me

and sadly, it gets easy to detach when i’m not trying to shift 😭 when something goes wrong in my cr life, i start living in my head, i stop being present and attune to my daily happenings

but when i sit down or lie down to shift, i become so consumed with all the negativity and it becomes hard to detach

anyway, enough rambling, my trick to detachment :

this won’t work for everyone but i saturate my mind with intentional senses

i’m extremely gifted at visualising, and i’m not trying to brag when i say this, but i am really good at it and i’m very grateful for that

i can close my eyes and genuinely feel as if i’m in my dr — so i use that to my advantage

now what is an “intentional sense”?

for lack of a better phrase, i “make up” senses, i convince myself that i feel something, until i do

the sound of the aircon is actually the waves outside of my window in my wr, the creak of the bed frame is bcs of how ancient the beds are in hogwarts castle, the car honking in the distance is from batman’s comms while i accidentally fell asleep in the bat cave while he patrols, like . do you catch my drift?

i give meaning for the sounds and the senses i feel, i put a story to it, i branch out into daydreams

and this helps bcs suddenly, it stops being abt detachment and starts being abt attachment, attaching to your dr, attaching to your life, attaching to your future — if you struggle with letting go, then don’t . instead latch on tight to your life, your actual life aka the life you’re shifting to

this is what works for me, and i truly truly hope it also works for you !!

You heal.

You take an intentional detox period from males and go in total celibacy for at least 5 months. No talking, no flirting and no entertaining males for any purpose. You're not going to use the time to just lounge around though; you're going to want to complete 4 steps.

Trauma work. You're going to deep dive into what's happened to you and how that affects your relationships as an adult. Get the books and get the journal going. What you face can be erased.

Confidence work. You need to find yourself because after all you've accepted into your reality you're a shell of the woman you could be. Level up, refine your style and social act and get comfortable with your self-validation being your main fuel.

Be fearlessly & intentionally alone. Stop accepting "good enough"-people in your life. Stop accepting friends or family that don't align with your values or dreams. Absolutely drop people that don't respect you deep or hype you up. Set boundaries; only love should get access to you.

Learn to vet a man. Finally, to find diamonds from a sea of rocks you have to be very clear and skilled. Your standards have to be as solid as your goal. Learn to drop males from the first sign showing they're not what you're after.

Submitted by Anon - thanks!

A: “It doesn’t bother me. Actually, now that I’ve detached myself from this whole situation, I don’t really feel much at all.”

B: “...that’s not healthy.”

A: “No?”