#calming exercise

Anxiety can feel like a storm within, leaving you overwhelmed and in need of relief. While it’s crucial to consult with a mental health professional, incorporating calming exercises into your daily routine can be a valuable complementary strategy. We will explore some effective calming exercises for anxiety that can provide comfort and support. The Power of Calming Exercises Calming exercises…

I don’t trust folks who want me to feel calm before I feel safe.

I've spent much of my life appearing calm, pleasing and appeasing, and feeling powerless. When well-meaning folks encouraged me to talk deep breaths with long slow exhales, I dutifully went along as best I could even when it was difficult to breathe.

The calm they promised almost never arrived, and the experience often reinforced what I already knew — I could survive their good intentions like everything else, by going along and doing what was expected even though it didn't feel safe. What looked like calm was actually dissociation.

We humans require some level of safety before our nervous systems allow us to be at ease. A long exhale is a beautiful thing when there's enough safety to sink into the experience of calm. Without safety, however, trying to feel calm is putting the cart before the horse.

I never felt truly at ease until I discovered the calm after a primal roar, the quite strength after harnessing my aggression, and the safety that only ensues from moving into and through fight/flight physiology.

I don't think I've ever successfully taken a deep breath that resulted in me feeling calm before I felt safe. However, I've come to appreciate how my lungs naturally expand after escaping to safety and the spontaneous sigh of relief that flows easy after neutralizing a threat.

Perhaps there is a shortcut, and we can breathe our way to safety. Maybe I wasn't trying hard enough or doing it correctly. In my experience, my nervous system didn't need slow easy breaths, it needed to feel strong in order to feel safe, and those breaths were quick and forceful inhales and exhales.

Before achieving this sense of safety, deep breaths felt forced. From a place of safety, they come more naturally as a result of trusting my ability to defend and protect myself.

Each person's journey is unique and there are many ways to be human. I'm offering my experience as an alternative to what, for me at least, was an unhelpful focus that prioritized calm over safety.

5 Benefits of Teaching Your Horse to be ‘Patient’

In my business I teach horse people the Key Lessons, Your Key to Success in Equine Positive Reinforcement Training. One of my ‘keys to success’ is Key Lesson Patience. In this blog I will share the purpose and benefits of this basic exercise.

What does Key Lesson Patience look like

Your horse aligns himself next to your shoulder, stands with 4 feet on the floor, keeps his neck straight and he has…

Edited: Friday the 20th of April 2018

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When the sun’s out, it’s always time to take advantage of the good weather especially in England. As the weather is ever-changing, it might be sunny today but rain in an hour or the next day. So, I went out and did a bit of nature photography. Plus, flowers have started growing back too.

It’s also good for you to get the time out in the sun. It has many benefits for you, for example, it provides us with vitamin D and it creates a sense of overall calmness. It feels nice to feel the rays on your skin😍

The images were taken at Alexandra Palace in London, England.

Here’s a slideshow of the pictures taken:

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Take a look at the other photography pieces on this blog: 

#Photography: A Trip In Sight 🏙📷

#Photography: Rainbow Walls 🌈☀️🌞

#Photography: Light Nature Shot💡🌲

#Photography: Waterloo Walking 🚶🏾‍♀️🌃

#Photography: Somewhere Through The Branch 🌲📸

#Photography: Full Moon Shooting 🌝

#Photography: Canary Wharf 🌃❄️

#Photography: Barbican Strolling 🚶🏾💦

#Photography : Static Streams💧🔮💦

Chanda D

Image source: chandademiphotography 📷

I’ll be sharing a couple of photographs I’ve taken.

I am one of those people who enjoys seeing a good view because it’s pleasing to the eye and brings a certain type of peace to the mind. The ambient sounds contribute to the experience as well.

It has been recorded appealing scenery has many positive benefits for the mind, body and soul. It provides a refreshed feeling because your main focus is observing everything around you. It is a lot to take in at once, so it gives you the chance to explore.

I’d recommend taking time out of your schedule just to appreciate the good surroundings around you.

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Check out the other photography posts on my blog: 

#Photography: The Sunny Stroll – Flowery Style ☀️💐📷

#Photography: A Trip In Sight 🏙📷

#Photography: Light Nature Shot💡🌲

#Photography: Waterloo Walking 🚶🏾‍♀️🌃

#Photography: Somewhere Through The Branch 🌲📸

#Photography: Full Moon Shooting 🌝

#Photography: Canary Wharf 🌃❄️

#Photography: Barbican Strolling 🚶🏾💦

#Photography : Static Streams💧🔮💦

Thank you for taking the time to view the images☺️

Chanda D

Edited: Friday the 20th of April 2018

Hi🙋🏾‍♀️

When the sun’s out, it’s always time to take advantage of the good weather especially in England. As the weather is ever-changing, it might be sunny today but rain in an hour or the next day. So, I went out and did a bit of nature photography. Plus, flowers have started growing back too.

It’s also good for you to get the time out in the sun. It has many benefits for you, for example, it provides us with vitamin D and it creates a sense of overall calmness. It feels nice to feel the rays on your skin😍

The images were taken at Alexandra Palace in London, England.

Here’s a slideshow of the pictures taken:

This slideshow requires JavaScript.

Thank you for viewing the shots☺️

Follow me on the socials: Instagram |Twitter

Take a look at the other photography pieces on this blog: 

#Photography: A Trip In Sight 🏙📷

#Photography: Rainbow Walls 🌈☀️🌞

#Photography: Light Nature Shot💡🌲

#Photography: Waterloo Walking 🚶🏾‍♀️🌃

#Photography: Somewhere Through The Branch 🌲📸

#Photography: Full Moon Shooting 🌝

#Photography: Canary Wharf 🌃❄️

#Photography: Barbican Strolling 🚶🏾💦

#Photography : Static Streams💧🔮💦

Chanda D

Image source: chandademiphotography 📷

Date entry: Sunday the 18th of March 2018

Spring is here, so expect multiple rainfalls. I caught this one on the 16th of March. Rain was falling out the drain in the next house, so I thought it would be cool to capture it on camera. It was something unusual, because it was moving at a different pace and speed than the rest of the other rain shower. It was kinda like someone was throwing a bucket…

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(Excuse the lack of photography, this was a spur of the moment thing. I’ve added an emojis to make up for it😂😅)

It’s 23:58 as I start writing this

I gathered the breeze would give me a kiss

These are the times you’ll skip the less favourable song on the disk

A touch on the right spot relieves stress

It would be enviable to not give night time a miss

The covers wrapped around you with a perfect…