Jonâs apartment complex is nice, very few, but expensive cars in the parking lot. I barely get out of the car before heâs already at my car door with that soft smile and the to-go box of our cheesecake.
âReady?â He has his free hand out for me to grab.
The walk to his apartment was short, heâs only a few doors down from the entrance. He opens his door and the smell of leather, sandalwood, and maybe cleaning products all hit me at once. His apartment fits him perfectly; a loft apartment, the bed on the upper level with ash gray bedding, very minimalistic kitchen right under the loft, wooden kitchen island with two stools, and a brown somewhat torn couch. The apartment has an industrial vibe to it, one wall is just brick while everything else is either wood or metal.
âItâs not much, but itâs enough.â He says it with a humble smile while putting the to-go box on the island.
âIt looks like a lot to me. Itâs really nice.â
We both take a seat at the island, Jonâs legs are facing me and open as I keep my legs together, perfectly in between his. He just looks at me for a second, his eyes soft as always.
âIâve been meaning to ask, what's that tattoo mean?â
âThis one?â I ask as I extend my arm. I have a âF.A.M.E.â tattoo on my inner elbow.
âYea, that one.â He tentatively reaches his hand out, his thumb gently caressing the tattoo.
I smile, âForgiving all my enemies.â
âDo you? Forgive all your enemies?â
âItâs there for more of a reminder and less of a statement, but I try. I definitely do try.â I look at his hand on my arm, then at him. My heart is so heavy with the truth, I have to tell him. âI have to tell you something.â
âYeah? Whatâs that?â
I refuse to look at him now, Iâm looking at the floor, out the window, at my arm, everything but him as I speak softly. âI, uh. Iâm.. not an alcoholic. I never have been, hell, Iâve never even drank alcohol.â
âYouâre joking?â His eyebrows are furrowed, his hand is slowly falling from my arm.
âNo, Iâm serious. I made a promise to myself at 13 to never drink.â
âSo.. Why the hell were you at the meetings? For fun? To get off on peoples fucked up lives?â Heâs upset now, understandably so. His hand has fully retreated from my arm, heâs looking around in anger while trying to make sense of my deceit.
I can feel my eyes starting to sting. âNo.â I sigh.â To save you a sob story, my mom was an alcoholic and it.. made life harder for me in a way. I didnât drink on my 21st birthday just like I said I wouldnât but that didnât bring me the closure I thought it would. Nothing has. So I thought going to the AA meetings would, I thought theyâd help me understand her better.â
âSo that bullshit that I should tell my ex-wife that I'm not drinking anymore is because that's what you wish your mommy would do?â His voice is condescending, mean, and angry as he stands up, looking down at me.
I look up at him, my eyes red, and the hurt from his words visible on my face. He takes a deep breath, runs a hand over his face, walks toward the counter where he leans forward, his back turned on me.
âI know I shouldâve told you earlier, Iâm sorry. I just didnât see a reason, I guess. I donât know, I felt bad about it by the second meeting. I asked Dan and he said it was okay.â
âAnd Danâs opinion really matters here because youâre at his apartment after going on a date with him.â
I just sigh, heâs right.
âLet me tell you something,â Jon turns around to look at me, his arms crossed over his chest. âThat night you said you werenât in your mind? I thought you relapsed, I thought this girl that stood out to me, that I felt this sudden attraction to and interest in was letting me in.â He drops his arms to his side âLook, I get we havenât known each other for long, but when I told you I never loved my wife, you didn't think that was a good enough time?â He scoffs and sighs, shaking his head. âI told my story to everyone at the AA meetings, yeah, but because that's the only place I wonât be judged for having a problem. You invaded that. I thought whatever story you had was so fucked up you were ashamed to tell anyone. No, you just didnât have one. You were using the vulnerability of everyone in there to fix yourself and that's selfish. Therapy is for when you need closure, not a sacred place for other people to finally tell their stories.â
A few tears have rolled down my face and Iâm biting the inside of my cheek as I look at him, trying so hard not to just shut down and leave.
âI didnât know you thought I relapsed. Iâm sorry. I shouldâve told you, youâre right and Iâm sorry. I didnât think when I went to the meetings that Iâd find someone that I liked so all the plans I had went out the window and I had no clue what to do by then. I was worried that had I told you earlier on this wouldnât have gone any further.â
Jon mumbles âdamn rightâ under his breath. That was all I needed for me to not talk anymore. There's an uncomfortable silence.
Jon nods his head toward the untouched to-go box. âAfter you finish that you can leave.â
âI donât want that. Itâs all yours.â I stand up and wipe my face, I still havenât looked him in the face since I decided to tell him.
The walk to the car was just me crushing my bottom lip between my teeth, refusing to cry. I pull out of his parking lot so quick, just wanting to go home. I speed home, no music on but I barely noticed. My thoughts were a lot louder than any song I could play right now. All I can think about is my need for closure and to understand my mother, Iâm trying to find that everywhere but her.
Back home I skip a lot of my routine and just get in bed, no drawn out showers, no scandal, no diet coke. I open my texts with Tila.
Kayla: Heâs so mad at me. It was bad.
Tila: Iâm sorry. You okay?
Kayla: Iâll be fine. I barely knew him anyway. Better to end it earlier on I guess.
Kayla: Bring mom to the next dinner.
Not much longer after she sent the text she started calling me.
âWhy do you want her at the dinner?â
âBecause Iâve tried everything but talking to her. I havenât had a true, meaningful conversation with our mother since I was 14 and right now, I just need to understand. You said she isn't drinking anymore, so I donât see much of a problem.â
âI donât think youâre hearing yourself right now. And when I said she wasnât drinking I meant more of a, she isnât getting drunk drunk.â
âOkay, well, tell her we have dinners on Sunday night and Iâd like to have a conversation with her. Goodnight.â I hang up the phone and force myself to go to sleep.