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Synastry in the 12th house

…Can make two people secretly afraid of each other. They can be intrigued but also afraid of the depths the know the other person has. Things may go unexpressed between two people especially if Mercury is in hard aspect here. It can also cause misunderstandings. Someone’s Mars in your twelfth house will cause you to sense an animalistic sexual feeling coming from them or you may feel these feelings towards them but don’t know why. At its worst, you may feel like there is something aggressive about the other, but you really can’t place it. It may be an unexplainable, aggravating, and uneasy feeling. Someone’s moon here may feel like the other person has a deep understanding of you on an unconscious level giving. It may make you feel eerie or give you inner peace. 12th house also rules the spirit world so there can be an other-worldly feeling or telepathic insights between people with synastry in this house. Neptune can touching the Sun or the Moon can also indicate parents who might have substance abuse issues or alcoholic tendencies.

Aries Mars’

….Need to be careful not to expend so much of their energy during sex. They are prone to going balls to the wall *no pun intended* that it may be over rapidly. You all need to either find someone who is okay with multiple rounds of quickies, or they need to do solar plexus chakra work. They can learn to control their urge to get to their climax at NOS-aided speed. If they don’t get things under control and reel it back a bit, they run the risk of leaving their partner unsatisfied.

People with Venus in Aquarius

…Or Aquarius touching the Moon or Venus in hard aspect or Saturn/Uranus touching Mars or Moon in hard aspect, do not like to be touched. They like their bubble. They dislike PDA and can be awkward when it comes to physical affection. The ones who give the “weird hugs”. They like distance between them and others. However, these people can also be very good dancers since Venus is about Art and Mars is about action, and Uranus is all about sudden “breaks”. Dancers with this placement can bend and break their bodies however they see fit. Mars in Virgo can also be excellent dancers, especially in regimented forms of dancing like Ballet, or rhythmic gymnastics.

Libra placements and Taurean placements

….Are by far the most affectionate in terms of physical touch. Especially if in the 4th, 5th, or 7th. They are ruled by Venus and the 2nd house which rules the material. Things that are very much about the senses. They can have oral fixations. These people love having sex. Natives with Mars in Taurus [particularly men] will enjoy “eating” their partner out. Perfumes that smell nice, music, food, anything that sets an ambiance. They love massages. They like holding hands and making out. This will be especially true if any of these placements.planets fall into the 5th, 7th house, 4th house, 8th or 11th house in harmonious aspect.

Asteroid Sado

…is all about abuse and pain, if touching Saturn it can make one prone to cruelty or people can show this to them. They can also be very good at torture tactics but regimented since Saturn is about discipline. Pretty sure the folks running Guantanamo have this placement somewhere in their chart.

Saturn conjunct Algol

…Can make someone have a very high pain tolerance because Algol is also about pain and Saturn is about time.

Saturn opposing the moon

…Can make people struggle with fear of intimacy. They can completely avoid it. The good thing is when in opposition there is still the ability to balance. An opposition is just an imbalance, there needs to be equal reciprocal to keep things level. Natives with this placement need to remember it is okay to be vulnerable. They may do well having friends who are older. They need to overcome their fear of getting close to people. Not everyone will waste your time.

When someone's Priapus

…. is touching one of your personal planets or vice versa there will be an uncontrollable desire to merge with them. If it’s mercury you want to delve into their minds. If it’s Mars you want to fuck them constantly. If it’s Venus, you’re dying for them to love you. If it’s Jupiter, this is intense and buckle up. The urge to mate with them will be exacerbated. Also, watch out if this guy falls into the 8th house or when he conjuncts Black Moon Lilith.

Believe it or not, Capricorn placements

…Are the best in regard to knowing how the body operates.

Especially if it’s forming a harmonious aspect to a sexual planet or to Pluto/1st or the 8th house. Capricorn is about time and wealth. It is also an earth sign so they are very in touch with the physical. When this placement is messing with Mars or say, one’s Eros or Adonis, or whether these asteroids are in Capricorn or Lilith in Capricorn, they can be cold publically but a machine in the bedroom. They will typically like things on the rougher and more indulgent side of sex. They take their time and are extremely penetrative when figuring things out  *no pun intended*. They will decipher every movement, micro-movement, action vs reaction, and store it in the earthy archives of their minds for later. They’ll never forget. Mars in Capricorn can also be seen in the charts of many personal trainers.

Capricorn placements with Pluto in the mix

…Often become Doctors; specifically surgeons or morticians. Especially if Saturn rules 8th house, Midheaven in Scorpio, or Mars in Capricorn placement in either of these houses. Capricorn Venus’ can often Marry for money or have marriages based on political ambition. Arranged marriages can be seen here or a general formality in regard to love. Again, we’re dealing with the father of discipline energy so Capricorn Venus can be reticent to show love. They kiss you while you sleep, but show toughness while awake.

Capricorns also have a very strong psychic ability.

…Hear me out. Since Saturn is the Seagoat, he straddles both earth AND water. The Physical and the Spiritual. People with strong Saturn placements can often experience dreams that have strong karmic attachments to them. Past Life regression etc. Dreams of catastrophic events or dreams of court case outcomes. Especially if Saturn is in or ruling 12th house or the 8th house.

Taurus Venus

…Will purposefully and actively pursue their partner when they really want them. So if a Taurus Venus person isn’t giving you the time and attention you want, they may not be fully committed or interested in/to you. However, if this same Venus is opposing or squaring the native’s Pluto it can make them shy and secretly obsessed but withdrawn in demonstrating it. These are the people who can be in love secretly but never say a word. The ones who can orchestrate secret affairs for years and no one would be the wiser. Remember, 8th house is what’s hidden and forbidden and venus is about love.

Mars square Venus

….When flirting will poke fun at the object of their desire. They will see if the person can keep up with their banter. They’ll throw digs to see if the other can give it as good as they get it. They may also create drama for attention. Love just doesn’t feel right without passion and fire. They can also attract people who make scenes or bring drama into their lives.

An Unaspected Sun

…Can make one enigmatic or someone with aspects of themselves that will be hard to figure out. They may even be hard to remember. There will be something Neptunian about them. They sort of fade or blend into the background.

Lilith in the 3rd house

…May make a native addicted to writing. Particularly unafraid of writing about darker things. Taboo subjects. Even erotica. Lilith in the 6th house and the 2nd is a placement for many sex workers.

Mars in the 4th house can indicate military lineage or “army brats.”  While a Sun inconjunct or square to Uranus can indicate a father who is brilliant/a genius or a father who “split” early in a native’s life.

Gemini’s

…Actually like to show off more than Leo’s. But Leo’s show off less than Cancers. Cancers cry less than Pisceans but Pisceans can actually be some of the harshest people when angered. It is because they are ruled by Neptune, a water planet. In mythology, he is also known as the “Earth-Shaker”. Seas get violent too, people.

Contrary to popular belief, Virgo’s can actually be very messy.

Yes, messy, not dirty, there is a difference. As stereotypical as this sounds, they prefer clean sex and are the types to do it in the shower. As for the “messiness”, They of course will know where everything is but their mercurial energy can make them throw things here and there as they run around trying to get 10 things done before breakfast.

Mars and Juno

In synastry can indicate a couple/marriage that will be very active physically.

Mercury in aspect to Aquarius

…Or an Aquarius stellium can make people out of the box thinkers. The people will be inventors. The ones who create things you didn’t even know you needed. Things like the pop socket grip that goes on the back of your phone or 0 calorie carbonated water. Uranian placements can also be seen in people who are Asexual or conversely pansexual.

Contrary to popular belief, Mars in Scorpio

Yes.Here’s why.

Midpoints are basically 3 planets’/points energetical relation to one another in hard aspect. This is written as: A = B/C

A metaphor:Picture yourself as a child between both of your parents. Being in the middle, you were greatly affected by the quality of their interaction [I.e were they loving or aloof towards each other?  Did they fight a lot or were they indifferent towards each other? Etc.] In the same way, a planet in the midpoint of two other planets [aspects] that are more powerful [i.e. that have slower orbits] will be greatly affected by their interaction.

In this case, the Venus [A] is sitting in the middle of the hard aspect [conjunction, square, opposition] of your Rising [B] and Pluto [C]. 

Jupiter, as well as your Moon in your Natal chart, can show your addictions just as much as Neptune can. Jupiter is about excess and your Moon is your emotional state. Where one feels comfort or how they process these things/emotions.  Mercury placements or Mercury Dominant often make people great lyricists and communicators. Many famous rappers are actually Gemini’s (Notorious B.I.G, 2 Pac, Kanye, Kendrick, Andre 3000, etc). That's because Gemini is ruled by Mercury/the god of communication. He also rules the lungs. People with this dominance are very good with wordplay and are blessed with the gift of gab. 

Your Sun is still important

...despite modern astrologers attempting to throw it away. Your sun is your core. Your ego. Your basic identity. I’ve said it once and I’ll say it a thousand more-- we are heliocentric as a galaxy. This means all our planets orbit around the Sun. The same goes for your natal chart. Say you have a Gemini Sun and Capricorn moon but seem to identify more with Capricorn-- Your moon is your emotional habits-- and you know what they say about habits: they’re hard to break. This simply means you will always be a Gemini at your core even if you have the emotional tendencies and habits of a Capricorn. The same goes for those who say Lunar Scorpios are more ‘Plutonic’ than Solar Scorpios Now, it may seem that way, but this myth is only prevalent because emotions are extremely primal and powerful things. When they rear their head in a Plutonic way, people mistake the intensity for dominant power when in reality more drama does not equate more scorpionic influence. In fact, Scorpio’s are rarely the types to put on a show. They leave that for their Cousins-- The Cancers, The Arians [also ruled by Mars] & the Pisceans. True Scorpios prefer to be the tacticians. The ones who quietly observe their surroundings and flex when it comes to spatial awareness. They will rarely draw unnecessary attention to themselves and emotional scenes will often be kept under lock and key/private.

Speaking of Scorpio’s cousins, believe it or not, Aries, Sag’s and Cancers are the true divas of the zodiac, not Leos. That’s because Leo’s are upfront about what they want and will not surprise you with their scenes.

You know what’s coming/always knew it was there.  As for the aforementioned three, these triplets demand attention and praise or notice from others. Aries demand to be noticed for their prowess and skills, Sag’s can be excessive and demanding-- they want what they want and they want it NOW. No questions asked. Fueled by fire and Jupiter’s penchant for drama--you will never forget it if you don’t cough up what they demand. I.E. Nicki Minaj and her Grammy stunt[s]. Cancers give ultimatums to expedite the process of getting what they want. They are hard-pressed to demonstrate patience for people or to wait for situations to play out. They are never about the long game. They can be very coercive and forceful. At their worst, they can even be bullies. Of course, this is not the rule, I often find that December Sag’s, are more intense than November Sag’s. April Arians are less high strung than March Arians and July Cancers tend to act out more of the ‘diva qualities’ mentioned above than June Cancers.

Pluto is your friend.

Yes, the shadow is your friend. Pluto often gets a bad rap for being this torturous unknown force that comes to destroy/transform but that is not the case. Pluto is all about transformations, yes but transformations for the better. He is the garbage man. He gets rid of the trash. Toxic relationship? Ok! Pluto will rip it from you. It will hurt. You will cry. But after you’ve used up all the kleenex, you will have spidey senses. You will see those red flags before they and their cheap cologne darken your doorstep. You will level up. And while you’re doing that, Pluto will let you watch as he terrorizes your abuser. Pluto is justice. Not like Libra where all is fair and balanced by the scales. Pluto is Karma. Karmic Justice at that. The equalizer. He will show you the ugly of all those who wore the mask of ‘friend’. See, Pluto gets nasty rep because he forces you to see what you’d love to ignore. He makes you feel what society tells you to be numb to. Euphoria, Obsession, jealousy, bliss, even paranoia. Pluto is the depths. You need to feel. Jealousy is not an ugly emotion, ENVY is. They are not synonymous but people use them interchangeably. Pluto can be jealous, but jealousy is simply the sensation that something important might be taken from you. Envy is seeing someone have something, and hating them for it/not wanting them to have it. Pluto is not envious. He rules the underworld and in his realm live all of Earth’s riches. Gems, diamonds, gold, jewels. He is the wealthiest-- what could he possibly be envious of? Paranoia is equated to him too, but this is simply an exacerbation of his skill at being prepared. Pluto is a GENERAL. He wants you to have a PLAN. And when you don’t he forces you to get one, whether you’re prepared or not. Pluto is Chess, not Checkers. Pluto is the bandaid ripper. Pluto's love is cold and hard but empowering. He exposes. Shows the ugly. Friend’s you weren’t sure were enemies? Pluto rips their masks off so you have no choice but to see their ugliness. You will be disenchanted. Maybe even heartbroken. But a moment of grief for a lifetime of healthy happiness is Pluto’s payoff. Pluto also represents in the chart the area where we can most empower ourselves and elevate our lives and our dignity. Pluto will disempower your just to elevate you and make your story of failure a story of victory. He’s the ULTIMATE glow up King. Pluto shows us where we can triumph if we find a way to revolutionize or otherwise radically transform/change ourselves internally, despite our external challenges. Plutonic cleansings are like working out or giving birth. Excruciatingly painful to the point where you feel like you want to die but the result is a whole new body/person you’re absolutely in love with. He is purging.  Again, Pluto is about evolution. He does not and will not allow you to stay stagnant/in one stage of your life. He forces you to grow and if you won’t he has no qualms with making you. Pluto is not soft. 

Speaking of which. This includes his influence in the bedroom. Often people will talk about plutonic influence in a dark way. As if his influence sexually is something dark/forbidden or something to be ashamed of. Quite the contrary. Pluto rules sex. Literally. It was his domain before it was anyone else's’. Therefore, everything about sex is simply an offshoot of his influence. The rougher, primal, knee-shaking, back-scratching, neck biting, squirting/screaming orgasm, ball-gag wearing stuff? Completely ‘OK’ in his book. He wants you to experience that. The reasoning is that Pluto loves to explore and honor edgier sentiments within. Pluto urges us all to normalize fetishes and fully embrace this side of ourselves. Why? Because Pluto wants us all to live our truth, not hide. Can’t say the same for his brother Neptune though.

See, Neptune is who you should be worried about.

Neptune is the ruler of what is hidden. The realm of the unknown. All that is fantastic, the stuff of fantasy, illusions, dreams, day-dreams, etc. He puts a veil on things. Adds confusion to the mix. makes things hard to see. While Pluto strips away the hidden, Neptune happily puts on the blindfold. Not only does he hand you the rose-colored-glasses, he hands you a ruffied pint to go with it. The essence of this planet is ILLUSION.  With Neptune, it can be difficult to ascertain where and how things are working against you, or you have a hard time figuring out who or what it is. Neptune is about confusion. Neptune clouds your judgment, so you're especially vulnerable to deception and trickery. [Those with hard Neptune aspects can testify] Enemies can be especially difficult to make out/avoid when he’s involved and bad judgment all around can be a theme when he rears his foggy head.  What also makes him so dangerous is because he walks around looking like everything you want. The dream of dreams, if-you-will. As a result, he makes you receptive to mind-altered states. Can even make one prone to hallucinations, the use of poisons such as drugs and alcohol. Even spending copious amounts fo time building castles-in-the-air and neglecting reality. You become addicted to whatever he lays in front of you. The fantasy is more alluring than reality. With Neptune adversely aspected or too many hard aspects to inner planets, this can cause chaos that can negatively impact a native or those closest to them. Neptune on Mercury can be particularly dangerous if ill-aspected because it can cause dishonesty to a pathological degree or simply mental instability. Think Joe Goldberg from ‘You’. 100% crazy 200% delusional. This guy definitely has a shot a gallon of Neptune in his natal cocktail. Manufacturing scenarios that aren’t really occurring. Obsessively daydreaming and idealizing strangers. Successfully conning others into thinking he’s a normal and stable guy when he’s anything but. His judgment is clouded as is the judgment of the poor souls who encounter him, while you, as a viewer, watch in horror. That’s what Neptune does. You won’t see reality until it’s wayyyy too late [RIP Beck].  Neptune rules over all chaotic feelings, and can easily un-focus the lens, making us inclined to obsess over impossible dreams and yearn for far-out things. OMG Neptune is all about yearning. Yearning for the unattainable. But as Dumbledore said: 

“It does not do to dwell on dreams and forget to live.”

But that’s what Neptune will make you do. Forget to live. Dwell on the impossible. Make you prone to hypnotic mindstates that steal moments of your life away. Sex with Neptune can be almost spiritual but it can cause one to get addicted to the rush, and with Neptune clouding judgment, one can perhaps become addicted to sex or even participate in risky sexual behavior. Neptune at its worst also influences death by mysterious means, suicides, death by drowning, disappearance, or even poisoning if found in the eighth house or connected to it.

Pluto Retrograde

What is it?

Retrogrades [In particular, Pluto] are a time of reflection. They indicate when a planet’s energy begins is exhibited on a more internal level rather than an external one.

This year, Pluto goes retrograde in Capricorn from April to October. This occurs yearly for about 5 to 6 months. It appears as if it is going backward but it is actually stationary. When Pluto retrogrades, we are given an opportunity to dive below the surface and better acquaint ourselves with our deepest psychological and subconscious issues.

Because astrology is founded on the principle of as above, so below.

Layman’s terms? What’s going on celestially will affect what is going on terrestrially [people, places & things]. Pluto’s drive during this retrograde is aimed towards the internal as opposed to the external. This retrograde makes us reassess what we are doing to prepare for our futures. Retrogrades symbolize times of pulling back, re-thinking, re-evaluating, reviewing, and looking internally. Looking from within. Think of it as a catapult– we have to pull back before we can shoot forward. A retrograde is just that. Pulling back.

Pluto is also linked to power, control, and wealth, and riches so these are the areas that we are going to see highlighted whenever his energy ebbs and flows. Pluto is always the mirror. Our mirror. For better or worse, he will shine a light on what needs to be modified and transformed in our lives. That’s it. Pluto just reflects. It is our actions that determine the way we choose to go.

But I want to mention, not all retrogrades are the same.

There is this fear that ensues any time the word “retrograde” is used. Why? I blame this on the infamous Mercury retrograde. However, other RX planets don’t behave or have the same effect as Mercury Retrograde. The best way to understand the retrograde concept? Think about what the energy of the planet is and how it reacts in its opposite. For Mercury, the planet of technology, the lower mind, communication, and the plans and actions associated with that. When he does his backspin, all those things can literally go haywire. Mail lost, Your files being lost and irretrievable, texts from the ex, more arguments and misunderstandings. But for Pluto, the energy is about power. Power and the subconscious forces, secrets, toxicity, etc. Pluto is deep, volcanic, and transformative power. As a result, the effect he has on us can be downright Vesuvian.

As stated before, Pluto is our engine.

He’s the energy that hums in the background. He is our existentialism. Our deepest and darkest desires. And what happens with him and his energy is those desires within contemplate and stew until they’ve gathered strength, and then propel outward with the thrust of a rocket [You’ll observe this when Puto goes direct as well]. Don't be surprised if you see some of the uglier parts of yourself surface just so you can be aware. Your demons might come to the surface and you’ll have to make peace with them. Pluto is the reawakener. So as a result, change in Pluto’s direction will bring a change in attitude toward things relating to the dead, sex, occult, psychology, and spiritual beliefs. If Uranus breaks and Neptune dissolves, Pluto annihilates. He is an atomic bomb to Neptune’s fog/mist and Uranus’ lightning bolts. Pluto rules all the mysteries of life and the spirit world, both good and evil. you’ll have to find balance between those two parts of you during this period, and perhaps even with others. Pluto retrograde gives inner strength. He reawakens previously weakened parts of us, our bodies, our psyche’s, etc, so issues with your body, your appearance, or in general your sense of self might be things brought to your attention [Scorpio risings should probably pay attention to this]. Remember this is the sub-conscious and the planet of transformation we’re talking about, so intense and deep-rooted changes will be catalyzed.

In direct motion, this power is projected outwardly, but retrograde motion projects the power inwardly.

Make sense?

So, how will this affect you?

Force change regarding unhealthy circumstances or situations.

.Allow for a more Scorpionic mindset, i.e investigate problems/ track down the root cause of problems and observe issues that’ve been repressed.

Repressed emotions and other internal issues come to the surface calling for resolution.

The Truth coming out in more ways than one.

Working on obsessive behavior and compulsion.

The breaking bad habits and ridding yourself of addiction, patterns, obsessions, compulsions.

Feeling more withdrawn.

Being more observant.

Intolerance for wishy-washy behavior from others.

Spiritual downloads.

Ridding yourself of people and values that no longer serve you.

Remember: as above, so below.

This isn’t just the influence of the pandemic. Think about the past few months. Think back to where you were October prior. Where are you now? Are there any themes or even intentions you set that are manifesting somehow now? Are there things you need to pay attention to? Are there people/a person you have unhealthy attachments to? Things that are best left alone that you find yourself addicted to? There are many clues about what is going on within you and around you in the world that are linked back to the cosmos [i.e Saturn-Pluto conjunction earlier at the start of the year].

Lilith in Taurus

In Taurus, Lilith is irresistible. She is powered by Venusian energy [Venus rules Taurus.] In this placement, Lilith is sensual, seductive, and even a bit hedonistic. But remember, Lilith is EXCESSIVE dark female energy, so in Taurus, her love for the finer things in life could be quite over-the-top.

Natives with Lilith in Taurus ADORE sex. Not in the “hit- it- and-quit-it” way but wholeheartedly. Sex in all it’s earthy and grounded energy. Affection, kisses, foreplay, staring at you while they fuck you.

All that.

Taurean Lilith’s will do almost anything for pleasure; hence, it is their karmic duty to control their sensuality and possessiveness. True to Taurean fashion, they can be QUITE possessive. There can also be an insatiable craving for money and a hardcore tendency towards idleness. Might feel shame for their desires and self-indulgences or might feel shame for not sharing their possessions. I’ve found that these natives fluctuate between the two extremes. Hoarding or splurging. May find that their thirsts can never be quenched. 

Outer Planets in Astrology

The outer planets in astrology represent our unconscious. These planets complete their orbits very slowly. Sometimes their orbits take years. As a result, they are considered generational. While the inner planets tell us about your personal characteristics, the outer planets symbolize our place in the bigger picture of the world.

Jupiter [ruler of Sagittarius] Expansion. Faith, optimism, generosity, philosophy, luck & abundance. However, the shadow of this planet when taken to extremes can contort luck into delusion—or abundance to Greed.

Saturn [ruler of Capricorn and Aquarius] Restriction. Conviction, concentration, caution, karma. The edicts and rules we live by. Morals. Saturn is work first, play later. Saturn is cold. Saturn brings us down to Earth, encouraging us to respect the rules, establish healthy boundaries and reconcile our ideals with the practical limits of reality. The ‘antidote’ as it were, to Neptune’s influence and Jupiter’s exaggerative energies.

Uranus [ruler of Aquarius] Intuition/Rebellion. Sudden or sporadic insight, openness, electricity, the new, the mind, the unusual, inspiration, instinct, change, originality. Uranus acts like speed. He revs up our engines and causes us to act erratically. Sudden awakenings, disruption, and chaos; yet he functions to catalyze revolution--in all of us. These revolutions can be uncomfortable at times. Typically introducing us to truths... welcome or unwelcome.

Neptune [ruler of Pisces] Extrasensory. The transcendental.The [thin] line between reality and fantasy. Dreams, visions, the paranormal, mystical, supernatural, escapism, delusion. Neptune symbolizes the future as seen through the lens of our dreams and fantasies. Neptune dissolves what he touches. Neptune is about the dissolution of structure, the “gray area,” and the exceptions to the rules Saturn would typically place on things. The Escapist, the Daydreamer— the eternal rose-colored-glasses wearer.

Lilith in the 11th house 

This placement typically puts an emphasis on friendships since it’s in the 11th house is the realm of Uranus and Aquarius, Lilith in the 11th house feeds the desire of being different and unique, which can even lead to provocative extremes. And with it being Lilith there can be some intensity and even some negativity involved.This aspect can complicate the native’s group activities. It can be hard for them to express themselves amongst people/peers/groups. Usually, it’s connected to the memories the native has from how they were treated in groups during their adolescence. This native typically might have felt judgment, malice, hate or jealousy from other children in educational institutions. They might’ve been the black sheep or the scapegoat. The pariah. The alien and even the rejected one. So, as a result, his subconsciously influences the way the native perceives others and these experiences in their adult life. There might always be a fear that these experiences will occur in adulthood. Wounds that never really heal. This can create a strong drive to take symbolic revenge. Again, since this is Uranus’ house, this can lead the native to become a member of off-beat or out of the ordinary subcultures, concerning one’s clothes, music, and lifestyle. This style is definitely something absurd for the average people, which will see the native as awkward. There is a high possibility that such a person’s friends have also their Lilith in the 11th house. Social outcasts and loners, which have experienced the same fears and traumas, tend to blend better with people of their own kind.Once they’ve found their ‘tribe’ as it were, the Lilith in the 11th and in Cancer is protective of loved ones, wants to nurture others and feels best when her needs are nurtured by others. There can be a strong dependence on the mother which denies the loved one the opportunity to learn how to be self-sufficient. Also, people with this placement may come off as shy or introverted, emotional or overly sensitive when it comes to sexuality. The truth is with Lilith here, sex is not just sex--it is an intensely emotional experience and they need their partner to want to connect with them. Lilith in Cancer/4th House can come off as a motherly type lover. There is a tendency to go overboard in satisfying her partner's needs. on the other hand, if her needs are not being met by loved ones (either in the bedroom or elsewhere), the native may feel abandoned or neglected. From what I’ve observed, there's a certain “restlessness”  or there may have been this attitude with the mother in regard to [her] children, which may increase if a nurturing sign like Cancer is on the 11th House cusp. Lilith in Cancer can also be something of a "toxic mother", although it may simply suggest a woman who wisely decides not to procreate. This person can also have a tendency to project large emotional demands onto friends [11th house], and may end up feeling betrayed by friends who find it difficult to cope with the pressure being placed on them. [Side bar: not trying to hurt anyone with this analysis, just have to be honest]. A native may even have a friend who embodies Lilith. Marriage to a “friend” or a “friend with benefits” could occur. Lilith has a lot of seductive traits and characteristics--giving strong sexuality to the individual’s friendships. Such a placement can easily give “friends with benefits”, and a sexual atmosphere can and typically will be always present in the native’s friendships. Ultimately this native needs to embrace their oddities. Once they found balance they can use them to propel their ambitions very far in life.