#dating again



Take it, baby. Whatever ya want

BITCH WHAAAAATTTTTT

Cause like how do I even explain that my type is “so-genius-smart-he-lacks-social-awareness”? That I’m immediately drawn in if he paints miniature figures, had an unhealthy relationship with Pokémon GO growing up, or knows way too many BTS anecdotes about Lord of the Rings? If he’s reading some obscure non-fiction about a long-forgotten philosopher, I’m like—oh, maybe he’s the one. That Dwight from The Office? Ideal man.

But what if I’m not my type’s type? What if my eager, overly extroverted, can’t-shut-up self is a huge turnoff? I do be yapping for hours about anything that excites me. And what if he hates that I scream-sing Taylor Swift while cooking? Or that I’m so basic I own a Hallmark Christmas movie-watching mug and start counting down to pumpkin spice season in July?

What if I can’t even find my type on dating apps because they’re either too anxious to be there or too disgusted by what I assume they’d call “performative online mating rituals”?

Or was my type already snatched up by wiser women in their twenties while I’m still figuring things out in my thirties?

I feel stirring

that lone butterfly

long gone in hibernation

lifting her wings

defrosting in January sun

or is it a tickle

in my throat

from the chest cold

I’ve been fighting

or maybe it’s both

but there’s a glimmer

or something

promising,

not empty but open

promising

not definite but curious

promising

to open me up

from within again

to stretch my roots

for nourishment again

to turn my face

toward the warmth

and to bloom

Someday You Will Be Loved: Affirming Your Adventurous Heart

In the early weeks and months of a relationship, it’s too early to predict lifetime bliss. [Well, it’s always too soon to predict that, actually.] But it’s not too early to be looking for signs of longevity and signs of problems ahead. What you don’t want to do, if you are seeking your lifetime partner, is get complacent about your search. Settling Is Not An Option We’ve probably all settled at…