"When a woman gets thirty messages from a pursuer and doesn't call him back, but then finally gives in and returns his calls, no matter what she says, he learns that the cost of reaching her is leaving thirty messages. For this type of man, any contact will be seen as progress. Of course, some victims are worried that by not responding, they'll provoke him, so they try letting him down easy. Often, the result is that he believes she is conflicted, uncertain, really likes him but just doesn't know it yet."

"Stalking is how some men raise the stakes when women don't play along. It is a crime of power, control, and intimidation very similar to date rape. In fact, many cases of date stalking could be described as extended rapes; they take away freedom, and they honor the desires of the man and disregard the wishes of the woman. Whether he is an estranged husband, an ex-boyfriend, a onetime date, or an unwanted suitor, the stalker enforces our culture's cruelest rule, which is that women are not allowed to decide who will be in their lives."

brooo looking at modern times and also history it’s crazy how lesbians are demonized but trans men are just like wiped off the board. like the guys with tits are totally invisible-ized… and then trans women are othered as the “third gender” across cultures, with Oaxacan Muxes, Indian Hijiras, Native American Two-Spirits… like sorry native americans to take a jab at you but I can’t deny that it bears a resemblance to other world cultures… Māhū in Hawaii and Tahiti, fa’afafine in Samoa, fakaleiti in Tonga, something in Maōri, several tribes in Africa…. wild. I’m just thinking about how many trans men in history were forced back into the closet to become mothers, or killed, or passed but had to live completely stealth… trans women are “hyper-visible” (because misogyny turns women into objects and spectacles) and trans men are disappeared…