#changing your perspective

how do you get over someone who won’t ever love you back?

Hi nonny,

First I want to say my heart goes out to you during this time of heartbreak. I've been there, time and time again. That is the price you pay for loving. But it is better to love and be hurt than to never love at all.

My very simple advice for you, and for anyone else who needs it, is to start listening to Lizzo.

I'm dead serious. Music has saved me from dark places, has been there for me when I hit rock bottom. The music you listen to can change your attitude and influence your thoughts. When you aren't getting the love you need from someone else, you have to learn to give it to yourself. And Lizzo is who I turn to for that.

Start with Good as Hell, and listen to every word; let the rhythm move through you, move you. Let Soulmate embrace you, sing along, and say the words to yourself in the mirror until you believe it. And remember that you're Special, in case nobody told you, I'm telling you—no one else's feelings about you dictate your inherent worth. This is a reminder for you, when you need to hear those words, they're here.

It might not feel like it right now, but you don't need their love. All the love you need is right there, in your heart, waiting to be felt by you. So remember your worth, it's About Damn Time.

With love,

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Changing your Perspective and Adapting

Albert Einstein, the German-born theoretical physicist who developed the theory of relativity has been credited and often cited as saying, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.”  This quote has been used in countless arguments to persuade others into gaining a new perspective in the way things are currently being done.  It usually…

The Significance Of Diplomacy And Lights In The Dark

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If of a couple pieces of bread are mouldy, do you throw out the whole loaf? Do you ignore the mouldy bits and consume it anyways?

Take things out of the broader context due to desperation, making decisions out of dire necessity, rather than from a calm consideration of our own best interests.

Well, now, I suppose that would all depend on how…

If you haven’t already figured it out, the keys I’m referring to are keys to happiness! These are the things that I have discovered in my 18 years of living, that I want to share with all of the people who come across my tumblr. 

The first key is to tackle your insecurities. I personally believe that insecurities are the root of all evil. I can only speak from a teenage perspective since I haven’t experienced adulthood just yet, but insecurities seem to play a huge role in adolescent lives. I mean think about yourself, and your relationships. Everybody knows somebody who “talks shit”. Someone who is quick to judge others. Someone who gets extremely jealous. Someone who pushes their friends away. Someone who blames their problems on everyone but themselves. Someone who picks apart their physical appearance. Someone who never peeps in class or even someone who must have all eyes on them 24/7. At some point in our lives, we have all been through most, if not all, of these phases. All of these nasty habits are driven by insecurities. Think of the most perfect person in the world (your mom, your best friend, Beyonce etc.) Believe it or not, even they have felt insecure or insufficient before. We all have! And these feelings cause us to behave in ways that only add to these feelings! We can’t tackle our insecurities over night, but we can start by changing our perspective! which ((un)coincidentally) happens to solve the vast majority of our problems, and is my overall number one key to happiness! If you ever find yourself to be trapped inside of your own mind and thinking negative thoughts, take a few seconds to follow these steps.

1. Stop yourself

2. Recognize that the way you’re thinking is not positive or realistic, therefore, it will not help you in any way. 

3. Replace your negative thought with a positive thought. And stick with it, whether you believe it in the moment or not! 

Your Perception Will Define Your Reality

One of the most frustrating things that you will encounter as an entrepreneur or as someone who is working towards the realization of your dreams is the inevitable failures that you’ll run into along the way.

However, the way you perceive your problems will determine how you tackle them and ultimately overcome them.

I’m the first to admit that I like things done quickly. I envision changes in…