#crush tips

It can be difficult to choose where to take your date, especially when your bank account is loving you at the moment. Here’s a few ideas that could solve this problamo!

1. A cafe ~ The most this date is going to cost is like $10, pick a cute place with chill music and yummy desserts you could possibly share!

2. Binge watch Netflix ~ picture blankets, popcorn, and cuddles. The original Netflix and chill.

3. Gaming ~ FIFA, C.O.D, guitar hero, Mario kart, whatever it is, its cheap AF and you will totally have bragging rights forever if you win!!

4. Biking ~ dust off the BMX you’ve had in the garage forever and ride around town together. Completely free and a ton of fun!

5. Swimming ~ if its warm enough, hit up the pool or the beach. It’s 100% free (thank you Mother Nature) and you get to see a whole lotta skin (also thank you Mother Nature).

6. Star-gazing ~ firstly, how romantic! Cuddling is the perfect time to cuddle up and relax, and to also give your bank account the night off.

7. A walk ~ the simplest of things, but one of my all time favourites. 

8. Picnic ~ its pretty easy to knock up a few sandwiches and drinks! Relatively inexpensive and totally adorable. 

Is it normal to like someone when you barely even know them? I’ve “liked them” for like a year. Like we were in a friend group together (who don’t meetup often) and only hung out privately once before, which was a bit awkward since I was so nervous but it was alright. However I still basically melt when I talk to them… and I got rejected when I asked to hang out like the past 3 times (but they sounded like they were geniuenly busy) so now Im too scared to initiate things, should I just try to get over it be real

hi sweetheart! this is mindyyy! ♡

i got your ask awhile ago (sooo sorry!) and totally get where you're coming from! it’s such a tricky, fluttery feeling when you like someone, especially when you feel like you barely know them. let's talk about it, because your feelings are super valid and real! and i dealt with this lol!

~ ♡ understanding your feelings ♡ ~

it is absolutely, one hundred percent normal to like someone when you barely know them!! like, seriously, so many of us have been there. sometimes, when we don't have a lot of information about a person, our minds fill in the blanks with all the sweet, perfect things we hope they are. it's like creating a little dream version of them in our heads, and that dream version can be super easy to fall for. when you only hang out occasionally or in a group, those brief moments can feel extra special and intense, making the crush even stronger. the "melting" feeling? totally a sign of a strong crush, even if it’s based on limited interactions!

~ ♡ the "barely know them" crush ♡ ~

this kind of crush can be really intense because it's often fueled by potential and imagination rather than deep knowledge. you've "liked them" for a year, which is a significant amount of time to hold onto those feelings! the one private hangout being a bit awkward is also super relatable because when you're nervous, it's hard to be your true, sparkly self. it's important to differentiate between liking the idea of someone and liking them for who they truly are. to figure that out, you usually need more genuine interaction.

~ ♡ when they're "too busy" ♡ ~

okay, this is a tough one, sweetie, and it's totally understandable why you're scared to initiate things now. getting rejected three times, even if they sounded genuinely busy, can feel really disheartening. while it's possible they were truly busy each time, sometimes "busy" can be a gentle way for someone to say they're not able to prioritize hanging out or exploring something more. it's a hard truth, but it's important to protect your own heart and energy. if someone genuinely wants to spend time with you, they usually find a way, even if it takes a little planning.

~ ♡ what to do next ♡ ~

so, should you just try to get over it? that's a really personal question, but here's a little break down on what i think you should maybe do (your choice!):

1. a final, super casual, low-pressure invitation (optional): if you truly feel like you need one more try for closure, make it incredibly casual. something like, "hey, i'm grabbing coffee at [cute cafe] on [day], no pressure if you're busy, but if you're free, it'd be sweet to catch up!" this puts the ball entirely in their court without you feeling like you're chasing.

2. shifting your focus ~ gently ~: if you've tried or decide not to try again, it's okay to start redirecting your energy.

explore new connections: spend more time with friends who do make time for you. maybe join a new club or activity where you can meet new people.

self-love and self-improvement: focus on your own passions, hobbies, and growth. when you pour into yourself, you glow even brighter!

observe, don't pursue (for a bit): if you're still in the same friend group, try to just observe their interactions with others and with you without the pressure of pursuing something. sometimes, seeing them in a different light can help.

3. acknowledge your feelings and let them go: i'm not telling you to "get over it" as if your feelings were wrong. i'm saying acknowledge that you had a beautiful, intense crush, but for whatever reason, it's not progressing. allow yourself to feel a little sad, but then gently guide your heart towards new possibilities. you deserve someone who is just as excited to spend time with you!

~ ♡ mindy's little secrets ♡ ~

my little secret is that sometimes, the most loving thing you can do for yourself is to let go of something that isn't reciprocal. your feelings are precious, and you deserve someone who makes you feel wanted and valued, not constantly nervous or unsure. it's okay to put your peace first! <3

gentle hugs, mindy x