SOS- SavingOurSons
I just want my son to tell a woman what it is and what it ain’t when it’s time to date around.
To hold the door for a woman, or an elderly person. To speak to everybody when he enters a room. To hold his head high and be kind to those who are kind to him. Best believe I pray strength over him too when he gotta’ knock a nigga head off cause I know that’s coming too.
I have eight brothers and none of them ever jumped on me or disrespected me like I ain’t shit. And his daddy ain’t no disrespectful type dude. So why would I expect that out our son? People play all the time saying my son will be a player, but I laugh it off cause in the back of my mind I’m not goin’. AT ALL.
Why?
Cause I had my heart broke before and it DOES NOT feel good.
Ladies, it feels good to know your son is handsome but we have to make a concentrated effort to educate our sons on how a woman moves for real.
Day in and day out, I see so many of us talkin’ about how ‘men ain’t shit’ but then turn around and don’t give our sons the room to show they too have emotions; don’t be quick to jump down their throat for crying! WE ALL CRY.
We don’t educate them on a woman’s body so they think natural things like periods are disgusting.
We don’t tell them how to really treat a woman when they get of age.
Then we wonder why they grow up and can’t keep a woman or they bringing home just anybody.
We would have sooooooooo many lasting marriages and relationships if men were brought up to at least TRY to understand a woman and how she thinks.
So ladies...can we make a concentrated effort to stop complaining about what GROWN ass men (who are set in their ways) are doing and put that effort into educating our young Kings?
Ain’t nothing like a black man but there’s NOTHING like a GOOD black man. A TRYING black man. Most of all, and UNDERSTANDING & RESPECTFUL black man.
Let’s normalize telling our sons about periods too when their puberty begins.
Let’s normalize telling our sons, “Would you like if a man was treating me the same way you treating that girl?”.
Let’s normalize telling our sons that housework and chores ISN’T solely a woman’s job. And I’mma tell my son if that’s the set up you want for the lady of your life… pay for her nails, her hair, and her extracurriculars since you wanna be her daddy so damn bad.
Ion’ care.
Bet you I’mma have a successful son with a beautiful wife and gorgeous grandkids one day.
But the end goal we should have with educating our sons is building back up the black family.
