#boundary setting

🪨 — what pronouns and/or names do you prefer?

🌪️ — what type of asks are okay and which ones aren't?

🍃 — are you fine with (online) physical touch? If so, what types are you fine with and not?

🪴 — are you fine with direct messages through Tumblr and/or another app?

🪵 — is discourse allowed on your blog?

💧 — what topics should stay off of your blog?

🌴 — are you alright with request asks?

🍄 — are you alright with constructive criticism?

🌈 — what types of discourse should stay off of your blog?

🌺 — is (joke/romantic/friendly) flirting okay?

🍂 — is requesting to be your friend okay?

🪹 — is roleplaying on your blog alright?

🏔️ — what type of jokes are okay on your blog?

never feel too bad to block a hypnotist if they disregard your boundaries.

the first boundary i set with a hypnotist was that i refuse to send pictures of myself to people i don't really know because no matter how well we know each other, we're still just strangers on the internet. he installed a trigger and then tried to use it to get a picture out of me while i was under. i never snapped out of trance faster. when i stopped replying for a few moments because i needed to pull myself together, he said it was 'just a joke'. i don't know about you but this is not a joking matter when your subject is in a trance. when your subject laid out their boundaries for you and you cross them the first chance you get. i didn't even reply again and just blocked him.

so don't let people shame you for protecting your peace! the only mistake i think i did is that i didn't tell him how fucked up it was to use it only a few minutes after i set that boundary before i blocked him.