#cherid

Also, not all transharmful identities are caused by trauma. some people just use them for fucking fun! like myself, i identify as a transcheater because of something silly and stupid! i used to e-date in a roblox game called gacha online and i would have multiple partners, and that was fun to do, so now i identify as a trans cheater.

Assuming that all transharmful identities hurt the being using it is also, you guessed it, harmful. someone could use them to accept a part of themselves, which is a good thing.

And another thing, you are again, assuming that we are ashamed of who we are. i am very proud of my identity and every experience that shaped it. Saying "I am not against transharmful people" then making us out to be ashamed animals who cant control ourselves is contradictory.

Here are some of the comments to share more people opinons:

apparentlyaperson "in response to this bit "Transharmful people finding community seem to helped relieve some shame of having intrusive thoughts. But choosing to make such a thought a part of your core of who you are could prevent you from healing from the trauma by cementing such thoughts. I encourage you all to get help with such thoughts. I believe with letting such thoughts pass could allow getting better."

that fundamentally misunderstands my relationship to transHarmful identities.

I spent my ENTIRE LIFE up until my 30s trying to hide away and pretend my negative thoughts didn't exist. it wasn't until I accepted them as normal parts of me and stopped fighting them that they got better and stopped taking up such a large part of my identity.

the assumption that we just need to ignore the negative parts of ourselves to "get better" is so fucking hurtful and toxic positivity"

sparklemanxox "It sound cool and all but the whole excluding transharm and the whole 'must be xyz' is a bit… unsettling to say the least. A huge part about these identities are to say that you dont need approval from others to be yourself. 4 Denies that. 3 directly excludes identities that would otherwise fit, so is the entire point merely to say we're like transids minus those bad ones?. 2 and 1 are things that can very well be used to exclude others in the community, such as with things like "but you cant transition to that" or "that doesnt affect how youre perceived in society", those are both fairly subjective experiences. Having a label with these necessities may lead to unintentional exclusion rather than solely building a space for "normies". Whilst I beleive its awesome to have a label for more "normie" identities, and dont wsnt to force yall to use transID, it would likely be safer to teach people why transID includes more normie ones!"

For context, the post was mostly coining a prefix, "cherid" here is the coining "criteria"

"Cherid Coin Cherid: short for cherished identity is a term for those who are switching to a differing identity than how they are societally perceived. It is for those who genuinely identify as such. These individuals may or may not have dysphoria.

To be cherid the identity must meet the following criteria:

Can be transitioned to

Effects how one is societally perceived

Is not based in a desire to harm oneself or others

Must be approved by the cherid committee"

Ok. Now this is way worse than just being anti transharm. Having criteria for an id ignores the fundamental aspect of it being an identity. also, who the fuck is the cherid committee?? Imagine having to have your identity approved by a """"committee""". it takes 1 grudge for this to completely fall apart.

The reason most transid coins have vauge descriptions or include "however the user see fits" or something along those lines is because these identities arent strict boxes. they are to be shaped by whoever uses them.

I used to really like this site but this is genuinely disgusting. You are claiming you arent excluding anyone but you are.

and you know what? to spite you terf, im REcoining cherid.

Cherid (Cherished Identity)

can be 2 things

An identity cherished by the user

An identity used because of someone the user cherishes (like amorid)

CAN BE ANY IDENTITY. NO CRITERIA.