This is the year of creating new standards for how people show up for you. You’re creating a new standard for what you accept. Let that man be who he is, but not with you. Raise the bar. You are no longer a women that allows bottom of the barrel treatment. When men come around you they need to come correct, and that is the standard you get to set. You hold that power. There are no tears this year from men hurting you, and leading you on because you’re not even allowing space for those type of relationships to be entertained. You are wise. The bible says be wise as a serpent, but as innocent as doves. Stop playing dumb. You already learnt these lessons. You know better. Use your wisdom. Be crystal clear on your boundaries, so when the next man (test) comes along you already know your weak spots, you already know the repetitive lesson that keep showing up, and you’re ready to step up your game. But of course you want it to be easy, you want it to flow. But that's the energy that’s allowed these men to trample all over your heart, and guess who's left picking up the pieces? The cost is too high. Those months, years, even lifetimes wasted on toxic relationships because you didn’t learn how to set boundaries. It started with your conditioning, it started with the abuse you had to endure and accept. But that season has past, so now it’s time to re-condition yourself. You have the power to do this, to re-programme. Understand what you will allow, and what you will not. Study your past relationships and where you slipped up. Because you WILL be tested, and until you pass the test you will be stuck on this hamster wheel of being involved with men who are not your peace. Practise how you want to feel. Practise feeling those elevated emotions, practise the feeling of safety in a relationship. Of being with a man that consistently shows up for you, practise the feeling of having a man that supports you and wants to help you. How does that feel? Do you even know what that feels like? This is the work. You dive deep into yourself, into your blind spots, so they can no longer blind you. You become the wise serpent. You show up better, because what is the alternative really? Another year of sleepless nights because he’s not messaging you back, another relationship where you are over pouring and feel drained? This is not the energy. This is the year of change. This is the year you become the rose with the thorns.
