#deflecting

TW: mentions of strangulation (y'know the episode)

If anyone thinks I should add any other trigger warning to this, please tell me

i dont think mami tarot has read about that before? i hope you could, if you're up to it!

Hello! So I decided to do a reading on this subject and asked the cards how “guarded” he usually is and how much that translates into “deflection”. The first pull was The Hierophant, The Sun and Knight of Hedgehogs.

The Hierophant as the first card could point to “deflection” in a way that he is not showing his instincts, his passion, his “heart”, but rather trying to fit what others expect from him. However, The Sun means he actually does show his feelings and his heart and his passions, he makes them clear, they’re in the Sun, they’re not really that hidden. The funny thing is the Knight of Hedgehogs is a “worker”, he will work on this balance on a daily basis, slow and steady, and diligently, with resilience. It’s like he’s got both, the side of him that deflects and does what is “expected” and the side that is very honest and genuine, and he needs to work with them every day.

The next pull was the 9 of Spears, Page of Flowers and 10 of Spears. The 9 of Spears is the card of anxiety, and it’s such a common card in his readings. He really does seem to have anxiety issues, worries, and these feelings are always present in his readings. The Page of Flowers is again somewhat of an opposite, since he’s the adventurer, the explorer, the boy who is full of energy and excitement and who loves to try new things. This anxiety might be kind of mining some of this boy’s energy. The 10 of Swords could be pointing to him feeling overwhelmed and defeated, and the way he tries (or needs) to acknowledge his pain and suffering and move on, and he might know how important it is to release his attachment to these painful situations. I see it as him realizing he needs to let go of all this anxiety and pain so this Page of Flowers can be the explorer he wants to be.

The last pull was the King of Hedgehogs, 7 of Spears reversed and 4 of Spears. This King is the most grounded, stable, reliable King, someone you can count on and that knows how to balance his energy and attention between his money and career and his home life. 7 of Spears reversed points to him making an effort to come clean, to not be dishonest, to not play tricks to fool others. To be the King of Hedgehogs, he can’t be deceiving, after all, he wants to be someone people can rely on, to be trusted. And then we have the 4 of Spears, which represents the need to step back and recharge his batteries. When putting in this effort, he might feel the need to distance himself and isolate for a bit so he can regain his inner strength. You know those people who need to decompress after socializing for too long? That’s him. He needs rest from interacting.

Don’t tell a person to just “be an adult” about a situation they’re struggling with. Again, you’re not helping. You’re ✨deflecting✨

Don’t tell a person to do yoga or pray more. Well-meaning or not, you’re still ✨deflecting✨

Ask yourself why a person expressing their emotions bothers you, because if you’re ✨deflecting✨, you’re trying to find a way to ✨avoid✨ being emotionally vulnerable and that’s something I hope you get help for because, let’s be real, your go-to coping mechanism is just ✨repression✨and that puts you at risk at diminishing the value of your relationships and self-worth.

You have every right to set boundaries, being open with your emotions in your own time, and not bearing the responsibility of being someone’s counselor, but you can address the limitations of your services and abilities to another without ✨minimizing their pain ✨

You’re not being strong or being an adult; you’re just coming off like a dismissive 🌸🌺✨asshole✨🌸🌼. And if you’re fine with being an asshole, please...

💖✨🌺✨🌸✨🌼✨🌹DON’T FUCKING TALK TO ME 💖✨🌺✨🌸✨🌼✨🌹

I respect honesty, not 💖💖💖cunts💖💖💖