#break ups

- 𝚕𝚘𝚟𝚎 𝚎𝚕𝚒𝚣𝚊𝚋𝚎𝚝𝚑 𝚜.

To love in a way that is unwavering. To love even when circumstances or feelings may lead one to wish it would fade or lessen. To love someone even if you’ll never see them again.

I keep seeing kids in their 20s going through break ups, and I ache for them. The pain is so deep, and feels so real, so...important. No one really seems to talk about this, and it's never included in romantic advice. So if you're young, if you're in the throes of a break up, or in a relationship, here's what I've learned, and what I wish I knew. I'm 56 years old. I have been in probably around a hundred romantic relationships in my life. Yeah, I'm relationship georg adn shouldn't be counted. What I'm saying is I've been there, done that, and I own the tshirt concession. So I really, truly know what I'm talking about. When you're young and going through a break up, all those giddy butterfly in the stomach hormones crash and burn. When you fell in love, it was all sunshine and roses and unbelievable highs of emotion. Now, it's all the same but in reverse. No one has ever loved like this. No one has ever felt this pain. You will never love again, never be loved again. Your one true love is gone, and your future is nothing but misery, pain, and unbearable loneliness. At least, that's what your heart is telling you, what your body chemistry is telling you. You are going to wallow. You will write unbearably bad poetry. You will write so many posts about your pain and the betrayal and the overwhelming loss. Your pain is real, and it feels like the end of the world. The pain is exquisite. The main character-ness of it all is all encompassing. What no one tells you is...it will pass. More quickly than you can imagine. It will become more and more difficult to truly feel that pain and betrayal, the more time passes. It gets dulled with repetition. It gets...boring. And it will vanish in an instant when you meet someone new to love. And you will. And every time you love, it will feel like the first time. And every break up will feel like the first break up. You're not going to believe me. You think I'm making fun of you. You think that maybe it's that way for me, but you're different...your love is real and it's true and so is the pain. And it is, love. It really is. It's real and it's true and it's important and it's all encompassing. And it's also fleeting. I promise you, every single one of us has been there. We have all experienced it, all felt that pain. We have all felt like we were the only one to ever have truly loved, and no one could possibly understand. You need to know that all that is entirely true...and it's also absurd nonsense. This experience you're dealing with is a human one. If we experience romance, we've been there. I'm not telling you this to minimize your experience, to tell you to snap out of it or anything like that. I'm telling you to let you know that this pain is transitory. That media lies to you, because it makes a great story. There is no one true love. You will have so many loves in your life, and each of them will be different, each of them will be true, each of them will feel like the first one. The only 'true' love is the one that both partners build after the butterflies are gone, after the roses and the swelling music and the violins have stopped. I didn't find mine until I was 42 years old. You may find yours sooner, or later, but if you keep trying you will find it. You will create it. Your pain is real, and it matters, but it is truly not the end of the world, the end of all love. There's a real love out there for you...maybe several of them. Don't give into the despair. Don't give up on love. Don't give up on yourself, or your future. Just know that there's infinitely more love out there for you. This was not your one true love, because there really, honestly, is no such thing. Don't believe the movies and stories. Don't believe the marketing. You are not unloveable. You are not going to be alone forever. There's so much more love out there, and it will find you. Don't give up. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------- https://ko-fi.com/idiomagic